[JayBee]

Coming from the sex-starved USA, I used to be an eager and enthusiatic monger, who delighted in nothing more than taking a different girl every night or two. But there comes a point, when you realize that it is there 24/7, if that's what you want, and then it doesn't seem like a big deal quite so much.

At that point, it then becomes a matter of finding the right girl, who is one that I really look forward to hanging out with, having sex with, and just doing the normal everyday things that people do. More of a BF/GF type of thing. When I find one who is a good fit for me, then I am happy enough be with her, and don't need the variety like I used to. Technically, I am still a monger at that point, since I am paying her a per diem, and not a real bonified BF you might say, since when I leave, she is on to the next ones.

But I don't really see that as being a monger, which I define as a guy who likes to go with a lot of different girls, and doesn't want any kind of relationship for any length of time. A real P4P kind of guy with the one or two day rule in effect.

I am still a monger until I find a suitable girl, however. But it is not the same as it was before. I literally have to push myself out the door in the evening to go "mongering," and the point of it is not banging a lot of girls, but finding one who is suitable for a more lengthy affair.