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10-02-2006, 03:03
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Should i be worried?
So my girl went with a guy to one of the neighboring country's in Thailand. She tells me everything, and i knew why she had to go aswell and i couldnt do shit about it since i simply dont have enough money to take care of the problem. Im a wreck right now, she said she would be gone for 4 days, and would text me if the phone worked (Dtac) No texts yet and she went this tuesday. So i tried to call today and all i get is the voicebox. This guy she's with is married with children and she's known him for a long time, and he treats her ok she says.
Hell i realy hate to hear about shit like this but i prefer this over lies. WHY am i so god damn young?! I wish i had what i needed to get her out of this shit, once and for all. I know that she hates all of it but have no choice, atleast not this time. So the question is - Does Dtac (Refill) work in Malaysia? (And does it work to send SMS from it?) You hear too much bad shit about trafficking and other nasty things and im realy worried. 
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10-02-2006, 03:11
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listwen, youve known her for a total of 2 weeks. keep it casual, dont worry about what shes up to until you know her better and can make a commitment.
you have the advantage of living in a country that is easy to get visas
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10-02-2006, 03:12
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Not realy, ive known her for 3 months, and ive spent 3 weeks with her. She's totaly honest with me about anything, and i am keeping it casual, but it still worries me alot.
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10-02-2006, 03:16
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No doesn't work. Same goes for SMS. Don't worry plenty other girls are waiting for you.
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10-02-2006, 03:21
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I dont want plenty of other girls tho. But atleast its good to know that it doesnt work, so thank you. I dont wanna get a call from her mother telling me that she havent heard from her for a long time and asking me if i know where she is.
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10-02-2006, 03:24
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Why would her mother call you if she is going out with other men?
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10-02-2006, 03:48
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Looks like you are in way over your head buddy, Whats the point in starting a relationship with a girl on the other side of the world, Who you cant be with and know sleeps with other guys all the time, Regardless of whether she tells you that she does not like it, How many others hear the same story? You should cut your loses while you can, Or you will be in for a lot of heartache..... PS: Q: Should you worry about her? A: No, She has probably been doing this long before you ever met her, And is more than likely well able to take care of herself..... Thats my advice but obviously you dont want to hear that, And will carry on worrying about her until finally she breaks your heart...... Nobody ever listens to good advice until its too late, Me included 
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10-02-2006, 03:52
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Good post Ally
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10-02-2006, 03:54
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Ok im seriously screwed here, my heart is still with my girl in Thailand, I know that most of you think that its not for real, but this is different, she quit her bar down there to stay with me, or actually i quit the bar for her cause she asked me to. And now im back in Sweden, unemployed in love and heartbroken and i dont know what i can do.
This is seriously the worst problem i ever had and i see no sollution. I cant and wont just forget about her, not possible. This happend to anyone else? and if so how did you get trough it? You hear endless of stories of farangs falling in love with Thai girls, but usually they are older then me, with a steady income and a somewhat sorted life, back home. Im such a cry baby - its just that normally when you have problems like this the problem isnt on the other side of the world. Sorry I found this on thread from you. Seems you looking for some answers you only like to hear. If you don't have the money, she will get it from other persons. She is a bargirl and goes with men for living Don't think you are the special one or younger. She has to eat, paqy for her room and maybe take care of her family. You only feel sorry for yourself!
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10-02-2006, 04:03
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What are you worried about? The fact she's doing her job or are you worried she's going to Malaysia and you won't be able to reach her?
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10-02-2006, 04:04
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Feel the pain...again and again
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 Right. She's halfway round the world. Not much help to worry about what she's doing - or who she's doing. Thanks Ally.
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10-02-2006, 04:14
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by the sounds of it mate you are getting to hung up over a bird you have only seen in the flesh for 3 weeks.take it easy and chill if she is honest she will be back when she said she will. Maybe there is a problem with the phone aswell. Dont beat yourself up over it.if you are worrying then you dont trust this girl at the end of the day and why should you? i dont trust most english girls after knowing them for only 3 weeks.just relax go out and enjoy yourself. If this girl turns out to be not quite what you expected and she might well do then f*ck it ! show her the door mate . I hope it works out anyway good luck ! 
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10-02-2006, 04:31
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I know Ally you are right, very good post and i wish it was all that easy. However she's been honest with me about everything from day 1. She havent been trying to hide that she's been with alot of guys. I know she can take care of herself, she's a very strong person and she doesnt try to make it all sound good, or that she is better then the rest. We have talked about everything you can possibly talk about, And she never had a reason to lie to me about anything. She's happy as long as she and her family can get by with food on the table. She has never asked me for money, and i doubt that she ever will, i have even asked her if i could help her in any way, and she wont take money from me. forward_one: Im not looking for advices i like to hear. Im looking for fellow board members honest opinions. And as for feeling sorry for myself, you dont know me, thats all i got to say to that. Lots has happend since i wrote that post, and lots have changed aswell. Pdj: I trust her, but i dont trust the guy she's with. How could i. Whazzzup: Im worried about that she's with some guy i dont know, In another country, far away from friends and family.
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10-02-2006, 04:33
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typical birdflu!
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10-02-2006, 04:36
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only one way to fix the problem
If you want to have more sleep at night you have to decide whether you want a long term relationship or just an oversees fling...
If its the relationship you desire..then you need to get her to live with you whether its Sweden or Thailand. I understand from previous posts you mention money is a little scarce right now.Well I hope your doing something to fix this because money talks...bul*sh*t walks.... Good luck with the situation...fix it sooner rather than later...because it will eat at you always.
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10-02-2006, 04:38
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Whazzzup: Im worried about that she's with some guy i dont know, In another country, far away from friends and family.
but shes with a guy that she knows better than she knows you!
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10-02-2006, 04:44
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Marc you are right about that. And actually those words made me feel a little better, thanks mate. I actually didnt see it that way before i had it infront of me in black and white.
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10-02-2006, 04:48
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But you were the one who wrote those words.!!!!!  Quote:
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10-02-2006, 04:50
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as has been said jim
she is a bar girl !!you went to thailand and went with a bar girl!you obviosly got infatuated with her
now she is with another these bar girls are only "on hire" to us guys just like a taxi enjoy but don,t get involved ,or you will get your heart fcuked up-- as you appeared too have
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10-02-2006, 04:53
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Alfie, I had phonecalls from a BG who was with a guy in Norway. An other girl got called every evening by an Italian guy while she stayed in my bed. I believe they almost tell you everything when they don't need to play games because you know she works for money and exept that.
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10-02-2006, 04:55
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Except that i didnt hire her.
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10-02-2006, 04:59
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Only free ride Mate?
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10-02-2006, 05:00
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If you worry about her safety I think it's better to have one guy for 2 or 3 weeks then multiple guys for short time. This guy she met before and he seemed to have treated her fine. He just seems to be a good customer to her, nothing more. I don't think it doesn't make much difference if she's in Malaysia or for example Phi Phi islands. At the moment you can't stop her being a bargirl. If you want to continue this relationship. You have to back off a bit and start trusting her. You wouldn't be this worried if you really did. All you can do is get a job and start saving money fast, so you will be able to get her to Sweden (or Spain).
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