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marc26 · #1 11-12-2004, 14:13

i just checked my e-mail and my ex-gf, the love of my life, just sent me a great e-mail. do alot of you guys have serious gf's, date alot or just wait tl you go to LOS? my friend who lived in LOS for a year and has been to holiday doesnt bother with western gils anymore, and belive me, he has banged some of the hottest girls in the US. il probably settle down with my ex-gf after this long beak im on. with all the games that go on with he bg's, sometimes its nice to remember that girl at home, and makes all this bg crap insigniificant.

ancientmariner · #2 11-12-2004, 15:26

I’ve retired from dating. I think eventually I’m going to build myself a hut in the woods and be a hermit. It’s bloody selfish but the world can live without me.

tintin · #3 11-12-2004, 15:28

Hey AM, feeling lonley this christmas?

Just pick up a girl and have fun! It is lonely in the woods as it can be on my mountain!

JayBee · #4 11-12-2004, 15:43

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Originally Posted by marc26

i just checked my e-mail and my ex-gf, the love of my life, just sent me a great e-mail. do alot of you guys have serious gf's, date alot or just wait tl you go to LOS? my friend who lived in LOS for a year and has been to holiday doesnt bother with western gils anymore, and belive me, he has banged some of the hottest girls in the US. il probably settle down with my ex-gf after this long beak im on. with all the games that go on with he bg's, sometimes its nice to remember that girl at home, and makes all this bg crap insigniificant.

About 10 years ago, I remember talking to a buddy of mine who had been to LOS many times already(I never had been then), and he said that he never bothered with farang chicks anymore, but waited til he spent 3 to 4 months in LOS each winter. Some years after that I got divorced and we had the same conversation again. I thought he was crazy. I mean who could go 8 or 9 months without getting laid. He must be nuts. I was still chasing any chick who wasn't fat and ugly, and if I really got hard up, maybe even a cute fat one on occasion.

And I had a lot of fun doing it.

I had never been to LOS. After a couple of years, it started to seem less like fun and more like work. Going out on a first date was too much like a job interview! Then I went to LOS! Now the only time I bother with farang chicks is when I first get back from LOS and I am used to that female companionship, and after having BGs tell me how handsome I am for the previous month or two, I think, "Sure, why not, they'd be lucky to have me."

And the increased confidence does make it easier to pull chicks. But gradually, the whole process of dating wears on me and before long it seems like work again, not worth the bother. In the past two weeks, I've had one chick ask me out twice, and another once. I said maybe, I'll call you back, but I never did. Of course, they are not babes, either.

So I'm itchin' to get on a plane back to LOS. BG or not, I could never get as good of treatment from a comparable looking woman here without having to jump through hoops like a circus dog, and sell my soul to them, signed and notarized in my blood! For what they offer, it is not a great deal here for me.

I'm just not into the 50/50 arrangement for decision-making, etc. When a woman wants you to agree to give her equal say in decisions, especially financial ones, then it is no longer 50/50, because they still want deferential treatment in most matters. You know, treating them like a lady, etc. 50/50 is a veto power that they will use to control your life. I feel that women should have the final say in most matters concerning the raising of children, if she is a good mother. But on all other matters, it should be the man who makes the final decisions, unless he feels that his wife is more competent than him and is willing to cede the decision-making power to her.

Women already have an advantage on men when it comes to sex. Because men are hornier and need sex, then women use that to control men. They use the whole love and fidelity thing to make a man feel guilty if he cheats, but IMHO, if a woman withholds sexual gratification from a man, particularly in an attempt to get her way in other matters, then a man has every right to "cheat", because she is cheating him out of the implied agreement that marriage includes sexual satisfaction for the man. If it didn't include sex, an adequate amount of it, why would any man get married unless he was a sexless wimp in the first place.

Wow! What was the question?

Got a little carried away there!

JayBee

marc26 · #5 11-12-2004, 18:43

i wasnt really talking about dating, although i love that too. i think its so much fun to go out on1st date and see what hppens, if theres chemistry. on some dates, you can actully feel the attraction getting stronger, the girl getting closer by the inch little more throughout the date. i miss that challenge in los. also, where i live, Hoboken, NJ is a young town, very fun and easy to meet girls.
but i was really talkng about a special girl.i love the innocet, child-like ways of TG's but with a real special girl from home, you have an equal, someone who challenges you intellectually. ill tell you right now, alot of who i am today, is because of one girl at home. she is very high maintenace(yet very good morals and values) and she pushed my ass in college to go to school and then to get a good job. mind yo, she hasnt met a pair of 600usd shoes or 200usd jeans she didnt buy, but besides material things, which is i think alot of issues we have with farang girls, she is great.
so i guess my question, again, was if people have someone special at home. ive been going back and forth with my gf for 9 years and to his day, i get excited when i see her # on my caller ID.i think if you have someone at home it helps you deal with the "business " side when it comes to BG's. ill tell you if i didnt have someone at home, i could see mysef getting upset and jealous with a BG.

LivinLOS · #6 11-12-2004, 19:57

Had girls wherever I have lived worldwide.. I am certainly no looker but have a lot of travelling under my belt (hence tales and anecdotes) and a bucket load of confidence so i guess that translates into some kind of charisma..

But I dont agree about being intellectually stimulated only by girls from home.. The one I lost was one of the smartest people I ever met (especially at reading people.. Essential for a street kid) but of course once dealing with limited english (our fault we dont speak Thai) then things do get less intellectual..

