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Originally Posted by LivinLOS
My personal feeling is that why cant the family get big face by putting a kid through a better school, getting a computer and phone line, investing in a local biz, hell even putting an extension on the house or something tangible.. 100k is well over a years wages for rural folk, yet they will be happy to piss it away in a 2 day drunken party with little thought for the future. Thats what gets respect in Thailand ?!?
Thats the kind of thing I am trying to change my own GF's ideas on.. That 'face' is attained through being smart with your money, and creating a base of power / assets.. But I am unsure how much really goes in.
Not trying to dig at you or your missus.. Just its the flipside of the 'sanuk' of Thais and does keep them poor.
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That's exactly where we put our focus on. We even didn't had our official Buddhistic wedding in the village yet. Her dad doesn't
want (nor requires) us to waste too much money for the whole village for this, we better invest this money wisely for more important
things, like the little kid we are currently getting over to Dubai.
I'm very pleased on the mindset of my wifes family. There's only one brother who's pushing her a bit, but she's very confidentially
kicking his butt.
We also have some talk around her nephew becoming a monk this year, but I haven't heard any mentionings for such large amounts.
Overall, and Frode10 knows and does it, if you are going to get married with a Thai and you informed yourself a little bit beforehand,
of cause we are prepared to shuffle over some money for these kind of things. They are important.
What I also find a very positive experience is her responsibility when it comes to money. I trust my wife completely and involve her
when defining budgets, income calculations etc. and we make our long term financial plan together.
She knows exactly what she has to do so we can archive this. Now she simply denies many of the requests she get's and says
...sorry, we have no money for this.
It's easier when she's involved and personally motivated than me just making a big secret around our income, which could falsely
let her believe it's an endless stream of a lot of "farang" money.