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chloe · #1 01-08-2007, 09:40

i've known a guy for few years. yesterday was the first time he met me (he flew all the way from london to kuala lumpur). I asked him not to get anything for me but he gave me alot of presents like perfume and a recipe book as i like to cook. Not to mention that he even bought me my favourite rice puddings and chocolates.

He said he likes me.. does it mean that he has the intention of taking a step further or just liking as a friend?

Mav · #2 01-08-2007, 09:56

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Originally Posted by chloe

i've known a guy for few years. yesterday was the first time he met me (he flew all the way from london to kuala lumpur). I asked him not to get anything for me but he gave me alot of presents like perfume and a recipe book as i like to cook. Not to mention that he even bought me my favourite rice puddings and chocolates.

He said he likes me.. does it mean that he has the intention of taking a step further or just liking as a friend?

l would think with presents like that, he may want to get to know you first, with possible serious intentions if you hit it off.

chloe · #3 01-08-2007, 10:01

i can't be too sure of him and his thoughts as he told me that he had been single for some time. furthermore he said he'd like to focus on his career.

he kept looking at me yesterday.. and i just shied away.. I'm not too used to ppl looking at me.

he made me feel special and i don't want to make assumptions..

LivinLOS · #4 01-08-2007, 10:04

He flew round the world to see you bringing gifts..

Believe when I say men dont do that to meet a woman just to be friends.. He wants you.

chloe · #5 01-08-2007, 10:10

livinLOS & MAV : so u guys mean.. it's most likely that he's not really into just friends? anyway he never confess or anything.. he just said he likes me and that doesn't mean anything isn't?

ivanlim · #6 01-08-2007, 10:20

this might sound chauvinistic and a little rude, but I think he hopes to get lucky.

in any case, you should let him know where you stand at the moment.
(even if you don't know where you stand, let him know you don't know where you stand)

saves a lot of trouble and kinda prevents the: 'but you led me on. i flew all the way from london' speech.

btw, selamat datang kaki lang.

chloe · #7 01-08-2007, 10:24

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Originally Posted by ivanlim

this might sound chauvinistic and a little rude, but I think he hopes to get lucky.

in any case, you should let him know where you stand at the moment.
(even if you don't know where you stand, let him know you don't know where you stand)

saves a lot of trouble and kinda prevents the: 'but you led me on. i flew all the way from london' speech.

btw, selamat datang kaki lang.

thanks alot ivan, for your input. i think it could be anything. that's y i hate guessing

terima kasih abang..

Mav · #8 01-08-2007, 10:37

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Originally Posted by ivanlim

this might sound chauvinistic and a little rude, but I think he hopes to get lucky.

in any case, you should let him know where you stand at the moment.
(even if you don't know where you stand, let him know you don't know where you stand)

saves a lot of trouble and kinda prevents the: 'but you led me on. i flew all the way from london' speech.

l would say Ivan is 100% spot on here...........good advice

randy1 · #9 01-08-2007, 11:21

Why guess, ask him or better yet if you like him jump on him. He did not travel from England just to shake your hand. Remember different cultures have different nonverbal signals. Be very clear in your speach. He is probly shy, if he wan't there would be no questions. Good luck!

ivanlim · #10 01-08-2007, 11:23

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Originally Posted by Mav

l would say Ivan is 100% spot on here...........good advice

Awww, Mav. You're too kind. I'm probably only 99.9% spot on. He could be a Hasher. LOL.

Mav · #11 01-08-2007, 11:27

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Originally Posted by ivanlim

He could be a Hasher. LOL.

In that case.......Bash the Ba$tard

crazy_gman · #12 01-08-2007, 11:29

Cloe, if he traveled from London to KL just to see you, then I would say he likes you more than firends, but like others have said, just ask him. I take it you just want to be friends with him?
Good Luck and don't do anything just because you feel bad or anything, do what you want.

LivinLOS · #13 01-08-2007, 11:30

He has said he hasnt been in a relationship for a while.. Makes the excuse thats due to work.. Its quite possible hes not been dating much and its made him shy or he has a fear of rejection.. Some guys are uptight about making that move.

Hes flown around the world bearing gifts.. He likes you.. Toss the salad and your in !!

ATMwalking · #14 01-08-2007, 12:47

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Originally Posted by chloe

i've known a guy for few years. yesterday was the first time he met me (he flew all the way from london to kuala lumpur). I asked him not to get anything for me but he gave me alot of presents like perfume and a recipe book as i like to cook. Not to mention that he even bought me my favourite rice puddings and chocolates.

