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12-12-2005, 13:45
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Need advise on gf problem
I’m not the most experienced guy around but I thought I had heard most of the BS a tg could deliver. I just got off the phone with my gf who informed me that she wouldn’t be able to use her phone for a while because she was going to be in the temple for a week. Good for her spirit, good for her future, etc, etc.
Now that I have already let her know that this sounds like a load of crap, have I screwed up? Does anyone know of a ritual where a tg would spend a week in a temple, sleep on the floor, not use her mobile, and DURING HIGH SEASON WHEN SHE NEEDS THE MONEY? It almost sounds too ridiculous to NOT be true. I would appreciate any feedback to either confirm I’m not losing it or that I’m a jackass for not understanding. 
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#2
12-12-2005, 13:50
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I'd bet London to a brick that she will have a "friend" in town......but l am a cynical pr1ck.
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12-12-2005, 13:55
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It is possible.. I have heard of girls doing this especially if there has been a death or similar..
That said I would put it at about 1 in 10 as being the truth v a visit from an old friend..
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12-12-2005, 13:57
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I'm not sure but I remember something about temple retreats and that no phones or modern contraptions are allowed something to do with peace and harmony ! It was mentioned in a post a long while ago ! But like Mav says it could be just an excuse.
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12-12-2005, 13:58
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i dont comment on anything to do with thai girls and visits to temple or to give food for buddha.
last time i told a girl to "screw buddha" when her alarm was going off at 6am to bring food to buddha, a tsu7nami came
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12-12-2005, 14:14
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my GF did exactly this. Stayed in a temple for a week or so to cleanse the soul type thing and stop 'bad things happening'(eg;recent car accident). She did sneak in the odd phonecall when they went out to get food but other than that it is strictly forbiden.
Can I ask how old she is as it is a big deal to turn 25 and they often go to the temple for a week, something to do with a halfway point in their life. Still entirely possible it's a lie of course but they tend not to use Temples and Buddha as an excuse. On the other hand what can you do? Not a lot except trust her... And if she really is going to the Temple what you think will not stop her.
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12-12-2005, 14:32
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Agree with Hobbsy that they tend to not lie about Religion or the Monarchy.. Not hard and fast but as a general rule they dont like to..
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12-12-2005, 14:41
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Does this mean l have lost a major Southern UK city, that has seen the odd fire and a dodgy bridge transaction ?
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12-12-2005, 14:48
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That’s interesting info Hobbsy.
She’s 30, about to turn 31 in 4 weeks. She has been struggling with some problems but nothing that seems too big (to me, anyway) or probably even unusual for a tg. I’m due to be in Patong in 19 days (sorry, wrong thread) and this thing just came out of nowhere. In fact, I had just called her and had a normal conversation and then she called me back in 5 minutes to spring this on me. But it’s interesting that several BM’s have some knowledge of this temple thing. Kinda leaves me in a grey area. If she sneaks a phone call out it might make me feel a little better… if I haven’t pissed her off too much. I think I was dealing pretty well with the fact that she wasn’t just sitting around waiting for me. And that’s OK because I’m not ready for a commitment that involves meeting Mama, Papa and the buffalo. But she’s done a good job of never really lying to me before. Mav...Sorry about London
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12-12-2005, 14:52
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That's ok....still got Monte Carlo, Cairns and Skegness up me sleeve 
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12-12-2005, 15:17
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at the end of the day how would you ever know, there is that much shi_te that comes out of BG'S mouths at times that you never know what is true or what is not. at the end of the day we all know deep down that if some1 is comming to visit that has been sending her lots of £$£$£ then 1 way or another she is gonna be there with a big smile on her face like little innesent...... maybe she is telling the truth. but hey it don't really matter anyway cus there ain't nothing you can do about it!! REMEMBER... MONEY NUMBER ONE!! <---- good book by the way!! harsh but true.
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12-12-2005, 15:22
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If she was planning on spending the week with another guy, then I'm sure she could sneak off to make the odd phone call.
As long as the week spent won't be when you are there, then what's the difference to you?
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12-12-2005, 15:36
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They can stay from 1 to 14 days, but from day 15 they have to have their head shaved.
They can still use mobile phones, but have to be careful with what they say, like no relationship type talk.
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12-12-2005, 16:10
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Thanks for all the info. I’ve learned some things here that will keep me from making any REALLY stupid statements.
After her phone call, I immediately sent an SMS confirming my doubt about what she was telling me. I just now got a message back from her phone saying, “I’m ****’s friend, she has already gone to temple.” This is a little hokie for me. Like I said, I don’t really expect her to be faithful, but this kind of a lie, and I still suspect it is a lie, just kind of hit me wrong. It seems very out of character for her. She is not a BG, but like many TG’s in Patong, she’s not all that far removed from it.
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12-12-2005, 16:19
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I would give her the benefit of the doubt. As you said, she has been truthful in the past. What reason does she have to lie to you now?
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12-12-2005, 17:24
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My previous gf went to the temple for a whole week, as said by others to cleanse her soul or something but she did sneak the odd telephone call to me in the evening, her dad seemed to always be nipping in there for a week or many days at a time. A couple of times when she telephoned could here the monks doing that ohmmmm thingy in the background. If she had a LT coming to see her as others said why couldn't she take the odd call and if she's lying, does it matter? you are not there for 19 more days.
This trust issue does seem to be the biggest hurdle for anyone to overcome if they are looking for a long term relationship with a thai girl, with their attitude of sex as being just work wonder if it ever goes away?.
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12-12-2005, 18:14
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I agree with Hobbsy and Dogder on this one..I also had a gf who went to temple for 9 days because she had some problems with her shop and with her family..So i guess the only thing you can do is to try to trust her and when you come back to see her you will find out if she gets a lot of sms and if she go to the toilet or somewhere else when her phone ring
 But i think if we really love a BG then we have to trust them sometimes and belive in them.And if you dont send her any support and she work in a bar then you have to respect that,its her job and she need every baht she can earn. Jesper_dk
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12-12-2005, 21:34
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12-12-2005, 21:43
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You cannot win with Trust anyway.
If you truly believe your GF/wife/partner will not cheat on you then the trust means nothing - hey anyone can trust someone they know deep down will not hurt them. And if you don't believe 100% in them and you have doubts about their fidelity yet still 'trust' them you are a fool in most peoples eyes.
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12-12-2005, 22:01
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I wouldn't beleive to much about not being able to phone. I was ones in a temple in BKK trying to be very very quiet because i didn't want to disturbe the praying monks. Then suddenly a mobile phone went off. One of the monks just got up , pulled out the phone from his orange dress and started talking.
It was funnier when i saw it then when i tell it now ....
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12-12-2005, 23:11
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LOL...Actually, that's pretty funny right now.
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12-12-2005, 23:38
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Thanks again for all the comments and info. I’ve leaned that the temple retreat is a lot more common than I thought.
I’m really not a heart torn lover tying to deal with jealous fits from across the world. I think I’ve got a pretty good grip on the TG scene. Well, maybe a slight grip, anyway. My issue was more that I had never heard of temple retreats and didn’t appreciate a concocted story when it wasn’t necessary. If she doesn’t answer the phone, fine. Sometimes I don’t either. If it takes her 8 hours to return SMS, fine. This happens all the time. I guess we always had a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. I realize now that there may be some meat to her story, but I’m still a little cynical. It will be interesting to see if she sneaks a phone call now since the last message I got would indicate that she left her mobile with her friend. But I’ll just grin and bear it.
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13-12-2005, 00:21
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