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Originally Posted by JayBee
What I was told is that the reason that Thais believe it is a bad thing to touch a person on top of the head is that they believe that this is where the life force, or life energy enters into the body and where they are connected to what we might call God, although they don't because there is no God in Thai Buddhism. To put your hand on top of a person's head is to cut off the life force, or spiritual power from entering their body, which is, of course, a very bad thing to do, sort of the spiritual eqivalent of sticking a gag in a person's mouth and thereby cutting off the flow of oxygen, except that even then you could breath through your nose, but the life force won't enter through your nose. Even in the West, you wouldn't be received kindly if you went around putting your hand over people's mouths and blocking the flow of their breath.
As we sometimes say, "May the Force be with you." That is the force they are talking about, which is where George Lucas got the idea for his movies, by studying Eastern religions BTW. To put your hand on top of a person's head is like saying, "Here, let me prevent the force from being with you."
However, I think that it is a little different when making love, at least with the girls I have been with. They seem to understand intuitively the difference between a gentle loving caress and a careless gesture. To use the an*logy I used above, think of how different it is to shut someone up by putting your hand over their mouth, as opposed to, in a delicate, sensual way, tracing a lover's lips with your fingertip. So I wouldn't grab a girl by the top of her head or place my hand there in a way that was less than loving and sensual nor just put it there and hold it there.
One great night after lying in bed with a girl for perhaps an hour as we rested, then I began to caress her and kissed her on top of her head gently as I caressed her beautiful silky hair.  She responded with a very sensual, sexy sigh, and I felt her body tremble a tiny bit. I proceeded to kiss her hair and every part of her face. Eventually I worked my way to each part of her body until I finished by kissing her feet. When I kissed her feet, her breathing became heavy, she moaned ecstatically and tears came from her eyes, as she reached a sort of emotional climax. The rest of the night was fantastic.  |
On this subject, personally speaking I have never placed my hands on top of a thai persons head for the obvious reasons , nor lifted my feet over their heads etc...
I was slightly paranoid the 1st time i went with a thai woman as I like to express my feeling through sex and love to caress a woman in every way possible, including caressing her face while kissing.
I wasn't 100% sure at the time of this would cause offence but has never seemed to in my experience so i'm thinking that this respect for the thai's beliefs of not touching the head is literally meaning do not touch the top.
I also wondered if thai men caress the womens faces or is it just us farang ? Does anyone know anything about this? As it's not something you ever see due to thai conservatism in public places.
I think generally the thai women may understand it is the farang way of expressing emotion and feeling so may simply put up with it to keep us happy or it may be that they generally don't mind these kinds of actions as long as it is kept respectful.
1 lady i knew before liked me to kiss her many times in a row, either cheek first (on the face...i mean) and then on the forehead, always felt like i was paying respect to Bhudda when i did this.