He said he likes me.. does it mean that he has the intention of taking a step further or just liking as a friend?

You aren't really this naive are you? If you don't mind my asking, how old are you?

If he thought of you as just a friend, he would call you for free on Skype. A guy in this situation expects to get laid.

K2 · #15 01-08-2007, 13:08

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Originally Posted by LivinLOS

Toss the salad and your in !!

WHAT !!!!!!!! Pardon me old boy .... perhaps thats a step to far

(Well at least on a first date ... maybe 'some' BM's on here might go that far!!)

easyrider_au · #16 01-08-2007, 13:15

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Originally Posted by chloe

i've known a guy for few years. yesterday was the first time he met me (he flew all the way from london to kuala lumpur). I asked him not to get anything for me but he gave me alot of presents like perfume and a recipe book as i like to cook. Not to mention that he even bought me my favourite rice puddings and chocolates.

He said he likes me.. does it mean that he has the intention of taking a step further or just liking as a friend?

This has got to be a wind up, hasn't it?

Go ask your girlfriends..........Or.......Send a letter into one of those girlie magazines.

This is not the kind of forum,for asking those kind of questions.

ivanlim · #17 01-08-2007, 13:34

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Originally Posted by easyrider_au

This has got to be a wind up, hasn't it?

Go ask your girlfriends..........Or.......Send a letter into one of those girlie magazines.

This is not the kind of forum,for asking those kind of questions.

aww, c'mon. play nice.
new posters don't know any better.
(I myself, am still learning the rules of engagement on this forum)

While your post was valid, I'm sure you could have answered civilly.
ps. not knocking you, ok? just an observation.

Bello Uomo · #18 01-08-2007, 15:24

This really hasn't got much to do with Phuket tourism, but, yes Chloe, he wants you for more than a friend!! He has INTENTIONS.

I once drove 45 minutes to meet a girl. That's twice as far as I normally travel. She knew I was serious then.

Nanook · #19 01-08-2007, 15:30

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Originally Posted by ivanlim

this might sound chauvinistic and a little rude, but I think he hopes to get lucky.

in any case, you should let him know where you stand at the moment.
(even if you don't know where you stand, let him know you don't know where you stand)

saves a lot of trouble and kinda prevents the: 'but you led me on. i flew all the way from london' speech.

btw, selamat datang kaki lang.

Selamat Datang Chloe, apa kabar?

I think I agree with Ivanlim here. The guy sits in an airplane for about 12 hours to meet with you, so he is very interested in you. You say you are a bit shy on this situation, but he may be even more shy than you.

Think good what you would really like yourself. What is your impresion of him? Do you (start to) like him?
And make sure you tell him so in clear language, so mis-understandings can be avoided as much as possible.

Success and selamat jalan.

eric-the-viking · #20 01-08-2007, 16:30

wow he flew half way around the world bringing you a tin of RICE PUDDING smooooooooooooooth operator or what

dennisinkamala · #21 01-08-2007, 18:32

As a male and previous GM & RA of a hash I have the worldly experience to inform you that this pudding carrier has 2 things on his mind:

1. Getting you to cook

2. Body slapping

After that, its up to you.

Den

steve w · #22 01-08-2007, 18:43

carrying rice pudding 7000 miles for a lady ,he has got to be mega-serious!

nacha · #23 01-08-2007, 19:12

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Originally Posted by Nanook

Sleamat Datang Chloe, apa kabar?

I think I agree with Ivanlim here. The guy sits in an airplane for about 12 hours to meet with you, so he is very interested in you. You say you are a bit shy on this situation, but he may be even more shy than you.

Think good what you would really like yourself. What is your impresion of him? Do you (start to) like him?
And make sure you tell him so in clear language, so mis-understandings can be avoided as much as possible.

Success and selamat jalan.

would you fly to someone 12 hours (you maybe don`t really know) if you are shy person?
i wouldn`t!! but wait... i`m going to do the same

btw: welcome to the board, chloe!

Nanook · #24 01-08-2007, 19:17

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Originally Posted by nacha

would you fly to someone 12 hours (you maybe don`t really know) if you are shy person?
i wouldn`t!! but wait... i`m going to do the same

btw: welcome to the board, chloe!

Haha, dunno, but yet then again I am not really a shy guy. I did fly 12 hours though to go and see my GF up in the village and meet her family...

Does that count too?