I think when the girl is so young and not a lot of experience as BG, it is different than with older or more experienced TG, altho some of those show a remarkable resiliency.
This is probably her first experience of falling in love with handsome, young, "rich" farang. You are the man she has been dreaming of. You can make her dreams come true, if it works for you, too. You have to know what you want.
As for money, if she has to work the bars, it is hard to say what will happen to her in six months time. Maybe she can handle it , maybe not. Still, I don't think that she'll be quite the same and you may be disappointed. IF she were willing to quit the bar and get a real job, pay her own way, and wait for you, that would say a lot about the kind of woman she is. But that is a lot to ask of her, because I'm sure that her Mom and Dad are expecting help from her. It is not an easy thing for falangs to understand, but in my discussions with BGs, masseuses, bartenders(men), and taxi drivers, the primary motivation of young Thais to make money is so that they can give money to their parents. If they can't do that, then they feel like they are big LOSERS.
IF she doesn't ask you for money, that says something about her intentions and feelings for you. But you might consider offering her 5,000 or 10,000 Baht per month to wait for you 'til December. With that money and a real job, she could do OK and still be able to satisfy what she considers to be her obligations. That is very little money to you. It is an investment. Maybe a risky investment, but a small one. It all depends on the strength of your feelings for her. You are probably wise to wait until December rather than make such a big decision based on a spring fling of short duration. But 6 months is a long time, and many things can happen.
To assess the risks, I suggest you read the thread "Thailady in Norway" by Geir, and also go to
www.pattayapages.com and read the section about a couple such as you and Par and what happened to them. To find that story, first click on "The Girls", then click on "Confusion" and you will see their stories. They interview each, and it is very enlightening to see both sides of their story. Also, I do not recommend that you read "Private Dancer", since it is fiction and told from an extremely cynical point of view.
Best of Luck. It is true that there always is another one, but she looks like a keeper to me. What can I say, I have a cynical side of me, which is what people usually see, but I am really a hopeless romantic at heart. I look at the picture of you and her, and thinkthat maybe you were "meant" to be together. I see two very happy campers in that pic.
JAYBEE
