[ATMwalking]

Your girlfriend should heavily filter this stuff. Ignore her/requests if she isn't.

If she tells you about the requests she blocked, make a big deal thanking her.

Don't get involved or even take an interest in every little issue, there will be an endless supply.

If there is a story where it seems like it is leading to an impasse where only your farang wealth could get things rolling again...act disinterested in the story. Don't offer or suggest anything. Don't let them just dump problems on you.

Build a plan in advance of what contributions you are willing to make. Stick to it and make it clear you are sticking to it. Then when the unforeseeable complications come up that suddenly require more cash, stick to your original plan and let them deal with what is available.

Help those that help themselves against a rigid set of criteria. For example there is one relative that I like and is doing ok in school but could do better. No one encouraging the relative to get better grades. So I've set a reward against an attainable academic performance level. I know my small investment over the next few years will eventually translate in multiples higher employment income.

Bonus upside it all shows you are generous, but in a way that suits you and in ways that are not too easy for the receiver. Basically in the thai mindset you get face and power.

My 2 satang.