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dennisinkamala · #1 21-11-2007, 12:13

Done the search engine and cant find anything on this subject.

Nanny and babysitters.

Are there any reputable agencies in Patong/Kamalala and if not what are your suggestions for employing the above as, apart from sister, gf knows very few people in area.

She does NOT want mama living with us Nicke!! She was horrified at the suggestion.5555555

How do I go about checking them out and what are approximate costs.

The Loop · #2 21-11-2007, 15:38

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Originally Posted by dennisinspain

Done the search engine and cant find anything on this subject.

Nanny and babysitters.

Are there any reputable agencies in Patong/Kamalala and if not what are your suggestions for employing the above as, apart from sister, gf knows very few people in area.

She does NOT want mama living with us Nicke!! She was horrified at the suggestion.5555555

How do I go about checking them out and what are approximate costs.

What`s next,a nappy/diaper changing thread.

K2 · #3 21-11-2007, 16:17

Your best bet is to find a willing relative of your g/f as that is likely to be where you can trust them to take good care. Findinga decent nanny is a tough challenge - we've been though several before finding a good trust worthy reliable one.

Dont know of any agencies - get your g/f to deal with this one - Thais are so family and kid centric - it should not be too difficult. Live-in full time nanny would set you back 6-10k/month.

easyrider_au · #4 21-11-2007, 16:24

That's great news Dennis, that your girlfriend has found a job.

Crustasian · #5 21-11-2007, 16:51

I believe there is a retired security person residing in Kammallaa who could take on such a responsible job.

DENVER

Dingo's · #6 21-11-2007, 16:52

Dennis,

Not sure if this is something that you or the gf would be interested in, but there's a daycare center that's just opened up in Patong and another chain of the same owners in Chalong.

Again, not sure if this is what you are wanting but maybe it could be a good start as they may also work after hours if you're looking for full time nanny...

Nicke · #7 21-11-2007, 18:12

Thats strange, she spoke different at the dinner mate! In the lines with she maybe wanted her mother to come but that you didnt want it that way. Or maybe she just changed her mind.

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Originally Posted by dennisinspain

She does NOT want mama living with us Nicke!! She was horrified at the suggestion.5555555

keith67 · #8 21-11-2007, 19:42

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Originally Posted by dennisinspain

I am posting this for a friend ( ) as he is too shy to ask.

He recently commenced co-habiting with his gf and being a great guy, as well as really hansum, agreed to share abode with daughter of gf. Not a problem for him, loves kids and was secretly really looking forward to it.

He returned back to the UK for a couple of weeks for work and said GF went to collect child from village in North. Collected mother as well to assist child with transition period and settling. Again, no problem for this adonis bodied friend of mine.

One week later child and grandparent are booked to return to village because in words of GF:

"I scare take care all time coz when she no see mama she velly cly. If she velly cly, I no know what do and I sad for her"

Now my friend knows that it is usual for children in TL not to be raised by their parent(s) but, it seems very strange to him that given the opportunity and even the offer of his full support and a nanny, if needed, that they can abdicate the responsibility so casually.

Maybe its the confusion of western values etc. but my friend really cant get his head round this particular scenario. It seems just a tad selfish and mercenary.

Comments from you guys on this subject would really be appreciated.

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Originally Posted by dennisinspain

Done the search engine and cant find anything on this subject.

Nanny and babysitters.

Are there any reputable agencies in Patong/Kamalala and if not what are your suggestions for employing the above as, apart from sister, gf knows very few people in area.

She does NOT want mama living with us Nicke!! She was horrified at the suggestion.5555555

How do I go about checking them out and what are approximate costs.

Dennis not sure what you are trying to do but why would you start 1 thread saying about your g/f bringing her mother back with her and making out she cannot cope without her and then you start another thread about how she was horrified when you mentioned her mother coming to stay with you to look after the child.
The only reason i can make out for you to make so many contradicting threads is to raise you post count as i have said before, Tarzan spotted what you were doing and you both had a rather heated debate about it i am now begining to think he was right with his comments.

IRISH JONNY · #9 21-11-2007, 21:05

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Originally Posted by wanttogobacknow

Dennis not sure what you are trying to do but why would you start 1 thread saying about your g/f bringing her mother back with her and making out she cannot cope without her and then you start another thread about how she was horrified when you mentioned her mother coming to stay with you to look after the child.
The only reason i can make out for you to make so many contradicting threads is to raise you post count as i have said before, Tarzan spotted what you were doing and you both had a rather heated debate about it i am now begining to think he was right with his comments.

well spotted mate,.........55555555............

swiftdave · #10 21-11-2007, 21:50

I am always amazed at how some people jump all over a guy for any inconsistency.
I spent considerable time with both Dennis and his girlfriend and I think he's trying to get his GF and her daughter together and make a new family. There are all sorts of pitfalls to overcome and hes trying to make the transition as smooth as possible for her.
This forum is a place for a person to throw out a question and get good answers from alot of people who've walked the walk. I really doubt that post count matters.

keith67 · #11 21-11-2007, 23:05

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Originally Posted by swiftdave

I am always amazed at how some people jump all over a guy for any inconsistency.
I spent considerable time with both Dennis and his girlfriend and I think he's trying to get his GF and her daughter together and make a new family. There are all sorts of pitfalls to overcome and hes trying to make the transition as smooth as possible for her.
This forum is a place for a person to throw out a question and get good answers from alot of people who've walked the walk. I really doubt that post count matters.

