[Denver]

Originally Posted by Phil_in_Thai

I dont know why things are better now except that I stopped worrying about it and got more comfortable with myself.....helped in no small way by the realisation that she loved me despite the failures. It was being done for mutual pleasure alone and not an attempt to 'prove' myself.

I know this hasnt much to do with the question. Just a note to say that 'not getting it up' isnt always a permenant problem.

Thanks Phil and Thanks Jaybee (I've printed Jaybees off for later! )

Phil, I think what you had to say had everything to do with this thread. I used to think I was out there to 'prove' something like you said. I'm not anymore, the pressure isn't there and in a more relaxed, loving encounter, the 'problems' aren't there anymore. I think what you say about being comfortable about yourself rings true also. There is enough in our lives to be tense about without taking that into the bedroom or a relationship.

I enjoyed your post Phil and thanks for taking the time to write about this subject. As for Jaybees, wow, I just might be taking a copy of his on holiday with me. Beats Vit V hands down!