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Originally Posted by too cool
DUDE you are wasting your time with these girls. I met one back in 2003 on worldmatch or was it yahoo, that use to call me at night to say "good night sweet dreams", bah, bah, bah. Then we became boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes we would chat online & she would get mad at something i said, at first i was thinking that she misunderstood what i had said but in the end it was her way of getting me in & keeping me on her hook. When it came time to meet her in Bangkok we only spent a few days together, my gut feeling was that something was not right, i asked when we would meet her family & friends & got no reply from her about this. I was a fool, it was my first trip overseas, i had beleaved that i had found love & i got her a 24crt gold chain from China town (15,000baht) & she asked to keep the sale's docket which i let her keep, then i get a call from her 2 days later about 11:30pm saying that she lost it. I knew right away what she had done, but she still had me hooked  but she didn't want to spend any time with me, so one phone call & it was over & i started hanging out at a beer bar met a bar girl there and had fun for the rest of the trip.
I went on www.faceparty.com a few months ago & was checking out some chicks from the Philippines and started chatting to one that was asking me for money after 10 minutes, i went along with it she even gave me her bank account details before i pissed her off. Another one was so hot & i was chatting to her for a while and then one day she had her web cam looking at her short skirt  loved the view then she asked me for money. Be careful about there age also i think the last one i was chatting to wasn't 20 y/o looked much younger.
Look the bottom line is you are a fool to fall for these women, i was a fool & got hurt big time, so stick with the bar girls, don't spend more than 2 days with the same one or you will fall in love with them (read my thread "same old story") like i did spent 10 days with one in Bangkok and was coming back to see her this year to ask her to marry me, then a few weeks ago i get an email from her asking for 20,000baht coz her clothing shop is not doing well, that's left me fcuked up & confused about what the hell am i doing, but i have had some good advice from board member here, but i still fell lost about my feeling for this girl. But i know that once i get to Phuket i will forget about her & party hard this year, do the same Anthonysome & forget about these chat girls. |
Good stories and good advice. That was a really tough way to start out your first trip, getting ripped off for the costly gold chain. You sound like a good guy, with a trusting heart, and that makes it so easy to fall into the trap. The 20,000 Bht for the clothing shop is hard, too, since you obviously felt real love for that girl.
I don't think that all TGs are mercenaries in the struggle to find love in this cold world of ours. I think that there are some good ones out there, too. But trying to separate the wheat from the chaff is a job that, unfortunately, many of us are not well-equipped to do.
I think that it all goes back to the advice that the most experienced BMs here will give you: you either have to be willing to A) take the girl with you, B) move to Thailand for a good portion of the year, if not year-round, or C) be well-prepared for seeing your money go bye-bye, and getting a broken heart to boot, if you trust your heart and go the sponsor route.
Anyone who goes option C had better be well-heeled enough that the money means nothing to him, because that route is a big gamble with odds heavily stacked against you. Most, if not all, will come up losers in that game.
So I can well understand why someone with your experience would adhere to the 2-day rule. However, that has never worked long for me. Maybe because I usually spend over a month, and last tour was there for nearly 3 months. Being a butterfly really can get to you once in a while, and then it is great to find someone you enjoy spending your time with, and really getting to know her better. You might fall in love, and you might have a lot of heartache to leave her behind.
But that is a chance I am willing to take. For me, it is a matter of "I'll cross that bridge when I come to it." I am a firm believer in the verse that says,"Tis better to have loved and lost, Than never to have loved at all." E.Barrett Browning, IINM.
And some will say that it is unfair to the girl, because she will fall in love with you, and then you leave her. I say, then be careful not to to make promises or tell a girl you love her, if you are not willing to back it up. Given that precaution, I don't think it is unfair at all. Because she is much better to spend the time with one man, and to share warm feelings with him, and make steady pay, than to go out to the bar every night, not knowing where she will sleep that night, who she will sleep with, or how he will treat her. She may end up right back where she started after you leave, but for some period of time, there will be some stability in her life. And if she forms relationships with several men, each of whom comes to spend a a few weeks here, a few weeks or a month there, again and again, then her life has a little predictability and it is not quite so much like she is being a wh*re, but a little more like a kept woman, except that she is kept by several men instead of one.
And if you get lucky, who knows? I say, "Give love a chance." But, as in any game of chance, you can win big, or lose big. So when playing the game, it is best to keep a firm grasp on your wallet!
JayBee
