Hey Guys,
The
older post below gave me a thought:
We all have some experience with the lovely Bar Girls of Thailand AKA The Miss Issan Pagaent. But have any of you met an educated, middle or upper-class Thai and fallen in love with her? What's your story?
Recently, I posted
here about my experience with a non-BG. steve@thaib suggested I repost in a new post, so here you go. This, along with other info about my history with a cute, but very jealous Thai lady.
I wrote:
Quote:
I met a great TG about 5 years ago - a good egg that's never asked me for a dime to this very day. The only time I used Western Union was to pay some money back I borrowed from her! Ahem (Loser!). I've been back to see her 4 times now, in fact, just saw her in BKK, and it's still "all good".
Anyway, she works for U.S. company in BKK in mid-management, but doesn't make all that much, though she works damn long hours. She's a cool lady, though. When we're together, she pays her way (like at a movie), brings over lunch to "treat me" or pays for a taxi if I don't have "small change". The gal is top notch, really. She's now 37, but looks ten years younger if not more than that. She came by my hotel early in the morning to see me off all decked out in her business suit. Ai Yai Yai!
Red Flag: I'd say the only thing that bugs me is that I've never met her family or friends. I've called her house where she lives with mama and daddy, though. So they know about at least one Farang that's after their daughter.
Anyway, I'll be back in BKK soon - and it'll be good to hang out with one of my favorite ladies again.
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More info: back to the year 2000, we met over the net. Raise your red flags, I did.
I had put out a Yahoo Personal ad here in San Francisco seeking local girls. My ad somehow showed up in The Bangkok Post. I got one hit, "I saw your ad in the Bangkok Post. I don't know if you'd like to know a nice lady from Thailand." WTF???!!@#$%@%. So I wrote to her, for like, a year, you know--getting to know each other and only flirting subtly. I got a picture: a 32 year old cutie, never married, and no kids. I was wary of her, she's a stranger - you have to be careful. But no money was ever asked for, no bank account numbers exchanged. She passes Test 1. Maybe she's for real? I doubt it, but I'm having fun flirting.
I told her the next time I'd be in Japan, I'll make a stop-over in BKK. So I did about 1 year and 3 months after first meeting online.
She shows up on the lobby of the Novotel on a bright morning, looking sporty in a white top and denims. Cute! Here is where she took me
on our first "date". You might catch a glimpse of her looking cool with the Jackie O sunglasses. Sadly, I learn by the end of this date that she's not into me, no lovin', but would be happy to show me around BKK and even go to Hua Hin or Cha Am with her (separate beds!). She wanted to pay her way at the resort. On our many dates, she always wants to split the bill - she doesn't always succeed, but sometimes she trumped me! No lovin' still, but wait--she's delightful, cute, speaks English well (previous Farang beaus, as she admits), college educated (BA) and just quit an office job (where, unfortunately, she was getting harrassed).
So, I'm waiting for her at the resort for a day because she had some commitment. She shows up and announces a change of heart - then nearly attacks me. Ah yeah! I rip up my plane ticket and stay 5 more days with her in paradise, then back in BKK. She puts me up
well away from the bad girls of Sukhumvit at the Sofitel by the Airport. Smart girl. She wants no money, it's not that kind of thing and would've totally inappropriate. I wonder if there aren't ulterior motives, but before long, I'm flying home anyway.
Within 6 months, I'm back again. Since I'm in Japan again, i think--what the hell. So we hook up again. She wants to go on a long weekend with me and - OH NO - picks Pattaya for some reason. Actually, though, it was fun! The BG's mostly stayed away and were cool to her. Plus, we stayed in the Royal Cliff Resort on the 18th floor or something, so we were livin' large, but outta the action. She's amazingly good at keeping me away from the ladies of a questionable nature. We have a blast and get along very well.
The following trip a year later started off badly: accused of cheating on the 2nd day. She has the key to my room, so no way would I bring a girl into that room. She may have paid off the bellboys to keep an eye on me. I come back from the Internet Cafe and she's waiting for me in the business suit and the death stare in full-effect,
"You cheat on me!"
"Nope. Didn't Happen. That's YOUR black hair on the bed.
I was just sitting here watching CNN and drinking a beer.
(More Stares with those black eyes).
Yes, really"
Oh man, that was painful. Set a bad precedent for the trip. And I was totally innocent!
But screw it, it's SONGKRAN baby. So, most all is forgotten after the Mr. Pompooee gets nailed for two days with the sacred water. We are still having fun, no need to chase other girlies about. I'm fine and shooting lots of video. She admits never wanting to live in the U.S. and needs a guy to commit to live in BKK. "Not sure I can do that", I say. Again, I'm home.
2 years pass. I write a book and do a little teaching. Too low a budget to travel. My Japan teaching gravy-train ends about that time too. But I keep in contact on a monthly basis by calling her on the cell and dropping emails. She always greets me very kindly. Looking for some way to see her again.
I do a 9 month contract and sock away some dough. As soon as they cut me loose, I'm going to BKK, then to Phuket or Samui - take the gal if possible, then back to BKK. I see her only 3 times, and no trip to Phuket for her, but it's just like old times in BKK. She's very cool and asks me very few questions about where I've gone or who I've been with. She got jealous when she hears about Dr. V, the Vet from Phuket City I admitted to snorkeling with on Ko Phi Phi, but that's her nature.
So this recent trip marks 4 trips to LOS and 5 years of knowing this wonderful lady. I've now been to BKK 4 times to see her. And I'll be back.
I finally got her to look into a Visa, so she can come and see me. She works at a well-known U.S. company, so she may slug it out there until she can get it. As you may know, it's very difficult to bring a Thai citizen into the U.S. for even a vacation. It can take 6-11 months to pull off.
Well, that's the story of one gal I fell in love with, anyway.
Not sure what to do, now that I've known the pleasures of Phuket.
Dr. V - Issan Gal - Animal Doc