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What would you do in this situation?
Although this is not related to LOS, the circumstances can be applied to any location.
I have enjoyed the company of one of my work subordinates for a number of months now (in fact i interviewed her for the position), although we never really shared a close working relationship, I developed a crush on her from the first moment I spoke with her in the assessment center, she basically meets all the criteria for my preconceived notion of the ideal partner.
When she advised me that she had resigned last week, I ask to stay in contact. Since then she has been to my place on a number of occasions and I have also taken her out to dinner. I would like to report that things have been going really well, but it has been a roller coaster of a ride for the past week... did I neglect to mention that she has a BF that she lives with! (I take no pleasure in this fact)
I know that we have connected on an emotional level, and have shared some very intimate moments together, when I met her she was in the process of applying for permanent residency with her partner, and has since subsequently advised him that she was not completely satisfied with the relationship and put those plans on hold.
The past week has been very draining on her, being pulled between myself and her BF. Last night she told me that she wanted to see if she could work things out with her BF (go back to life before all the complications), and that she could not do this if I remained in the picture, so she would have to cut off all contact with me. (we will speak one last time on the phone tomorrow)
The situation gets a little more complex due to the PR, her feelings of obligation to her current partner, and also pressure from her parents, her father has just been demoted and is planning to immigrate once she has held her PR for a set amount of time.
I am not to sure how definitive the decision that she has made is (she has changed her mind a number of times already this week), however this sounds pretty definitive. I really really really like this girl, more so then any of my past relationships or crushes (she is the first girl that I have ever really wanted to have a family with).
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