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Originally Posted by dennisinspain
You are seeking support for carrying on with this impossible situation,
It aint gonna come from anyone with any sense, you know you have to back off and let her sort herself out.
Emphasis appears to be on PR rather than a real partner.
Dr.Den
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Thank you Dr.Den, it is always great to get perspective from someone who has a PhD in some type of ology... 55555555
Her priorities have also concerned me as well. She called me last night after my original post and we talked about this. She is no longer pursing PR status at this point (she will not do this with her current partner until/if she is ready to make this commitment with him i.e. loves him).
She has made this decision based on her feelings of their current relationship, she advised me that I have shown her that love is important within a relationship, before this she was content with commitment and the fact that he loves her and cares for her a lot.
To provide you some gravity to the decision that she has made, she is currently looking for another job, as her work permit will expire in January. The reason that she is so indecisive ATM is that she is scared to lose her current stability, she does not have any family in this country, and her current partner is the first person to really take care of her. She is still very young (22 yo), and had very bad experiences with home stays when she first arrived in this country.
She is still very apprehensive about me, and is unsure as to whether I will make the same level of commitment as her current partner, or if my feelings and commitment will subside over time...
After our conversation last night, she also does not want to lose me from her life, and cares about me a great deal. so for now we are going to continue enjoying each others company... but sooner or later she will have a very hard decision to make.