Maybe you should take a little time to read some of the posts and threads started by Dennis before jumping to his defence, this is 1 of many posts and threads where he contradicts himself numerous times, also if he is so concerned about his g/f and her daughter why would he be looking for hotels in Pattaya to spend a few nights on his own, i also have a Thai g/f although this is the first time i have mentioned it on this forum and when i book a trip which is about every 4-5 weeks my main priority is to get over there and spend time with her not mongering around Pattaya.

just my 2p worth.

seafox · #12 21-11-2007, 23:52

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Originally Posted by wanttogobacknow

Maybe you should take a little time to read some of the posts and threads started by Dennis before jumping to his defence, this is 1 of many posts and threads where he contradicts himself numerous times, also if he is so concerned about his g/f and her daughter why would he be looking for hotels in Pattaya to spend a few nights on his own, i also have a Thai g/f although this is the first time i have mentioned it on this forum and when i book a trip which is about every 4-5 weeks my main priority is to get over there and spend time with her not mongering around Pattaya.
just my 2p worth.

as Richard Dawson would say, good answer!

"I have a friend" started as a joke tag line from Denver. We all know what he meant. To start one thread with "I have a friend" then another thread concerning a similar subject now involving him and his TGF, it would be better to tell the truth from the start.

And not a good sign when you start to cohabit with your TGF while at the same time you try to play around behind her back. I see a bottle in your future. Hope you have a hard head.

dennisinkamala · #13 22-11-2007, 00:27

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Originally Posted by wanttogobacknow

Dennis not sure what you are trying to do but why would you start 1 thread saying about your g/f bringing her mother back with her and making out she cannot cope without her and then you start another thread about how she was horrified when you mentioned her mother coming to stay with you to look after the child.
The only reason i can make out for you to make so many contradicting threads is to raise you post count as i have said before, Tarzan spotted what you were doing and you both had a rather heated debate about it i am now begining to think he was right with his comments.

Not a contradiction mate and not interested in post counts. I post comments when Im moved to or sometimes just when Im sat at work on the puter to give me a break.
Dont remember having a heated debate with Tarzan on the subject but, maybe, really cant recall.
To clarify:
GF wanted mother to come over for a short while to make it easy for childs transition as she had rarely seen her baby for almost a year. That was done and mum returned home. Lots of pressue from mum who wants to bring up child but gf wants to try and do it alone, if possible. Her concern is he amount of time she will spend with child at, as she sees it, detriment to the time spent with me.
Understand the need for some negativity and cynicism tinged with doubt guys but, I am really just trying to get a handle on all possible scenarios so Im fully prepared.
I havent a clue as to Thai culture and whats available.
So far as the Pattaya thread is concerned that would appear to be selective quoting. Did you read my last post on that thread and ignore it for the sake of drama, or did it pass you by??
Thanks for the info on this subject, I do appreciate it and will take it on board... apart from the Denver suggestion. The child is sensitive!!

dennisinkamala · #14 22-11-2007, 00:29

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Originally Posted by Nicke

Thats strange, she spoke different at the dinner mate! In the lines with she maybe wanted her mother to come but that you didnt want it that way. Or maybe she just changed her mind.

That was my impression but, she only wanted her there for a short time until Som was comfortable with her. Mama returned home after a week or so.

dennisinkamala · #15 22-11-2007, 00:31

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Originally Posted by swiftdave

I am always amazed at how some people jump all over a guy for any inconsistency.
I spent considerable time with both Dennis and his girlfriend and I think he's trying to get his GF and her daughter together and make a new family. There are all sorts of pitfalls to overcome and hes trying to make the transition as smooth as possible for her.
This forum is a place for a person to throw out a question and get good answers from alot of people who've walked the walk. I really doubt that post count matters.

Cheers Dave. Wheres the photos?? I want one of that sign!!

Mav · #16 22-11-2007, 08:54

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Originally Posted by The Loop

What`s next,a nappy/diaper changing thread.

555555555555555

No it will be "Does anybody know a good kindergarten"

Dodger · #17 22-11-2007, 09:45

For one off nights/days etc, there are a few women in the village Dennis that will babysit. Long term solution is probably going to be friend of Oy or family member as a live in babysitter, company etc for Oy when your away and 6/7k per month plus bed and board, usual rate, not too bad.

