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06-05-2004, 22:32
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wot u guys do to take your mind off los?
i only been back a few days and was meant to still be there,but sh it happens and i aint.but what do u lot do to take your mind off the place,i find myself coming to this forum every 5 minutes and its doing my head in.i need to try to forget about the place for a while at least.
any ideas please. i am desperate and depressed as hell steve
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#2
06-05-2004, 22:41
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My mate and me call that the After-LOS-Depression.
Last year I was 3 1/2 weeks in LOS. This time it hitted me hard. I needed to months to get normal again. The only medecine I would say works is to book your next flight  That worked.
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06-05-2004, 22:49
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what makes it worse is certain young lady is calling me everyday ,shi t after all the advice we give to other members about falling for these girls and just look at me now , wasnt in the uk 24hrs and i had split up with english g.f, dropping work and trying to get back out there straight away, did i have one to many black deaths and bang my head ,will somebody tell me ?
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06-05-2004, 22:52
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Lots of work and start to plan next trip...
Picked up my ticket today, leave Sweden June 13 and go home August 6. Already started to worry about the depression im going to get when i come home....
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06-05-2004, 22:55
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No known cure...
As far as I know there is no cure; you can treat the symptoms by planning your next trip, but like genital warts the infection just lies dormant there. Fortunately the outcome is a lot nicer than genital warts, it results in another trip to Thailand.
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06-05-2004, 22:58
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EVERY TROOP FEELS THAT WAY STEVE...........
ITS A BUMMER....BUT AS TARZAN SAYS..PLENTY OF WORK AND THINK OF THE NEXT TOUR......... OR THINK OF POOR OLE ME AND MY TOUR IN JULY......... HEDS UP MATE......ULL BE OK IN A FEW WEEKS TIME........ JONNY 
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06-05-2004, 23:27
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trouble is it becomes addictive and just make me feel worse, as for the rain its pouring down here but i know where i would rather be
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07-05-2004, 00:37
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have been there now 3 times, the 1st time was the worst... 2 months of revalidation at least, felt better after reading many books about LOS, also that one u can only download... private dancer, although i am not a regular book reader, this book was finished before i knew
the books helped me a lot, friends... couldnt talk with em, they didnt understand anyway. But met a couple of dutch guys in Patong, went there occasionally, subject of those evening was clear... LOS LOS LOS... talking with friends whom understand also helps a lot.What has changed? my whole fukcing life, n it still is after i went to LOS especially after the 1st time didnt go partying anymore... i saw things in a diffirent way, everything was sh it compared with the mighty LOS.One year after the 1st time: so that will b 2nd time  (stayed twice a s long as the 1st) same feeling happend, but less intense as the 1st time... this time i discoverd the forum... this was a great help... that time i was an active poster at this forum. 3th time.. stayed 3 months, this time when i came back strangely enough no feelings of missing LOS a lot, not that i wouldnt go anymore, but things have changed... maybe it's also due to a lovely thai girl i have met, here in holland, where i have plans with for the future 
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07-05-2004, 05:32
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Dirty Mikes answer to beat 'the blues'
Hi Steve,
Focus my son. You look the wrong way. You should be thinking of the happy times you had then, not the miserable times now. You KNOW you will be back. That is more than most 'normal' people will get. Do what I do. Whenever you feel down, just try to think of THREE things (picture them in your mind) that made you really happy in Thailand, whatever it is. Then realise you are LUCKY. Then, Take a quick 5 minute toilet break and toss yourself off This helps me through the day :o :o :o
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07-05-2004, 07:38
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5 Minutes...
I feel for you Steve. I feel so badly for you that I am going to LOS next week on your behalf!!
I think that Thailand simply gets under your skin and itches away. I can often be found sitting at y desk staring into space and remembering what it was like to sit under the setting sun with three lovely girls all smiling and laughing at my feeble thai conversation. I remember what it was like to wake up in the morning with some lovely girl who has been more passionate and loving than any of my "real" girlfriends all for the cost of a packet of fags and a couple of pints of lager. I remember the hot green curry, the black death, the smell of the sewers and the noise of the Bangla road. Sorry Steve I feel for you. I did read a book the other night called "The Best a Man can get" by John o'farrell. Nothing to do with Thailand and quite funny. That took my mind of it for three minutes... Mac
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07-05-2004, 15:25
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Simple Really.....
just start planning your next trip ( as there always will be one ) I mainly do two things back home 1. Work and save 2. Plan next trip. that's it !
