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19-01-2006, 22:21
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did i do wrong?
hello guys
monday i got a phone call from bg i meet in october.she told me that she was one day back in patong and that her dad died.she had no money to go back and if i would send her 10000 bath.one min. later she send sms for 12000 bath.i didn't know what to do,but i had a great time with her so i send it. now today she want 7000 bath for food and drink because family and friends come to her home for funeral. i think she lie so i don't send it.now she is very angry. After the first pay,she promised that when i come back in june,i don't have to pay for her. did i do wrong ,by not send her the 7000bath? 
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19-01-2006, 22:34
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That sounds very ungreatful. I would forget about the 12000 and forget about her. Even if it is thru (wich i doubt) at least she can be greatful for the money you already send her.
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19-01-2006, 22:37
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Agree 100%
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19-01-2006, 22:44
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Well you have no total obligation to do anything so you didnt do wrong..
It is a fact that the children are expected part pay for the funeral and party.. Visiting guests should donate to it also tho so it should all be coverable, she has no right to be angry for not sending her money as you have already done so..
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19-01-2006, 22:47
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Then some people say that I am acting weird in Los.....
 Man, you have a good heart, and I don't want to judge you! But that is the danger of going to Los: getting too much involved! Let me tell you this, you are NOT the only pointer she has been nice to and slept with. When you have been longer with a girl then one night, they often ask to stay in touch. And then again, not only with you. So many of these girls have a "back-catalog", to choose from, if they are in trouble, or if they have spend too much. Her sad story could be true, but that is not sure of all. Neither if she only asked YOU to send her money. I did the same mistake once! But: 1. This girl never asked for money. 2. This was a regular girl, not a bg, and I end up paying less then when I would have had to pay bg's when she was with me! 3. It was a second hand motorbike!  Never, ever have I payed girl extra money for a sad story! They get payed well enough to perform, by customers all over the world! Everything else is most of the time a game to get more out of some guys! Since all the trips I have learned a lot. Every time there is something unpredicatble still. I met girls, who were really great. Worth to have a relationship with, if they were not part of this system. Girls who did not ask to sleep with everybody, but were put in this situation. Some BG DID find great girls out there! I met some of them But , these are the girls, who will not push you to send some money, but come back for them.....
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19-01-2006, 23:09
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Truth or Not...always same. The question was did you do anything wrong...Well I think sending her any money was the wrong move...why? Your not there, so what are you doing paying out money? By sending the money you set the coarse of things, even if it is true as soon as you hand over the baht you've just turned yourself into a sponser. Think about it...firstly a bg without the money to get home...hmm how long does it take to make enough to get on the bus...not long. The only answer is if your fine with sending people money for nothing and your happy to do so, then you did nothing wrong its your money afterall...don't go expecting anything in return..other than maybe more hardluck stories. Its just the way things are....If the story is true, then you've sent enough already...more than a months wage for most thai's.
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19-01-2006, 23:12
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19-01-2006, 23:37
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The custom here is
When in doubt just buy her a second hand motorbike.
Yes I'm drunk!
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20-01-2006, 00:02
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even i am new in los, i found it out quickly, most bg´s try to get your phone number if you stayed some days with her. and for sure back home you´ll get a call with really bad news or big plans for the future, for what she needs your financial support. sometimes it´s unbelieveable what "happens" to some bg´s in short time, that never happend to me in over 40 years. happened to me last year, and of course as a newbie in los i send the money.
 once to be a sponsor she has no problem to ask you for more and more and ...... i stopped this quickly, by writting her back the same kind, what happened to me. accident, losing my work, my water buffolo got very very sick, she had no longer interest. maybe this sounds hard and maybe shit happens but in most cases its only getting the money out of you. nevertheless will come back to LOS and enjoy it 
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20-01-2006, 00:34
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555555555555555555555555 ouch !
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20-01-2006, 00:46
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Hello Witte (is Witte the colour of your hair or from the Hoegaarden beer?)
