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Originally Posted by StiofanDerry
Thanks for the advice Faulty  . The funny thing is that I really like this girl and I genuinely am planning to see her again in December. I actually even intend on having her coming to live with me in Pattaya when I move there in February. I normally get fed up very easily in relationships but it's different with this girl, and if I tried to finish with her before I think it is more of a reflection on the way I am rather than her, but I've thought about and have decided I'm going to give it a go with her. She wants me to go to Korat in December and meet her mother and I've reluctantly agreed, but I'm worried she's starting to get ideas in her head because she keeps talking about marriage, and my friend marrying a girl from her bar isn't helping either (see my post "Dowry.") The times she cut herself I felt really guilty because I had started rows with her just to have reasons to finish her, and she's the first bar girl I genuinely believe when they tell me they like me. I've read most of the Stickman site to the point where I've become really cynical of everything and actually regret having read so much rather than just taking stuff for what they are. Btw in July she told me she was on the Pill so I didn't need to wear a condom, then on the last day, out of curiousity, I told her that I hadn't seen her taking it, to which she replied "I don't take it with you." That gave me a scare I can tell you. I have asked her how much she would need to send home to her family if she comes to live with me in Pattaya and she said 3,000 baht which I find acceptable, especially as her father is "in the temple" whatever that means (monk?). |
If she cuts her wrist and makes you feel guilty twice, then I think that you are in for very bad trouble if you go further in the relationship with her. I feel sorry for a man so young to get caught up in this sort of thing!
There are so many better things for you to fill your life with. There is so much living ahead of you. Do not get caught in the guilt trap. I am not saying that she is not a very nice girl. Probably she is, or you would not be so fond of her. But this will be an unhealthy relationship for both of you. The future will hold more of what the past has been.
Only my opinion. And I know that when I get caught up in the emotional relationships with BGs, then it is easy to get lost in it, and not to see the forest for the trees. Easy to ignore the things that I do not want to see, and to make excuses for a girl's bad behavior.
That is why it is easier for me to tell you. Or for someone else to tell me, when I am caught up in the wrap of emotions.
The past repeats itself. And the deeper in you get, the harder it is to extricate yoursefl. She gets crazier, and you get guiltier. A downward spiral, and where does it end?
Whatever happens, I wish the best for both of you, but I don't have a good feeling about your realtonship, and where it will lead for either of you.