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12-10-2007, 04:36
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Sponsorship.. Whadya Think.. Really??
This post is difficult to write for many reasons but it is a post that I would have liked someone else to write as I would like to view some opinions.
‘SPONSORSHIP’ as it is referred to, what is your personal position and opinion of it? Reason is that I had become aware of it well before I travelled to LOS and, being a bit of a cynic and not easily taken in (??), I KNEW it was something I would avoid and not fall into the trap of. Famous last thoughts! Recently I made a conscious decision to support my GF, knowing the potential pitfalls, history of many etc and my view has obviously done a 180 turnaround. I justify it by knowing I am not sending anything that I cant afford and that I am sending sufficient for her not to have to ‘work’ if she chooses not to. I also realise that it may all go south and I will be just another statistic. That does not bother me. Sh*t happens. Nor does admitting to being a ‘sponsor’ as I now view that position differently. So guys Have you sponsored Did it work for you How do you feel about sponsorship Girls, Whats your view on Sponsors?? I did promise on a previous post Id hold my hands up if I got caught, this is that confession!!!
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12-10-2007, 05:15
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i don't do sponsoring!
as i told my G/F at day 1 we met.
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12-10-2007, 05:25
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I guess it would depend on how often you will be spending time with her and if you are planning a long term future together. You haven't stated why you are sponsoring her. Looks like you are giving her the option to stay in the game if she chooses. What is your plan?
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12-10-2007, 05:34
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After my 1st trip I did it for about 5 months. For some odd reason during my second trip the girl went MIA. Through the BG network I found out she was in Pattaya. What got me upset at the time is that we had plan a Hong Kong long weekend together. Moral of the story, if I'm not onsite $$$ will not exchange hands.
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12-10-2007, 05:43
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Good questions: As much time as pos. probably 1-2 weeks a month Long term?? Who knows, too early to say. Why? Simply because I care and I can I am indeed giving her the option of making the decisions I have no plan or expecations, hence the post!!
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12-10-2007, 05:45
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Once bitten.. I can see that
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12-10-2007, 05:48
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I think it may be a good idea if you in short time want to commit/have a future together. It gives you good will but there is also a lot of bad experiences. Dont do it if you dont plan to commit shortly for a future together.
I would like to point out, what I have seen, it doesnt give you any owning rights, just good will. The girls may have more than one sponsor, but they barely admit that. They keep their doors/possibilities open as long you are not fully comitted; thus, you live with her in Thailand or you bring her to your country. I know a lot of guys are upset when they find out he is not the only one, but if you dont live together then dont expect her to care about only you. There are always exceptions thought.
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12-10-2007, 05:49
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:-) Funny you come back with this, are you sure you really wanted to avoid this ? I seem to remember that you actually looked forward to it 5555 Quote:
Anyhow, guess it's impossible to tell you when no one really knows the girl and the relationship you have with her. Just one thought which crossed my mind. If I get it right, you are about to move to Phuket for some time. I can imagine it would be more fun if you experience this alone at the beginning and not while being involved in a relationship, but then again, who knows, maybe it all works out perfectly for the 2 of you...it did for me. Good luck !
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12-10-2007, 05:50
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i have sponsored a dart team , a bowling team and a shooting team
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12-10-2007, 05:54
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I think I'm confused on something. Are you giving her the option to stay in the game while being sponsored? Or is it one or the other?
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12-10-2007, 05:56
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Excellent reply Nicke and I do not expect oning rights or any other and I am experienced enough to take the knocks, if they come. As you have seen us together more than most you probably know that I am prepared to commit in the short term.... maybe!?
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12-10-2007, 05:57
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To me the word "sponsor" has a negative and temporary connotation, however, that is often what it happens to be.
Before even talking about finances, I would take a good look at the goal. It this someone you plan to live with in a foreseeable future or is it more like an exclusive lease. If the plans are for you to live together (here or there) and perhaps merry and the time line is mutually understood and workable, then it may just make sense. Add to that an understanding of the risks. I think that most will agree that for some it can work and for some it will not. Keep in mind that a girl a half a world away can only wait so long to actually be with her prince. Once you have a plan with a reasonable time line and is emotionally aware of / prepared for the risks ... and the funds to support her in the interim period is something you can easily afford, then by all means. Maybe it is worth mentioning again, as good as this may seem and sound, it still may be a setup. It may also be a heavens sent. If you choose to sponsor her just to get her out of the bar and to have an exclusive girlfriend for your convenience when you go to LOS, then forget it. Just my opinion ... take it with a grain of salt.
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12-10-2007, 05:58
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That was a tongue in cheek comment ya beggar!! Im moving to Penang and visitin Phuket about 50% of the year.
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12-10-2007, 06:00
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First off, good luck and hope it all works out well for you.
Like you were initially I am now as I am relatively new to the scene. I am in daily contact with a friend from Patong and hope I am not asked to sponsor. I know if ever I were to, it does not guarantee anything in the future. Even w/out sponsorship, I know that my friend could suddenly disappear. I don't blame her for doing so at the same time if it will give her a better life. I just take one day at a time. I guess my view is still developing.
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12-10-2007, 06:02
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Are you still sponsoring the baby chang?
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12-10-2007, 06:07
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No pinch of salt mate, Ive read many of your posts and found them thought provoking. Your comments are analytical and on the mark. Setup, I dont think so but, who knows. I wont be more than an hours flight away so no issues there. I do want her out of the bar and maybe Ive already achieved that, I dont know, trust is something that is built not given. At the mo my plans are flexible and non existent really, just seeing where it goes, I aint too fussed re the financial thing, its either an investment or a giveaway, either way I wont be whining about it.
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12-10-2007, 06:08
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You forgot the brewery 
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12-10-2007, 06:13
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Have to say that the sponsorship was my idea entirely, although I suspect many farangs think that!!
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12-10-2007, 06:14
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One more please, just for the record 5555 Hope you forgive me ! Quote:
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