[jimholio]

I got back home. And the "Phuket-info" therapy time started, whining this and whining that, not sure about anything. Jelous about this and that and all the time i was getting texts and emails with pictures of her which didnt make it any easier at all. I couldnt realy sleep the first week, i wake up 4.00 in the night and sleeping an average of 3 hours per night. But at this time thats all i wanted, just so that i could call her and see so that she was allright with everything. She said she was looking for new jobs in phuket but that she missed her son realy bad and wanted to go back home. I asked her if i should send her some money so she could go visit her boy but she didnt want any money.

I told her that she didnt have to lie to me about anything. If she go with other men ofcourse i dont like that, but i cant do shit about it anyways so i told her to just be honest about everything and i realy thought that she was. She told me about every man she went with, it didnt feel good at all to hear it but i prefered that before "Im a good girl now, i work in restaurant" Never once did she ask me for money. And then all of a sudden after allmost 2 months she said she had realy big problem now. And she had to go to Singapore with a guy to make money for her mom to pay for the bank. I realy hated that, i didnt say anything tho. She said i will send text to you if i can but she didnt. I guess roaming SMS didnt work with her card.

So she gets back home and she asks me if i could send her just a little money And i did, i believe i sent her about 10.000 Bath. Not that much money but she was realy happy with that. Now i start to get texts from this guy she was with down in Singapore. Alot of texts, and also texts from yem's phone when the guy took her phone and removed my number, or thats what she said anyways. Then she goes back home for a while, to see her family she now starts texting me again, and say that she hate that guy for deleting my number and for sending texts to me. And that she will never talk with him again and that she only cares about me. But she had to do for her family.

I guess i bought it all, stupid as i am. But being a first timer in a relationship like this nothing is easy realy. I was making big plans for her to come here, and she knew about them and as i understood it she was realy excited about it too. I was halfway there today. I was actually about to send her the documents she needed for the Visa. Then i get another text from that guy, saying something like Yem is here with me now, naked in the bed. can you please stop sending texts to her. I actually thought he was just being jelous as he had done that before too, while she was back in Kalasin, I know for a fact that she actually was in Kalasin when he text me the first time. "Is it cold in Sweden? its alot warmer here in bed with Yem" But i was actually talking with her when i got that text so i knew that was all lies.

But today, i got the same shit again, only thing was that it wasnt lies this time. Yem had text me earlier that she said finished everything with that guy and he had asked her for everything he gave her back. "Cellphone, money etc etc" and she said she would give it all back to him. I text her back. "Why would you give back gifts? he gave them to you they are yours to keep"
So a few texts later i figured hell id call her just to see if she's realy playing me after such a long time without asking for anything. And as i was calling her i get a text from that guy "Now you are calling her and she says nothing about me" And he was right, she said she was with her brother. I said no you are not, you are with that guy now, but its ok. She says "Why you know?" I said because he's texting me all the time letting me know. Now she was in a realy bad hurry, "Sorry i have to go, have to do something important" Then i get a text from her, 15 min later, that said, talk to you tomorrow 3o'clock Thai time, I text her back, No we'll never ever talk again.


I got a few more texts, now she wrote, how much money you give me? i give all back to you, and to this guy too. I didnt realy want any money back as all i had given her was 10.000Bath and i figured a ****** has to be paid too.
I text her, I dont want anything more from you, never text me again. I guess she didnt want to lose face or something like that. But i dont realy care anymore. I will have loads of fun when going back to Phuket instead, and a hell of a lot less drama. I talk with the guy too, and he's actually a nice fellow and i told him that if she can trick me she can trick him too and told him to be very careful, and he agreed that he will.

I guess the point is, you can NEVER be sure, even if you think you are 100% sure about what they think or want you will most likely be wrong.

I wasnt realy open for all the advices ive got so far from the BM's even tho i realy wish that i was. So i guess i have to end this thread with a very good advice myself. And that is, listen to the advices the BM's gives you, never follow your heart when it comes to this kind of relationships, I wish that i would have used my brain the first time i asked for advices. Instead of following my heart. I guess thats it.

Please dont see this thread as another whine, today i woke up from a 2 months long love coma, and it actually feels good. And im sure that in the end i wont regret anything.