Is it all fair in love, war & busting LBFM's?

[MiniMaker]

Hi there,

I'm wondering how you all feel about other BM's chasing after girls you're sweet on, or that you've reported on, or are planning to go back and visit again with thoughts other than sex?.

I've noticed in some of the reports that some BM's are still in contact with their teelaks and are planning to hook up in the near future.
In the meantime other hungry BM's are on the prowl, specifically looking for your girl/s (or LB/s...).

Is there an unspoken agreement?.

Should there be?.

Do you also want to know what they're up to when you're not there, if another BM is on tour and spots/finds out about and/or takes them?.

I believe that most people here are aware of what the girls have to do to get by.
It's one thing knowing subconsciously that they're having sex with other people for their job, but another thing altogether if a BM is reporting/bragging about it, in great detail, on the board.

How much detail is ok?.

Is it an anything goes, open season, warts an' all affair, or is some sensitivity required?.

The reason I ask is I feel that the tone of the board has changed somewhat from when I first started visiting at the beginning of this year.
It was Bafanas' brilliantly documented exploits that persuaded me to join in and I've enjoyed many more reports and views since.
None more so than Butterflyblondes' recent escapades. What a legend in the making.
Great report and not an ounce of malice.

Another thread here was about the friends you make on the board.
If were're friends, then should we treat each other with more courtesey and respect than we would a stranger, or just carry on regardless (sounds like the title of a dodgy brittish film)?.
Are we friends at all?.

These are questions, not opinions.
I just wondered about your own views, really....

[IJ]

GREAT POST MM........
WITH THE PALS IVE MADE ON THIS BOARD I WOULDNT GO CHASING THEIR TIRAKS.....IT HAS HAPPENED ONCE BY MISTAKE AND IF ID HAVE KNOWN A CERTAIN GUY WAS IN TO THE GIRL I WOULDNT HAVE BOTHERED BUT THATS HISTORY..
IT WONT HAPPEN AGAIN...........
I FEEL IF A BM DOES GO ON THE PROWL AFTER OTHER BMs GIRLS HE SHOULD KEEP IT TO HIMSELF...........
BUT AS THEY SAY ALLS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR !!!!!!!!!!!
JONNY

[r3aps]

GREAT POST MM........
WITH THE PALS IVE MADE ON THIS BOARD I WOULDNT GO CHASING THEIR TIRAKS.....IT HAS HAPPENED ONCE BY MISTAKE AND IF ID HAVE KNOWN A CERTAIN GUY WAS IN TO THE GIRL I WOULDNT HAVE BOTHERED BUT THATS HISTORY..
IT WONT HAPPEN AGAIN...........
I FEEL IF A BM DOES GO ON THE PROWL AFTER OTHER BMs GIRLS HE SHOULD KEEP IT TO HIMSELF...........
BUT AS THEY SAY ALLS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR !!!!!!!!!!!
JONNY

agreed,i dont intentionally chase a bg if i no a bm is loved up with her.i do like to find out where they worjk for future reference,but i must say there is one girl i like at the mo who tintin liked,and unfortunately i may have to upset him to get to her
but then again he is a married man who shouldnt be playing the field
that said i no a few bg that have got bm admirers and have blatantly tried it on whilst there bm lover is there or in patong at least,what to do then????
steve

[butterflyblonde]

First of all thankyou for the praise of my tour report and i'm happy knowing that it gave some pleasure to others reading.
I'm sure there's going to be some great reports coming though that will be even better from the guys out there from Xmas and i'm not just saying that.

Good question & a tricky subject indeed.

I certainly feel the same as Jonny on this one...there are many members on this board (many who i still haven't met) I regard many as friends and i would never try to deliberately go after ladies that they have a soft spot for.
But i am a respectful person by nature though, not everyone in life is so each to their own as well.

This is also another reason we should all butterfly as you mention thinking about what they do when you return home.
This stuff can eat away at you and yes i do speak from personal experience.

If you do find a girl you want to keep revisiting get in clear into your head that not only will she go with many other men, she may also like other men just as much or even more then you...as long as you tell yourself this is only a holiday fantasy then everything will be cool.

It has took me longer than it should have to learn and finally realise this myself but the good news is - I finally get it.

I also try to be careful in general when posting pics or naming bars and girls names as you never know if her ''long time sponsor'' may be reading or even family & friends that may now know she does this for work.
And yes there are some girls who do keep it a secret although the majority probably don't.