You might need to see what your lifestyle is going to be like before deciding, if on average you were say only back here one month then away for 2 months then whats the point might as well use a local, if it was here longer and away only short times, might be better for live in, assuming you are both wanting to go out at the same time.

Sorry the last bit initially sounds stupid, I meant Gee does not hardly come out now because mini dodge wakes at stupid early times, and when she comes out too often she just gets really tired for the next couple of days.

dennisinkamala · #18 22-11-2007, 10:57

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Originally Posted by Dodger

For one off nights/days etc, there are a few women in the village Dennis that will babysit. Long term solution is probably going to be friend of Oy or family member as a live in babysitter, company etc for Oy when your away and 6/7k per month plus bed and board, usual rate, not too bad.

You might need to see what your lifestyle is going to be like before deciding, if on average you were say only back here one month then away for 2 months then whats the point might as well use a local, if it was here longer and away only short times, might be better for live in, assuming you are both wanting to go out at the same time.

Sorry the last bit initially sounds stupid, I meant Gee does not hardly come out now because mini dodge wakes at stupid early times, and when she comes out too often she just gets really tired for the next couple of days.

Thanks Bernie, that eems to make perfect sense, Im glad there are people around, if only to give her a break.
Bringing my golfy thingies with me so I must be planning to stay longer!!
Expect to spend around 9 months a year from March.
Oy happy and loving being mom at the moment, bless her!
Maybe you can pop round and see Som again, if she sees you often enough I wont be a shock to her system at all!!!

Sparkle · #19 22-11-2007, 19:34

My nanny was found through a friend....i had 2 options...she knew an agency that places and her nanny 'finds' nannies when needed by people......i took the second option first as there was a cousin who had worked for a family (known to my friend) who was now looking for a new job...(kids at school)......

Has been brilliant, lives in, great with the munchkin, fantastic cook.....she spent a lot of time helping out at the farang preschool the previous kids went to so knows lots of games and such. We are back to Oz on a 5 weeks here 2 weeks Oz roster....she stays here......if the breaks away were much longer i would be worried she would get bored and leave.

i will find out where this agency is if you are still interested. my friend said a number of people have been happy with their nannies from there. one thing I found interesting was i was told that Thai nannies/housekeepers seemed to prefer to work for farang women than Thai women....the reason they said was they felt they get treated better....(not sure what that means....if its less demanding, more polite to domestic staff, more money, a face thing, less workload... anyway I was told that Filipina nannies seem to do well with a Thai women couple.)

i work from home so he (munchkin) is here with us so i can be around him a lot and this has made me even more comfortable after seeing the nanny in action for a lot of time.... a number of times a day our nanny will take the munchkin out into the neighbourhood for an hour or so.....he loves getting out and about. PM me to let me know if you still need someone and i'll ferret out this agency.

keith67 · #20 23-11-2007, 00:00

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Originally Posted by dennisinspain

Jurt returned from another trip to see gf and during the 9 days got a house, car and settled into Kamala.
Emailed 3 hotels in Pattaya fro my play away and non replied!
Maybe its a sign so, I have decided to stay in K with gf for longer than originally planned.
Guess if Im not prepared to make the effort I cant expect her to either.
So, Im hooked for the forseeable future.

On the other hand this thread has brought up some very interesting, and new, info on Pattaya and I hope it was useful for some BM's planning a trip there.
Thanks for the input guys, as always, you come through.

I believe this is your last quote from the Pattaya thread

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Originally Posted by dennisinspain

Not a contradiction mate and not interested in post counts. I post comments when Im moved to or sometimes just when Im sat at work on the puter to give me a break.
Dont remember having a heated debate with Tarzan on the subject but, maybe, really cant recall.
To clarify:
GF wanted mother to come over for a short while to make it easy for childs transition as she had rarely seen her baby for almost a year. That was done and mum returned home. Lots of pressue from mum who wants to bring up child but gf wants to try and do it alone, if possible. Her concern is he amount of time she will spend with child at, as she sees it, detriment to the time spent with me.
Understand the need for some negativity and cynicism tinged with doubt guys but, I am really just trying to get a handle on all possible scenarios so Im fully prepared.
I havent a clue as to Thai culture and whats available.
So far as the Pattaya thread is concerned that would appear to be selective quoting. Did you read my last post on that thread and ignore it for the sake of drama, or did it pass you by??
Thanks for the info on this subject, I do appreciate it and will take it on board... apart from the Denver suggestion. The child is sensitive!!

Why would you think that it was selective quoting Dennis because you decided to try harder with your g/f because the 3 hotels you e-mailed for in your words "your play away" didn't reply.