point taken, yes i did generalize probably only for ease on the net.
everyone is different and some bgs are not living the high life or would make a wonderfull girl friend maybe partner.
in my occupation (mental health) i deal with and manage peoples lifes for them, so maybe i am to harsh and see things to much in black and white.
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Originally Posted by dizbusta
Interesting side to things, obviously you have your opinion and I disagree with some points.
That's a bit unfair as you are saying that all BGs are callous and not worth considering. I know some really nice ladies who work as BGs and funnily enough the only time I had a problem with a money-grabbing lady, was with a non-BG !!
This tends to suggest that you are going to train her to be exactly how you want her to be. Where do you plan to live once you are married and will it be together ?? Do you really think an innocent girl from a village will be happy in a big Western European city ?? Or will you be able to adapt to living in a Thai village ?? I hope you have done your homework on both of them and understand that it's not an easy process to just get married and live together, and that's not taking in to account marital problems. At least a BG has experience of dealing with men from Western Europe and countries similar.
Whilst it is good of you to send money to pay for your lady's English lessons, it is not fair to assume that all BGs are highly successful and earn huge amounts of money. You are stereotyping and doing it badly. A lot of BGs survive from one day to the next not knowing where their next meal is coming from. I am not saying they are all like this, but your description cannot be applied to all BGs. It's like saying all Italian restaurant owners drive Ferraris, have a drink problem and beat up their wives !! Which is just not true.
I cant help feeling that you are actually pursuing a fantasy and are not really doing this for love, why else would you make such a statement ? You plan to take an innocent Thai girl from a village and put her in to a much more civilised, modernised Western environment and expect her to cope !?!?!
You may not have put everything down in your post here and there may be a lot more that you have done to make sure that your situation works, but from what you have written, I can't help feeling that your view is narrow minded. Perhaps you should try and look at all Thai people individually and not herd them in to groups like you have done, labelling them all as the same. This may actually be useful to you in time as you become more aware of problems that happen with your own situation.
Diz
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