I personally think it's better to either post pics without naming what bar or how you met or the other way round - full report - no pics.
I dont think everyone will agree with that but it's just IMHO

I think the worst thing anyone could do is maul a well known members girl on the Mai thai webcam so try to avoid that at the very least.

[Allybabba22]

I would definatly not go after a fellow BMs girl, Why would you want to? Theres so many fine looking LBFMs to choose from so theres really no need to do that, But if a BM really liked a girl and does not want another BM or some of the many guests on this forum chasing her, Well i think its better not to put up a pic of her and where she works because then your asking for trouble

[butterflyblonde]

But if a BM really liked a girl and does not want another BM or some of the many guests on this forum chasing her, Well i think its better not to put up a pic of her and where she works because then your asking for trouble

I agree 100%

[eric-the-viking]

never intentinally go out to screw another b.m tilak,as you all know i myself have a soft spot(well not so soft lol)for a certain b.g,who i know has had breakfast,lunch ,evening dinner and tiffin with a couple or so b.m`s .
but like BB said you have to keep it clear in your head that it is just a wild fanatasy.
so if you have shared a lady with a fellow b.m chances are youve paid for the pleasure just the same ,lets not forget its just a way of making money to cloth and fed them and their families.
pay ya money you join the club

[rockstar!]

sorry if I was ever out of line with my posts

[dude]

I don't see why not the girls are prostitutes and we are paying for a service.

I've got Pa lined up for some action unfortunately my buddy is in the action with her at the moment

[Mav]

I don't see why not the girls are prostitutes and we are paying for a service.

I've got Pa lined up for some action unfortunately my buddy is in the action with her at the moment

Would that be your buddy Bellboy.....lol

[LivinLOS]

As for me I would rather a friend had one of my girls than someone else enjoyed her I dont know.. We can compare notes etc

[MisterFun]

Personally I dread the day when my GF's picture will show up on here, or read a story about her from one of the BMs. I figure it is just a matter of time until this happens. She has a past as do I. What she did prior is out of my control as long as she is staying out of the business now. I even have mixed feelings about wanting to know if she is fcuking around on me now. Sometimes ignorance is bliss, and stupidity is freedom. Probably best to know this one though. I just don't need her past rubbed in my face. However I can think of a few things she can rub in my face or on my face

[r3aps]

However I can think of a few things she can rub in my face or on my face

and what would they be
steve

[JayBee]

There is more than enough BGs to go around! If a BM sees a certain pic of a girl and feels he's got to give her a go, then he bloody well ought to keep that information to himself.

There are BMs and there are BMs, so to speak, and the ones who you respect then you ought to show some respect for. That's the way I look at it.

On the other hand, post your pics, take your chances, 'cause the girls are in business and are up for grabs, so even if your friend doesn't do it, some jerk might, or some newbie who doesn't have a clue about your feelings or previous encounters. That's life.

As for me, I do develop feelings. I remember one BG in Soi Seadragon who I'd been with four times, but never on consecutive nights because I wanted it to be clear that she was not my GF, and to maintain my butterfly status. So one night I was at her bar, but would not BF her as I had been with her the night before. She came on to me, I bought her a drink, but then moved on.

It turned into one of those nights where I made the rounds of every soi in Patong. At 2:00 AM, I was walking up Rat-U-Thit alone, headed back to Bangla from Seapearl, headed for the last round-up on Bangla, when I drop my high standards and grab the first one to catch my eye.

When here comes Gauey, laughing and swaying like she'd had one too many, and on her arm is one very happy camper who was quite obviously pleased with her and eager to get her back to his hotel. In spite of the fact that I had constantly rebuffed her efforts to be my GF, I still felts those pangs in my heart, and felt sick in my stomach when I looked at him and thought about what he was going to be doing with her in about 15 minutes.

She saw me, waved, smiled, and greeted me as they approached, and gave me a big hug when we met on the sidewalk. I could see she was happy to have a date and having a good time. He had no idea who the f*ck I was and hustled her away as soon as he could, although he was polite about it.

Walking towards Bangla alone, I felt like shit. I should've been happy for her, I told myself and in a way I was, but i wasn't happy for myself. I get attached too easy. I sure as hell didn't love her, but I had a feeling for her, a possessive feeling that makes no sense. She was a new girl and I kind of broke her in, but still that shouldn't matter.

Even today, almost 2 years later I have a warm feeling for her when I reminisce, and look at the pics of her. But love? No way, not even close. Hard to explain. I just really liked her a lot as a person, a very unique person. Maybe I'll post her pic. She doesn't even look like any other BG I've ever seen, or any other TG for that matter. Unique in every way.

