[LivinLOS]

Well yes its his right to refuse.. But its also her right to then wonder if she was right in heading off with a younger guy, maybe he is laying the seeds of his own downfall as she starts thinking about a few of those slightly older but more solvent guys she turned down when she chose him. Its complex.

For your situation you have your rules and you would shoot down a bozo request.. But you have also proved yourself, taken care of her and her kid, shown your the provider for the future.. If that hadnt happened in the past maybe she would feel worse about having her first 'important' (to her) request shot down so dramatically and without consideration. This is her family, the Thai connection to sharing wealth, and the daughters role as breadwinner, the 'payback' for having raised her are all at play here. Maybe she didnt take a sinsot based on the idea that as a young couple he didnt have much of a stake but would understand his role enough to kick in fairly often.

I am not saying shes right or he should immediately start the payments.. What I am saying is this is complex and the '100% putting my foot down' attitude kinda says to me that he doesnt really know what hes let himself in for with a Thai wife and his newly adopted 3rd world family.