There a line in a Gene Hackman movie where he is the older man dating the trophy bride and someone asks him what do you talk about.. He replies (paraphrased) thats just it, girls dont talk they laugh, they glow.. If I want to talk about the S&P I will call my broker !!!

Anyway I think my sig says it all..

butterflyblonde · #7 11-12-2004, 23:56

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Originally Posted by ancientmariner

I’ve retired from dating. I think eventually I’m going to build myself a hut in the woods and be a hermit. It’s bloody selfish but the world can live without me.

That opening line is an absolute classic...

Mac · #8 12-12-2004, 08:38

Hi Jaybee
Good post and I agree with you in general. I think that the problem in the UK is that after the third date a kind of implicit one-way contract is signed whereby you will be monogomous and she will start to take control and make you a better person. It will start with a mild rearrangement of the furniture in your home, and end with throwing out your favourite pullover that you have been happily wearing for years.

In the west sex is a tool which appears to be used to manipulate situations. It is not freely given and is "a big thing". In LOS, sex is trivial, uncomplicated and good fun. I want to have sex but I do not really want my life turned upside down for a quick bunk up and I do like that old pullover too.

I can live happily with my children and do not need a full time life partner. I like to meet up with friends and have occasional sex in the UK. But when I go to LOS I can let my hair down, not worry too much about commitment and enjoy it for what it is. A really good time.

Just my thoughts.
Mac

dude · #9 13-12-2004, 06:28

Always make sure you have a couple of girls on the go in farang land.
Doesn't make much sense to wait 95% of your time to get laid only when LOS

Robo(sydney) · #10 13-12-2004, 14:20

I use to go out on regular dates before going to LOS...Some night's we had fun others night's I couldn't leave quickly enough.
This could be an unusual way of measuring fun but I have noticed that when I work on a potential woman in Oz...most times it's a pain and it takes for ever to be relaxed...and for some reason I don't drink as much...on the other hand when in LOS I can party all night for 10 days straight and still be up for the next nights events...it's just another world were the only thing that matter is having FUN.

aussie dollar · #11 13-12-2004, 14:36

1/Date in sydney australia costs
$40 aust for taxi
$120 aust for dinner
$40 aust for drinks
total $200 min with a bit of sex later maybe on 1st date
normally for me date no 2 for sex like to get to know girl first
then think they own you!

2/ pro for 1 hour $200 aust no attachments

3/wait for LOS trip twice a year
BF $8 aust
Drinks $45 aust
LT $35.00 aust
dinner $20.00 aust
$108 aust the better deal and if it doesnt work out,new one next night !

No i dont take australian girls out any more,for the above reasons!!

IRISH JONNY · #12 13-12-2004, 14:49

Me And Girls Back Home.............tgs For Me....
I Just Dont Waste My Time...........or The Girls Time......
I Just Dont Have Any Interst In Farang Chicks.they Dont Do It For Me..most Of Them Are All Me Me Me Me.................
Fcuk Em....well Not Litereally.
Jonny

JayBee · #13 13-12-2004, 15:19

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Originally Posted by Mac

Hi Jaybee
Good post and I agree with you in general. I think that the problem in the UK is that after the third date a kind of implicit one-way contract is signed whereby you will be monogomous and she will start to take control and make you a better person. It will start with a mild rearrangement of the furniture in your home, and end with throwing out your favourite pullover that you have been happily wearing for years.

In the west sex is a tool which appears to be used to manipulate situations. It is not freely given and is "a big thing". In LOS, sex is trivial, uncomplicated and good fun. I want to have sex but I do not really want my life turned upside down for a quick bunk up and I do like that old pullover too.

I can live happily with my children and do not need a full time life partner. I like to meet up with friends and have occasional sex in the UK. But when I go to LOS I can let my hair down, not worry too much about commitment and enjoy it for what it is. A really good time.

Just my thoughts.
Mac

Mac, Your thoughts and mine coincide very closely, although you express yourself more concisely. I'm a bit of a rambler. Same same for AD, ROBO, and IJ, more or less. Since I have children, too, the love of a woman is a little easier to do without, because I have these two who are so very close to me.

JayBee

JayBee · #14 13-12-2004, 15:31

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Originally Posted by marc26

.i love the innocet, child-like ways of TG's but with a real special girl from home, you have an equal, someone who challenges you intellectually.

Hi Marc,

I'm with LivinLOS on this one.

I don't want an intellectual challenge. I can always take a course at the university or join a chess club if I need that! In fact, trying to learn Thai is pretty intellectually challenging. One of the regulars in my Thai class is a world-renowned physics professor at UC Berkeley, cutting edge research only, no classes. He does gives lectures internationally and is a semi-regular speaker at U. of Chiang Mai. He just came back from two weeks all expenses paid trip there. Free trips and an an excuse to get away form the wifey(not that he doesn't love her dearly, you understand). Also a Japanese engineer who is a bit of a genius, and a farang engineer who does water system projects in LOS.

And I especially don't want an equal.

That 50/50 relationship crap is a deadly trap. TMA and don't fall into it. If you do, the odds are about 90% that you'll go through a very expensive divorce that will sap you financially in 15 years or less.

If you make it that long, it will probably just be a "for the sake of the kids" type of thing.

You've tasted the forbidden fruit, my friend! There's no going back. Don't kid yourself.

OTOH, I wonder if MGs make good wives.

JayBee