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Originally Posted by petruccis_son
we discussed about 6 months before we were married that there was no way I was getting involved with anything of this nature, no way in hell… and she understood and took that on board and expected nothing less. But somehow it’s gradually creeping its way in. either way I am insisting that we 100% have nothing to do with it and she will just have to tell them that.
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Now heres the mistake..
You may have discussed it.. But she nodded and told you what you needed to hear.. all the while believing she had met her knight in shining armor who would always be there with ready cash to solve all her family woes..
Not being nasty now.. But did you really think that it wasnt so ?? Why ?? Just because your younger ?? For Thais 'love' is intimately linked with support. A failure to do one loses the other (or demonstrates you dont love her).
Sounds like you may not be in the right financial position for a Thai relationship.
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Its just my prediction that she’s gonna speak to her mum or brother on the phone, and then tell me what they have concluded should happen. She wont from her own mind tell them that we’re not paying for it, I know she’ll tell me and then let me make the decision (I just hope that she knows in her head already what that decision is! So there are no debates about it)
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She is going to do what her family tell her she must do.. Shes the girl, thats how it works, shes snagged the farang, they know the chances of it coming from you are much higher than any other source. They are far higher up her priority ladder than you.
How much have you kicked to the family so far ?? I mean you do expect to kick some sometimes right ?? You dont expect to meet a hottie in a bar, who was probably sending fairly regular small chunks back up the chain and just cut that off ?? Her ability to do that without working in a bar was one of the big motivations for her.