[senor123]

Like most things to do with relationships, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Many of the girls working in bars are looking for a long term relationship and I guess they will take the best offer that comes along.
If someone is going to wait for you for 7 months and stay in the bar scene then there is a good chance that she will get a better offer before you come back.

In spite of the cynicism that is often expressed here, if you don't sponsor a girl then she is for sure going to stay in the scene.

I guess you are probably going to have to try and return every few months to keep the relationship going as, without face to face contact, both parties get caught up in more pressing matters and the feelings may diminish for each other.

However there are a few board members who are in successful relationships with bar girls (who are now ex bar girls) and it can work.

The cynicism on this board almost cost me a relationship. I got the mama in hospital story and almost sent an e-mail that would have ended my relationship. The story turned out to be true and I, along with other Thai members of the family, contributed to the costs. My share was 10K baht and no doubt it was the largest share.

My g/f then sliced her wrist open and needed 20-30 k for an operation to fix the damage. I spoke to the doctor who filled me in on what was required. I've got no doubt I paid over the odds to the Doctor but my g/f kept the receipt plus a photo of her in hospital to show me when I returned. She still sports the scars from the accident.

My g/f now works in an office in Bangkok 6 days a week 8 hours a day for about 7k Baht a month. I send her money to pay the rent on our house, to pay for the schooling for her son and to help her and her mother.
She will return to our rented house in Phuket when I next come back (I go about every 3 months) and then go back to Bangkok when I leave. How do I know she isn't working in a bar in Bangkok? She told me and during the day I cannot contact her on her mobile beacuse she is not allowed to have her mobile on at work. If she wanted to she could just take the money that I send her and work in a bar as well but she wanted out of the game and has no desire to return.

The other point I would like to make is that most of the BM's are adults. In life you don't always get it right but there is no point moaning about your mistakes. Mummy isn't there anymore to make it better. The one thing I like about being an adult is that you can say, "yep, I stuffed up" and you won't get sent to your room. I like the posts from they guys who have had a bad experience but just put it down to that, experience.

Life can be pretty boring if you always play safe.

Steve