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07-05-2004, 18:52
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Book your next flight ticket is always a good cure as I said. But there are some others.
I was in LOS only two times. First time in feb 2002 for one week. There i got the patong virus A few days after this trip i had a relation for until august last year. So for a very long time i couldn't go back. But i didn't miss LOS in this time because i had a wonderful girlfriend at this time. As soon as I was single again i called my mate and he booked the flight for our second tour of duty, the lions were ready for the feeding. But it took still 2 months to wait, and in this time could happen a lot. So one day i went in a disco and met a thai-girl. And this one was a real stunner. We got togheter in a open relationship where sex was the main thing. I told her that i will go to LOS. And then she said me she goes at this time to LOS too and wanted to join us there. I said "well no problem, but bring also some entertainment for my mate" (she did) So we stayed togheter in LOS for 4 days (after that she went back europe) I think this 4 days were the best days of the whole trip But the contact still exists. so why to go to LOS?Sorry guys i floated away from the subject. But historys like this makes it easier to survive outside LOS. And will go this year to LOS again for sure. And i know the date. 24 december. To know this helps me a lot. And at new years eve i'm in patong. cya there! Maybe i will go for a short trip in august but this isn't sure.
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07-05-2004, 20:09
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Hi Steve
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I have to stay here and work until christmas, and Im probably going to invite a thai-lady to visit me during the summer. ps. My apartment really need to be cleaned, and Im desperat for some thai...........
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07-05-2004, 21:38
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already booked for august 6th,but that dont make the 12 weeks until then go any faster.  steve
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08-05-2004, 04:05
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'withdrawal' Symptoms
Hi to all on this thread . . .
I have been reading your views on how to treat the various levels of depression, following your collective returns to reality, back to your home countries. My first trip to Phuket (Patong) was in 2000, although I had been to other parts of Thailand on a couple of occasions before that. I was totally obsessed with the place and returned home after my two week holiday, in a very depressed state. So much so, that after two weeks at home I went back to Patong for a further two weeks! In hindsight, perhaps I shouldn't have done the second trip so close to the first, as my small circle of friends were becoming quite concerned for me, as I no longer had any conversation in me at all, apart from things 'Thai'. My female friends became very wary of my advances, and worried about my liaisons with ladies in Patong. It got to the stage that my friends were avoiding me, lest they be subjected to another evening of totally Thailand related conversation. The females were talking about me amongst themselves and collectively put up a 'no go' barrier, which meant that my usual avenues for a bit of c*nt in NZ was all but removed. One of my long-time mates sat me down over a few drinks and explained the above situation to me and told me that I had to consciously avoid reference to anything Thai whilst in their company. It worked! After a short while, it was they that were asking me various quesions about my trips, and I made sure that my answers were short and to-the-point, leaving room for more questions. Gradually, and after an HIV test around 3 months after the last trip, I managed to reverse any fears that existed amongst the ladies. It was hard work, but because I was determined not to lose my small circle of friends, in a country that I have to spend 48 weeks a year in, it was necessary. I guess what I am saying is that my attitude towards my trips to Thailand has changed from one of a 24 hour / 7 day a week obsession, to one of working towards an annual goal of 3-4 weeks holiday in Thailand. Most of you are already planning another 1-2 trips this year. For those able to do so, I applaud you all, but to say I am envious, would not be strictly true. I think that a lot of your common depression problems stem from the fact that you are not giving yourselves a chance to come down to earth between your trips. The idea of another trip to Phuket, is over-riding the reality of where you are living, and earning the money to enable you to travel. I know that if I had continued with my obsessive attitude, I would have very few friends left and would probably have to be celebate for 11 months of the year. I know as far as myself is concerned, that my once-only annual holiday has gained a lot more importance and excitement for me, than if I was visiting there every 3-4 months. They say that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder', and in my case this certainly applies to my attitude towards Thailand. Just an opinion !!! Cheers Pdm3
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08-05-2004, 04:35
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i agree with most stuff you say mate but i just hate england and work here.just as every 1 else probably feels about there own situation.i wasnt planning a trip so soon as i was gonna go back xmas,as i started to realise after having a 5 month break between my 3rd and 4th trip that the further you leave the gap the better as you say.but i have 2 friends going in august and that topped with the unfortunate incidence of cutting short this last trip means i have some extra days,so i may as well squeeze them in with my friends.
