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Originally Posted by wazza
My wife has always filtered out the requests for money, uses the theory that when she had financial problems people wouldn't help her so now that we have money why are they coming bluging off her. Her brothers have borrowed small amounts of money over the years always on the proviso that if it is not given back there will never be any more, so far it has always come back. The thing is to for the wife to make sure that they realise you are not a meal ticket, that if you can afford it you don't mind helping but the money must be returned.
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True emergencies happen - and we'll help out - hospital bills have been the most common - somebody about once each year - I guess the line would be drawn or questions asked if the "extra" support got over, say, 30 k a year.
We still give the family approximately the same financial support that the wife did when she was working in a factory's office for under 15,000 baht a month. I recently offered more but it was declined...the darkest motive I could put on my in-laws is that they are smart enough not to kill the golden goose...and then I think I'd be being unfair...they are just decent people who need help to survive in that society.
I am happy to be the "interest free" loan to the sister or brother provided it is paid back. The brother in law borrowed 30,000 baht to convert the car from petrol to gas and paid us back with the savings. The sister is doing her best to get pay off our loan that cleared her credit card bill. When they don't pay it back they won't see another baht of my money and they know it.
As to the culture of borrowing with apparently no intent to repay - the wife is still owed money by fellow workers, her friends of 10 years, who still give her BS stories and no repayments three years after she quit working there.
Enjoy.