I think you are so far up your own a*se its unreal (And funny)
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Anyway why dont you try places like Phi- Phi (Obviously when its rebuilt), Koh samui, Koh phangan and places like that where there is hardly any red light district and you will meet a lot of young guys who are just there to party and not to play with the BGs as you say
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I just dont get why you would choose to live in a place thats renowned for it???
PS: You could also try bars like Molly Malones,Scruffy Murphys and a few more bars around nanai that dont have BGs.
PPS: Why am I helping you again????