I must say I think I've enjoyed this bit more than most..so thanks Eric for starting it...Drunk as you may have been you hit a nerve of sorts.
I have been with a Thai woman for 3yrs, I was married to a falang women for 13yr before she passed on, I myself would never be with another western woman...not long term anyway. Someone posted the exact reason, there is pride that Asian women seem to get from being good women and being spoiled is most men's idea of heaven, I for one am constantly reminding myself that life is good and I am a lucky man.
Now, there are complications from the culture difference, but I've learned to not put my ways as the only way. Is the importance of family not something we all want?
I most certainly believe there are too many pitfalls for the average man to allow himself to get too involved with a bg, friends...sure....F**K buddies...absolutely, but long distant relationship...its not even good with a non bg so you have to think.
There is no secret way or golden rule for us all to follow, we each have our own ways of looking at things, don't you guys know that the bar girls have there outlook on things... We are both using each other, for one reason or another but make no mistake each of us has our motivations....be it a hard on or a poor family to support.
As to what happens to old bg's, well what happens to old engineers?? we might have a longer working life cycle..but we do wear out. Don't forget we only think of something as being normal if that is what we have grown up being shown that its right and ok. Some return home to have a "normal life" while others go on to marry falang or otherwise, they just never talk about that part of there lives, the older ones keep it to themselves.
So I say enjoy life, explore if you are an explorer at heart, love more and hate less, in the end all that you have is the experiences you have had along the way, I think you will find that setting rules for yourself will only lead to having more boundaries and less fun.
I myself would not setout to marry a bg, but then I would never setout to marry a secretary or a teacher nor any other defined woman, I know what I like, I know how I want to be treated and what I will and will not accept, so if you choose to give do so with a smile, but with no expectations if you can't do that then be polite and say I simply do not have the extra to help if she is a friend then it will not be a problem.
Thanks for listening to my two cents worth.
