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Originally Posted by marc26
but why would i want my gf, who i intend to be with, live a shitty lifestyle?
should i be proud of myself by keeping her in a small room to share with 6 other people? or make sure she only has a certain amount of money in her pocket
you keep talking about these girls you meet in a bar, great they can get by on 6k/mo
i dont expect my future wife, who i have known for 4 1/2 years and spent considerable time with to live with no money. i also am not going to let her and her son go without insurance and i am actually proud that i pay her sons school, because it is a very good school
i waited until i was 36 years old to decide to settle down. now that i found someone i want to give it a go, should i just keep her poor until we get the visa we've been trying to get?
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No, you shouldn't. You are doing the right thing with the right attitude, IMO.
That's why I posted before, you are going to pay what you think it's worth paying for in your life. There's no actually number/limit,
it's all too individual to set a "going rate" or anything like this on it.
Then again, what's right after a 1 week holiday meeting compared to a 4.5 years relationship? That's just too much of a question to
answer, isn't it?
Anyway, I always believed everyone should carry their own portion of common sense with them and act accordingly.
If you're happy you're happy, sometimes it takes a bit of money and you get burned, so what! As long as you don't jump on the next
disaster as soon as you experienced it already, I guess it's all a learning experience.