I tend to agree with Nicke, you say she got the money on Feb 2nd and it's only Feb 6th now. Anything could have happened to interrupt her daily routine meaning that although she had been contacting you daily in the past, it may not be possible at the moment. I would suggest leaving it for a while before thinking that you may possible be the victim of a fraud. But even if that is the case, it is still not worth worrying too much about, after all you would not have sent the money if you could not have afforded it or didn't want to.
Try looking at it another way, you wanted to help her out and you did. Was there really any "strings" attached to your money ?? Did you really expect her to be in daily contact for the rest of your life ?? None of us like to be taken for a fool and if we believe that is the case then we get upset with ourselves, but we are also very afraid of the unknown and start to guess what has happened. How many times in the past have you been in a sitaution where you hadn't heard from someone and started trying to guess what had happened, only to subsequently find out and then realise that you had feared the worst ?? It won't be many times, but I would have thought that you have experience, I know I have.
Ultimately, you wanted to help and did. Now you must ask yourself what you really expected to get out of this. You did not state how you came to meet her and maybe you want to keep this private. There may be something else in the equation that has resulted in this sudden silence, like a boyfriend or husband !! If she has a boyfriend and he finds out what you have done, is he likely to be happy ?? I would imagine not and may have given her a choice, to carry on contacting you or stay with him, even more difficult for her if it is her husband saying that. There's lots of possibilities, but you have to answer the question for yourself. No matter what anyone else says, including her if she gets back in touch, it is up to you how you feel and what you believe.
If you had given a friend at home $1,000 to help him/her out, would you expect that person to call you everyday to say "thank you" ? Wouldn't it be enough to just be told "thank you" ?
I hope it turns out for the best and you her from her again, I was not so lucky.
Cheers
Diz
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Last edited by dizbusta : 06-02-2005 at 21:38.
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