[JayBee]

Originally Posted by MisterFun

Marc26,
I am going to jump in here on the side of the BGs a bit, and IMHO I think you should give it a shot. I can tell you from personal experience relationships with BGs can and do work. It takes a lot of patience (on both sides), a lot of communication, and a good understanding of Thai culture.

This is my spin on life with BGs:
I could care less what anyone does or did for a living. We ALL have a past, and that is exactly what it is...the past. I feel it is all about who they are inside. To me BGs in general are wonderful, vibrant girls, who are great company and so full of life...hard NOT to be attracted to this. Indeed many are looking for a "normal and stable" relationship (remember, this is as they define it). Communication is key. If you want a relationship with her do not be afraid to ask her about sponsors or her plans for the future. Present it out of genuine interest and do not be confrontational or she will clam up immediately. I have found often when I ask a direct question, I do not get a response, don't press it. The answer will be forthcoming in a few days when she is good and ready to talk about it, and it will probably come out of the blue. I can not emphasize enough..communicate, communicate, communicate. Get inside her head and find out how she feels and what she thinks about life. If you are non-judgemental and display a genuine interest in what she has to say, she will be very forthcoming with you. This should tell you alot about what kind of person she is and her thought processes and you can decide if it is something you wish to pursue.

The fact that she is shopping for a bar tells me she is ready for a lifestyle change. She no longer wants to be the worker bee, and is possibly looking for a bit more security out of life. Someone mentioned why wouldn't she buy a bar in Patong instead of Pattaya? She knows Pattaya, and most likely has no clue what your intentions are, just as you do not know hers. She is staying within her comfort zone.

I am starting to ramble now...but in a nutshell....no one can answer this but you. Get inside her heart and mind and find out where she is at, then make a decision based on how you perceive you both feel. Nothing is guaranteed, but to use a well worn cliche....nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I hope this helps a little....good luck!!

Beautiful words, MF. Great post. It is great to have a guy like you on the Board who is so open, non-judgemental, and willing to take chances in life. I get so tired of listening to all the cynics, even though I am guilty of being cynical at times myself.