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Originally Posted by marc26
for guys who are married
how do you draw the line with the family support?
i am not asking this question because i have a problem personally, just wondering.
ideally, your wife will work and make her own money
my gf's little sister wants to go work in the bar. she works in a factory now. i woudlnt want to see that but i am also not going to add her to the payroll
or a situation where her niece probably wont go to a good high school. i would want to pay for that.
but it does seem like things will always pop up
just wondering
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Good question and the line should be very clear IMO.
For us it goes as far as closest family. Dad and one sister taking care of all and the kids in the house back home.
The key here is once it's understood that money doesn't grow on trees here either and you have to support your own life and family, hopefully your girl will be with you on that line.
There have been a couple of requests which we have passed on and declined along the way, mainly to set a benchmark.
Having said that, I only can speak of my short experience, there might be a 1001 other circumstances for everyone else of cause.