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24-01-2005, 19:39
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One for the veterans
I was in Patong for XMas/New Year and hooked up with a BG and
spent 7days with her - paying her the standard rate for each day of course. We are currently in contact[on a daily basis]and I am going over again in March for 2 weeks when she wants me to go to meet her folks in another part of Thailand. My question to you experienced soldiers is - do I still pay her when I arrive in March or does she just stay with me and I look after her. Now I am not being a cheapskate - but - hey it's only human nature if you save a buck or 1000. 
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24-01-2005, 20:02
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Would you go and meet the mother of a prostitute anywhere else in the world?
Would a prostitute anywhere else in the world take you to meet her mother? This is Thailand, the areas are all so grey and every situation is so so different, what are her expectations?...what are yours? It's all a conundrum within a riddle and I've never known anyone have an answer that suits all. My advice....if you want this to be any more than just a business deal....Do not pay her for sex, but make sure you are spending the equivelant on her, offer to pay her rent for the month, clothes food etc. It'll end up far more expensive probably, but that's the price of the relationship and at the end of your next stay you maybe none the wiser as to your situation. If that's clear then I'm a genius.
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24-01-2005, 21:14
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GREAT POST.......AND FAIR ADVICE.. IJ
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24-01-2005, 21:19
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end of the day no matter what you do or give them i figure its never enough in their eyes ,as you rich falang who flys around the worls so you can afford it.
im interested how you get on when meeting the parents though,let me know will you either on the forum or a pm . thanks
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24-01-2005, 21:20
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Ta Schmeen good post - seems to be the best advise and the attitude I will adopt. As I said on my original post I paid this girl 1000baht a day what I forgot to point out is that I also took her for meals/drinks etc every day while also buying her several presents clothes, necklaces etc...
So more of the same really plus some :-)
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24-01-2005, 21:25
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ITS HARD TO FIND ONE THATS HONEST......BUT BEST OF LUCK TO YOU..DONT JUMP IN.........CHA CHA......... IJ
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24-01-2005, 21:31
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Wow, Hold up there  No I think he meant do one or the other but not both, Well you can if you want but you might be wasting your money, I think you need to ask yourself want you want from this girl if its just sex, Then pay her 1000bt and thats it, But if you actually want to have a serious relationship with this girl, You should stop giving her money directly, And use that money and some more if you want to, To buy her presents like clothes, jewellery,mobile etc...etc... But IMO you can never have a relationship with a girl if its based on you handing her money directly everyday, It just wont work in the long run because the money will run out sooner or later and what will she do then  .
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24-01-2005, 21:41
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If you have some other intention with her other then pure fun and recreation, then by all means go see her folks. If thats the case you should not pay her anything other then food, clothes, housing and so on. If you're just having fun, don't go see her folks and keep on giving her the 1000bht a day + food and drinks, no expensive gifts unless you really think you can afford it. If you go see her folks you're screwed and she'll prob use that as an arguement later on if you want to stop hanging out with her, can see a guilt trip in the future and I'm not particulary blessed with clairvoiance 
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25-01-2005, 00:18
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It's common sense realy, if it's not love why would you want to meet her parents? I dont know how you feel about her, and you probably dont know how she "realy" feel about you. Either way unless you want it all serious, ala boyfriend girlfriend, marriage, kids and all that you dont go see the girls parents and certainly not pay to meet them
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25-01-2005, 00:25
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I think she knows that you are a good boy, and she likes go shopping with you. Enjoy your stay with her family. I think two days is enough, because there is not much distraction in the countryside.
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25-01-2005, 17:29
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And you will never know how they feel about you - not for sure because in Thailand its money 1st and everything else 2nd Other than that you need look no further than Schmeens advice. If you make the trip watch out for buying interesting presents for the family, buffalos, cows etc................. G
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25-01-2005, 21:32
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In order to make a correct decision, it is usually best to fully understand a situation and this means covering all the angles. Here are a couple of pages that make interesting reading and hopefully will explain a little bit more, what you are about to experience...
www.pattayapages.com/girls/noi.html www.pattayapages.com/girls/mike.html Good luck Diz
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25-01-2005, 21:41
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It all depends on the relation you have with her! I think that sometimes on this board, people have the tendacy to say that all bg's same-same! NOT!
If you have a crush on this babe, and want her out, then I would suggest to go to her parents, spend on things she can use and not money! If you have no further intentions, let her now and pay her! There are girls, very clever indeed of letting to pay several farangs! But...there are girls, who just want some symphathy and do favor some farangs to others! Sometimes even they fight to not fall in love with the many customers they have, and sometimes they do, maybe your case! Anyway, if you want more with this girl do as I say, and... just track her down! I would never get serious with a bg, without knowing if she has many "sponsors"! If it is your favorite bg, with not more intentions then that, just pay here and skip the parents-shi*
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25-01-2005, 21:52
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What is your intent?
Schmeen and Ally said it best.
If you want to marry a prostitute and support her and live with her then go see her parents with her. If you are not sure if you want to marry her or you live outside of Thailand and she still works at a bar then don't go. Meeting the parents is not to be taken lightly as this usually means she is very serious about you and you will provide for her and her family. if she is from Isaan be prepared on early to bed early to rise schedule. be prepared for lack of aircon as the house might have a very open air feel to it. Don't look at this as "wow it's cool I get to hang out with a Thai family and see how they live" see it as the next step to marriage and the next step to separation of you and your money. If you do go don't hand over cash, you should buy the clothes, phone, etc. instead. Cheers! Quote:
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25-01-2005, 22:54
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Another good thing to check for, is does she still have the presents you bought her. Mainly jewelry. Does she cherish them, or did she return them for cash the day after you left?
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26-01-2005, 00:15
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 whopps bit of a IJ moment there
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26-01-2005, 00:48
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IJ
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26-01-2005, 01:11
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A lad that used to work for me always holidays in Pattaya. About 2 years ago, he went to Isaan with his 'girlfriend' (she wasnt a prostitute either (so he said !)) and he spent £300 in 3 days (approx 20,000 baht ). He had to pay for food, clothes and drink. They totally took the piss out of him.Like it has been said before - unless you have plans to get really serious with this bar girl who you have only known for 7 days (and is probably getting nobbed stupid as we speak !) then be very very careful . Good luck.
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26-01-2005, 06:55
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It's all down to the individual!
Really. No-one can give advice, as you may have found the best con-artist ever, or (hopefully) the woman of your dreams who will love you forever. (I hope so) You'll have to trust your instincts (kerbed with more than a hint of cynicism). I met a great girl two years ago - she was a 98%. So young and pretty - three nights in a hotel then she took me home for freebies for the rest of my stay. (This completely broke with my one night only rule! The first and hopefully only time) But stepping back.... the day after my first freebie - she took me to meet Mom. Wow did that freak me out - I didn't know whether to wai or sh1t! Honest to God - there I was, freshly hungover in Sainamyen, shielding my eyes from the sun and being introduced to.....Mom!!!! D@mn! Never asked for a penny from me tho' but then, I am always over generous Be careful, but a *little* cynical. ...and most of all - Good Luck!!!!! Last edited by driv : 26-01-2005 at 06:58.
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26-01-2005, 13:38
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I think you've already received some solid advice, MC. I'd like to second what Urtheman already told you: "Don't look at this as 'wow it's cool I get to hang out with a Thai family and see how they live.'" Indeed, that's exactly how I may have looked at this "opportunity" in my youth, and that wouldn't have been a good idea.
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