Well, maybe from that story, you can get how I feel. And can imagine if it had been a girl that I did have strong feelings for! That would be even worse!

JayBee

[MisterFun]

and what would they be
steve

Funny you should ask that Steve. I haven't seen her since the end of October so I forget...all I can remember is it's moist and furry . I'll be back in Feb/Mar., it will not take long at all to remember!! She is off to her village for a few weeks (allegedly...I always have to throw that in there) to tell mamasan and papsan about us and to "introduce" me via pictures, so I haven't even talked to her for over a week.

[Coolhand]

So, if you're not in Thailand and you meet a real hot one, do you keep your trousers zipped up? I don't think so! Would you expect your mates to? Why should they play by different rules?

So, if anyones in Soi Eric, and a relly hot one starts to heat up even hotter, go for it! With my blessing, not that you need it If she can't be hot for me I have no problems with her finding someone she can be hot for IMHO

Would I want to read about it? Not sure about that, don't know if its ever happened (read about it that is). I suppose the old saying "What the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve over" is very true, but lets be realistic if there are 400 bars in Patong with an average of twelve girls working there, that means there are about 4800 BGs in Patong - how many board members are there? There cant be any exclusivity!

[r3aps]

So, if you're not in Thailand and you meet a real hot one, do you keep your trousers zipped up? I don't think so! Would you expect your mates to? Why should they play by different rules?

So, if anyones in Soi Eric, and a relly hot one starts to heat up even hotter, go for it! With my blessing, not that you need it If she can't be hot for me I have no problems with her finding someone she can be hot for IMHO

Would I want to read about it? Not sure about that, don't know if its ever happened (read about it that is). I suppose the old saying "What the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve over" is very true, but lets be realistic if there are 400 bars in Patong with an average of twelve girls working there, that means there are about 4800 BGs in Patong - how many board members are there? There cant be any exclusivity!

we all like to think there is some1 special over there for us that likes us loves us etc.its human nature.
sure i wouldnt dream of boasting about going with a fellow bm girl, particularly the guys who i have met.if i did i wouldnt post pictures and boast about it willingly knowing some1 liked some1 in particular.
as many no i have a bg i like very much.i wouldnt like to see and read about what others have been upto with her.she has a good heart and tells me she doesnt go with men,but do i believe her?no.but i admire her sincerity.i no she goes with punters,i dont think about it,i am a firm believer in what you dont no dont hurt you,and it works both ways.when i am in patong i dont boast about bedding other bg to her,i keep it under my hat.
i appreciate why many people dont like to see or read about what others have been upto whilst there not there,it sort of bursts the fantasy bubble i think.but does it go on?yes,will it continue?of course.no1 can stop fellow bm going with girls other bm like.it will always happen.i just think a certain bit of discretion can be used.yes i have mentioned in a couple of posts about particular girls other bm have been with that i like.but in all reality,when i get over there next week,all that will be forgotten,and i no i wont be "looking" purposely for other bm girls.if it happens it happens.you certainly wont see me knowingly post my conquests with girls if i no they have an admirer on these pages.
steve

[richie007]

When here comes Gauey, laughing and swaying like she'd had one too many, and on her arm is one very happy camper who was quite obviously pleased with her and eager to get her back to his hotel. In spite of the fact that I had constantly rebuffed her efforts to be my GF, I still felts those pangs in my heart, and felt sick in my stomach when I looked at him and thought about what he was going to be doing with her in about 15 minutes.

She saw me, waved, smiled, and greeted me as they approached, and gave me a big hug when we met on the sidewalk. I could see she was happy to have a date and having a good time. He had no idea who the f*ck I was and hustled her away as soon as he could, although he was polite about it.

Walking towards Bangla alone, I felt like shit. I should've been happy for her, I told myself and in a way I was, but i wasn't happy for myself. I get attached too easy. I sure as hell didn't love her, but I had a feeling for her, a possessive feeling that makes no sense. She was a new girl and I kind of broke her in, but still that shouldn't matter.

Even today, almost 2 years later I have a warm feeling for her when I reminisce, and look at the pics of her. But love? No way, not even close. Hard to explain. I just really liked her a lot as a person, a very unique person. Maybe I'll post her pic. She doesn't even look like any other BG I've ever seen, or any other TG for that matter. Unique in every way.

Well, maybe from that story, you can get how I feel. And can imagine if it had been a girl that I did have strong feelings for! That would be even worse!