my friends enjoy my thailand stories but i dont subject them to them unless they ask.as for ladies,all the females i am friends with i keep at arms length.they are friends and that is it,i wouldnt bed any of them and i am pretty,no 100% sure they wouldnt bed me.especially since they found out the things i get upto in los.but when i out on the prowl in england my friends both male and female dont say anything to any prospective merchandise i may aquire in a bar/club. i guess i miss the place because i have made so many friends there.in the uk i work crap hours and get to see my friends on a weekend.so usually friday and saturday i ok.this week i skint due to my return from los so i cant afford to go out,but time drags for me sundays thru thursdays,and i find myself looking at these forums for hours on end.i guess i need a hobby.and 1 that involves me moving away from my pc and getting rid of the asian mags under my mattress steve
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08-05-2004, 14:05
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IT IS TOUGH BEING BACK AT HOME AFTER A TOUR OF LOS..AND I TO HAD THE SAME PROBLEM AS PDM3..EVERYTHING THAT CAME OUT OF MY MOUTH WAS ABOUT LOS........BUT MOST OF MY FRIENDS JUST HAVE A LAUGH AND A GIGGLE...THESE DAYS TIMES ARE TOUGH........ .I LOOK AT THE FORUM FOR HOURS ON END........I GET NO WORK DONE BUT WHO GIVES A TOSS......
I HATE IRELAND AND I HATE THE WEATHER.........BUT THATS LIFE...THIS IS WHERE GOD HAS PUT ME......THE TWO THINGS I LOOK FOWARD TO ARE THE MONTH OF JULY AND THE 3 WEEKS ARUND CRIMBO AND THE NEW YEAR.....THATS WHAT KEEPS ME GOING..... BY THE WAY STEVE I HAVE TAKEN UP A HOBBY......IM BACK PLAYING SUNDAY MORNIN FOOTY .....AT 36......MY BODY ACHES FOR ABOUT 2 DAYS AFTER EVERY GAME....HA HA...... ROLL ON JULY.....53 DAYS AND COUNTING............. JONNY
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09-05-2004, 03:37
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Irish Blues
This is really the problem isn't it Jonny. I sit on the M25, I watch the rain, I deal with tedious issues all day. When I am in LOS I smile, I am happy and the sun shines sometimes. It is not just the girls, the beer, the beach and the easy life. It is the fun, the excitement and feeling of general well being. Heathrow customs, the M25 and the rain soon puts paid to that on the return and its back to the tedious grind of life here in the UK.
PDM3 is right of course and we all should "get out more" but to be frank I no longer fancy western women who bore me to tears, are quite ugly really and no fun. One solution is to go out with a Thai girl here I suppose but like a pernod in the south of france I am not sure that they would travel well really. It doesn't taste the same in the rain. Perhaps we are all suffering from Post Traumatic Stress caused by too much boum boum... followed by long periods of abstinence. I have worked out that it is easier to fly to Bangkok for the weekend than it is to take a girl out in London, listen to all her problems and end up being a "good friend". It is also probably cheaper! It is certainly more fun and less complicated. Mac
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09-05-2004, 05:32
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Feelings of remorse
I'm booked to be up there from the 20th May for about ten days after 3 days in BK you guys are depressing me into changing my flight...
Just discovered this site, anyone else going to be there in about ten days time. I was there in 2001 had similar problems, book your next trip ASAP only cure. Whats the best place to stay in Patong any advice.
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09-05-2004, 05:42
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Thai girls are fun but it's bloody hard to get them to contribute to any weekly expenses unless you come up with an idea to make money while your based in Phuket or you have a really good trust fund your stuck between the UK and Paradise.
The longer you don't go back the easier it is to stay away but thats no fun!!!
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