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Originally Posted by Bafana
Geir, Thanks for sharing mate...
I know this is a bit of track but it reminds me of my own story.
My last Expat placement was in Botswana, Africa and I got married to a 9.5/10 black african girl. When we were in Africa everything was Ok with her as her family was there and kept her on a tight leash so as not to let me slip under the radar. Plus she had a daughter that I really cared and loved as my own so I married her against the advise of nearly everyone I knew...
When I meet her she had asked me for money for her rent and clothes for her baby so I guess I should have seen the warning signs. And then again maybe not as love is blind.
I moved with her and the bubba to Singaopore and not less than two weeks in her true colours shone through - She started going out during the day and coming back late - She got herself a boyfriend and started buying new clothes and the likes. I was still pretty broke as Singapore can be expensive to set up in and I had been earning African wages for the previous 2 and a half years...
I thought bright lights and all so I tried to get a hold of the situation and gave her a lot of chance - a year and a halfs worth to be exact because I loved her and because of her daughter who called me Daddy.
But like all these things greed was the killer and she kept at - I found hidden bank accounts with tens of thousands of dollars in them, she had been FL to other Farangs and the local Chinese in the Orchard Towers - I knew she was up to no good as some weeks she would not come home for four nights a week. She even bullshitteed me into her going to Malaysia for a week with her "school" friends to find out she had gone with one of her boyfriends - This happened another time with her going to LOS with a different boyfriend...
Anyway I am unfortunately one of the most stubborn people I know and refused to give in - Refused to admit I had made a mistake and kick her to the curb. Even set up marraige counciling sessions to try and get her to see reason.
Then around Christmas last year she said she was visiting her home - I found out from her daughter who went with that she was actually staying in a five star hotel in Botswana with a German guy who she had hooked up with in Singapore...
Well that was enough and I turned the house upside down looking for evidence to get me out of this hell hole of a situation without having to pay Alimony and Maintenance. I found it - two weeks before she left for home she had had an abortion without me knowing about it - Sad to say I had not been sleeping with her for over a year as I knew what she was upto and did'nt want to get a disease and/or get her pregnant and make getting out harder - I knew it was'nt mine and upon closer inspection I found a credit card payment slip attached to the hospital reciept from one of her known to me boyfriends...
That was that - I took advantage of her not being in Singapore and cancelled her Dependents Pass and set the lawyers on the attack.
She is now in Botswana having spent most of her cash on her family - These extended families can rip through money like no ones business and even the new car she bought is now wasted as she crashed it by her own fault and she did'nt have enough sense to get insurance. I suppose if you never actually work hard for money you never know to protect or look after it - Easy cash is spent in a flash...
So Geir, thanks for sharing mate - Different country but similair experiences with a third world bride...
These girls seem to have no sense of time and when they have a good thing going for them. I know some out there will say that it not their culture, but that is BS as many local girls make it good, have happy families with their farangs and never get up to this sort of carry on - And yes, I am talking about ex BG's. From experience it seems the older the BG is when they convert to Nice Girl the better the odds are that it will work out as they have been stupid before and know where it will all end for them...
Maybe now that I have shared a bit the other board members might understand why I am so bitter towards long term relationships with women and why I have emersed myself completly in the pay as you go play boy scene of SE Asia...
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Yes I remember you told me your story over some drinks in Mai Thai Bar for Songkran. I wonder if these girls ever regret waisting the opertunety of their lives. My stupid x-girlfriend call me sometimes crying and asking for me to forgive her. I tell her to **** off and to think about what a great life she could have had. Instead she is getting humped by an old nasty coustumer for small money.
