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Originally Posted by Schmeen
I know far more successful than unsuccessful.
Usually the unsuccessful is the fault of a whoring husband.
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You know, a bloke could take offense at remarks like this. My marriage to a Thai girl failed and, just to put our German BM straight, I did not meet her in a bar.
Relationships don't work out for many reasons, but to suggest that it is always because the man is 'whoring' or 'not committed' is not even scratching at the surface of what is a very complex issue.
Anybody that brings a girl halfway around the world, and jumps through all the associated hoops, can hardly be accused of not being committed.
Taking a girl from Thailand to England, maybe any Western country, is a difficcult, time consuming and expensive exercise; you need to be committed or it will never happen. How a foreign person will settle in a new country will never become clear until they get there, and then it is too late to back out.
I have written a couple of lenghty articles on my failed marriage, here is not the place to post them, but Anybody who is interested can PM me for the link.
Please, guys, before attacking us 'failures' in such a public way, do us the service of thinking the problem through.
For the record, my experience of marriage to Thai girls for English blokes is 3 failures from 5 relationships. I also think that where the girl comes from is utterly irrelevant; you have as much chance of making a relationship work with an ex-bargirl as you do with any other girl. The big question will always be 'how will you cope with letting someone into your life?'