Don't send money. If you come back in July she will anyway go with you if you want as you got something she wants: money. They are allways angry when they don't get money, but they are practical. if she doesn't have another client you are the best road to money. Up to you to go with her again or not. Personally, I would change.
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20-01-2006, 01:24
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Sorry to hear that, she sounds ungreatful indeed. I would drop her and take it as a learning experience. No I don't think you did wrong, it's your money , your choice. Goodluck.
DD
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20-01-2006, 01:34
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hahaha. that's hilarious...it would be interesting though if she wired you 4000 baht.
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20-01-2006, 01:45
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did i do wrong?
How close are you to the girl,you now best yourself.
Well if its was true that her father died and you was close to her, Would it then be so big money for you or even strange if she was asking you ? Al answers tel you that she is playing with you,only you can do is follow your inner voice and do what you feel its right. I think when you ask a question like that on this board you get the answer you want to hear. Because thats 95 % of the cases is like the BM say.
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20-01-2006, 16:14
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good heart, silly or both
well you as a good person did what you thought was right.
but me if you posted before you sent the money i would be almost crying by now. if i am too be cynical bgs work their check-list of farang for money, and know the standard lines to use. being cynical how much face did the bg lose when she bragged to her friends saying look how much money i got from him, i will get another 7000 if i am too be romantic, you had a great time with a girl and had feeling for her, and you wanted to help. if i am to be realistic i would never send the money because after a few times in los, cynicism seems to win out
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20-01-2006, 16:38
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20-01-2006, 16:45
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Dump her, do not send her money and when you return to Patong find another girl to have some fun with.
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21-01-2006, 05:36
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Up to You
We all spend money for one thing or another..so do what you feel is the right thing to do...
Take this for example...I love online sports betting...so I punt an average of 250 dollars a day on sports..this is entertainment for me during the day whilst Im at my desk at work...Now I realize this is alot of money but at the moment I can absorb this kind of cash... I too have sent money in the past and will probably do the same in future... So tell me ...sending money to BG (Makes you feel good that your helping someone(even though they might be lieing(and this forum is backing this most times))) vs punting the money on a sports game that I have no control over also... For me it the same..depends on how I feel... So therefore take the advice from experianced persons but at the end of the day/\\..Its your money and you do what you want with it.. good luck
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21-01-2006, 05:40
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250$ a day on betting. If i could afford that then id retire.
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21-01-2006, 06:04
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Easy come easy go
Yeah..I agree and most of my mates do to...its a bit high but still within my limits...
I'm on a just above average salary...but finance my bets with other investments ie Day trading (Also known to many as Gambling)... A friend of mine told me a long time ago that "you need to spend money to make money"...simple but TRUE I now follow this method but have my parameters set where I stop.... Must admitt that my last 3 trips to LOS have been totally financed with money I have won or made on bets/stocks... This is why I have been there 4 times in 14 months and would go more often but my work committments wont alow me.. Hope it works out for everyone too.>>>>
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21-01-2006, 06:16
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Witte, you obviously felt something in the first place because you paid the 12,000baht. Listen to your own mind and go with your own instincts, you have met and spent time with the girl so you are in the best position to answer your own question. None of the BM's on here know her or even met her and you want to go by what they say ?? How would anyone who has never met this girl, possibly be 100% sure if she was genuine or not ?? Listen to what is said, because there is lots of advise and information here, but only you can really answer your question.
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21-01-2006, 06:17
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gamble or western union
i gamble about 150 aus dollar a day, its my hobby.
my gf up in the village, works still pays off her motorcycle herself never asks me to pay off the motorcycle, never asks for money for university fees/books. i could do these things for her but she never asks, but she knows i would help if she really needs money. she told me in her very poor english, that i am not thai money girl who ask farang for money. i have my respect. i would never send a bg money because i am sure some other sponsor/customer will do it instead.
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21-01-2006, 09:25
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