JayBee

Nice story jaybee

I think we have all encountered those feelings at some stage on our trips to LOS

[africanw]

I don't see why not the girls are prostitutes and we are paying for a service.

I've got Pa lined up for some action unfortunately my buddy is in the action with her at the moment

You are just trying to you a response from me aint you. Get a life you plank.

[Phil_in_Thai]

Im not a regular punter there but it sounds like we are about to open a can of worms. If a girl is working in a bar and plying for punters then she's game. My view is that the 'betrayal' has already taken place.

If im sending money to someone to stay out of bars and she turns up on a webcam.....(sh*t)......then so be it. Let me know the worst and i will at least save money for my next trip. (March by the way)

The last thing I want is an open dispute with fellow BMs over a BG that is so good at lying she can even fool me.

[Josssie]

Im not a regular punter there but it sounds like we are about to open a can of worms. If a girl is working in a bar and plying for punters then she's game. My view is that the 'betrayal' has already taken place.

If im sending money to someone to stay out of bars and she turns up on a webcam.....(sh*t)......then so be it. Let me know the worst and i will at least save money for my next trip. (March by the way)

The last thing I want is an open dispute with fellow BMs over a BG that is so good at lying she can even fool me.

Agree with you Phil

[africanw]

Im not a regular punter there but it sounds like we are about to open a can of worms. If a girl is working in a bar and plying for punters then she's game. My view is that the 'betrayal' has already taken place.

If im sending money to someone to stay out of bars and she turns up on a webcam.....(sh*t)......then so be it. Let me know the worst and i will at least save money for my next trip. (March by the way)

The last thing I want is an open dispute with fellow BMs over a BG that is so good at lying she can even fool me.

totally agreed. If she is willing then what can one do. Just don't take a photo of the person or a pictiure the person took of the girl to her .

only 5 months till am back there again .....need a job out there would be alot cheaper.

[MiniMaker]

Thanks for your comments guys.

It seems that if you post a pic of a girl/LB and say where she works, then it's game on.

The grass is green, play ball!!!!!!!!!!!

But, if you have any affection for her at all, then it's best to keep her to yourself, as she, and your feelings along with it, will be eaten alive by the masses.

One of the reasons I originally posted, to quote just one example for this tour, was because a WG I had a tequila slammer night with in Pattaya, let slip a bit too much info about her private life, I think, and it caused me a few dilemmas.
She said she was still married to a Brit and had a child in the UK. I couldn't work out if she was on holiday on her own to visit family, or had separated from him, as it got a bit blurry towards the end, there. She was intending to go back to the UK, and had been living and working there for sometime.

I could give more details about our night, but the question is, should I?

Her hubby could be reading this and recognise a description of her.


She also said "I come visit you when I go back UK, nah"

Yeh, right...


Talk about shattering illusions...

[Coolhand]

I could give more details about our night, but the question is, should I?

Her hubby could be reading this and recognise a description of her.

So if you want to post it, post it. If you are concerned about some one realising you are talking about a particular person then change a few details, e.g. blonde becomes red head, blue eyes be come brown, I'm sure you can imagine what needs to be changed.

Should you give more details - up 2 you - the wonders of free speech!

[40belowsummer]

Trust and you'll be trusted
Says the liar to the fool
Lust and so what if you're busted?
In love and war there ain't no rules

Do you believe in forever?
I don't even believe in tomorrow
The only things that last forever
Are memories and sorrow

Out of sight out of mind
The motto of betrayal
The prophets preach to forgive and forget
I'm sorry, but I am unable

You went to L'amour Saturday night
Red nails and lipstick
dressed two sizes two tight
His tongue down your throat
His hand up your skirt
Yeah I'm a man
But it still hurts

Slut
*****
****

I know you're ****ing someone else
He knows you're ****ing someone else
I know you're ****ing someone else
He knows you're ****ing someone else

You had **** on your mind
And *** on your breath
Inserted that diaphragm before you left
Practicing freelance gynecology

Where there's a womb there's a way
With you it's for free

Slut
*****
****

I know you're ****ing someone else
He knows you're ****ing someone else
I know you're ****ing someone else
He knows you're ****ing someone else

Done it before
Time after time
Refused to learn your lesson
Gave 'til it hurt
Thought it was right
Only fools make mistakes twice

So you sit home
Drinking alone
Empty bottle in your hand
Don't even try
To sort out the lies
It's worse to try to understand

You, you make me hate myself

I know you're ****ing someone else
He knows you're ****ing someone else
I know you're ****ing someone else
He knows you're ****ing someone else

Type O Negative