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Mate I feel for you I really do..... **** me, this is EXACTLY what happened to me.
First off, you got to make sure she really is pregnant. Now when the baby is born you HAVE to make sure it is yours. You can buy a DNA test from the internet and all you need to do is take swab samples from inside the mouth. You can do this when you are feeding the baby. Get up in the night and do it without the girl knowing. Then you post the samples off and in a week or 2 you can phone the laboratory and get a result. The mothers permission is NOT needed, and I'd suggest you keep this secret for the time being anyway.
Now you may want to bring the girl and baby home to the west, better healthcare, better education, what you percived as a better start in life...etc etc. However, the girl is going to miss her family and friends and she isn't going to like the climate, the difficulty in language. Feeling alone with a baby in a foriegn country will be very tough for her, it will probably do your relationship more harm than good.
If you really love her, I'd move to Asia if i were you, or at least keep going back every couple of months or so, be expensive on the air fares but this is going to be YOUR family and I think you will fall in love with the baby when it's born and you'll want to be there as much as possible anyway.
This happened to me, last year in Asia, again with a Lao girl. I worked and saved and planned and when I got to Asia, I found that she had lost the baby. She didnt tell me before I got there becasue she thought I wouldnt go back. And yes, she was definetly pregnant becasue I saw her a lot earlier in the year and watched the change in her as the pregnancy went on, she got big. As the baby died I never got to find out if it was really mine or not and that is going to haunt me forever. I am never going to know the truth now.
You are not in that situation yet my friend, and I wish you all the luck that I never had. I really hope you get what you want out of this. I still have the unopened DNA test in my suitcase from my last trip, and you can have it off me if you like. I wont be needing one for a while.
Good luck Buddy, and if you want to chat about it you can email to me....
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