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25-04-2005, 05:20
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Andy50 mentioned something on another thread about Thai and farang marriages not working.
i was just wondering how many of you actually know of any marriages that are working and are outside of LOS? I know of one such marriage ,the couple live no more than 5 mins from me,they seem very happy together. so i guess its the same with any relationship it all depends on how much you work at it . your thoughts please
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25-04-2005, 05:51
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Unfortunitly i know of a couple who live near me! From all outward apperences they seem the perfect couple, but when i talk to friends who drink in different places than me and the husband, they tell a different story.
It seems that the women involved, is going out on the nights he is at work and 'trying her luck' with men (and women) from the bars he dosent go to. But saying that, i know at least two other couples with the wife from Asia, that are perfectly happy! So i guess it all depends on the women (or man) as with Farangs!
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25-04-2005, 05:54
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Know of two happy couples. You asking out of a personal interest m8? 
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25-04-2005, 05:59
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25-04-2005, 06:10
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My mate that lives just down the road is married to a TG she already had a son that he treats as his own and they have a 2 year old son together they seem happy some times i go around there for dinner good Thai food
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25-04-2005, 07:42
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Very good friends of mine are an Australian man and his thai wife, settled in Aus, married 15 years, 2 children, very happy couple. I think due to the vast differences in culture between farang and thai, their views of different subjects such as money and family, there are more things to possibly cause friction.
Certainly id say the odds of a successful marriage are lower, but with hard work and committment there is no reason why things cannot go well.
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25-04-2005, 07:54
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I know of two couples and both seem very happy but they have only been together a couple of years.Also there is a strong Thai community here as well so that would help.
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25-04-2005, 10:07
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I know of many
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 So far, from my perspective, the marriage seems to be working OK. We live in Europe. My wife has a couple dozen female Thai friends, who live in the same small city. All of them are married to westerners (variety of nationalities). Most have been married from 10 to 30 years. Some have been married so long,they have children who have graduated from European universities. Earlier this week, we went to supper with a couple (European man and a Thai women) who have been married for around 7 years, and been living together in Thailand for about 25 or 30 years. Their relationship appears strong. Who ever said Thai and falang marriages don't work, in making such a general statement, really hasn't a clue as to what they are talking about. Now if the individual had stated falang and Thai Bar Girl marriages don't work, I might have given more credence to the statement.
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25-04-2005, 10:25
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Excellent comment!
I think some BM's don't have time on vacation to get out of certain areas and meet the locals. I'm thnking of having a University Night at my restaurant then maybe I could meet a cutie with or getting an eduacation. Cheers! Quote:
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25-04-2005, 13:10
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Are you wishing for something mate!!! After you last trip I wouldnt be surprised 55555555555555555 G
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25-04-2005, 14:29
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I agree, I know atleast 20 couple who seems to be happy with their new lives. Those fails is these with the girls who is not really comitted and the guy dont see the signs from the beginning or the guy cheating her.
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26-04-2005, 05:17
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You know, a bloke could take offense at remarks like this. My marriage to a Thai girl failed and, just to put our German BM straight, I did not meet her in a bar. Relationships don't work out for many reasons, but to suggest that it is always because the man is 'whoring' or 'not committed' is not even scratching at the surface of what is a very complex issue. Anybody that brings a girl halfway around the world, and jumps through all the associated hoops, can hardly be accused of not being committed. Taking a girl from Thailand to England, maybe any Western country, is a difficcult, time consuming and expensive exercise; you need to be committed or it will never happen. How a foreign person will settle in a new country will never become clear until they get there, and then it is too late to back out. I have written a couple of lenghty articles on my failed marriage, here is not the place to post them, but Anybody who is interested can PM me for the link. Please, guys, before attacking us 'failures' in such a public way, do us the service of thinking the problem through. For the record, my experience of marriage to Thai girls for English blokes is 3 failures from 5 relationships. I also think that where the girl comes from is utterly irrelevant; you have as much chance of making a relationship work with an ex-bargirl as you do with any other girl. The big question will always be 'how will you cope with letting someone into your life?'
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26-04-2005, 05:40
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no it was just an observation
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26-04-2005, 10:41
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Just an observation...
Seems most the guys who have good marriages know mostly happy couples. Those with bad marriages know mostly the failures. Not a judgment....just an interesting observation.....?
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26-04-2005, 17:25
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If you are looking for educated girls and dont speak Thai then BKK obviously has the largest population to look among.
You could try thailandfriends.com to make some contacts...
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26-04-2005, 17:30
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26-04-2005, 21:08
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Maybe the climate in Perth helps? I know that the English weather is a big issue to the girls I know over here. Also, Western Oz is a lot closer to home, and home is a real big deal to them. I also believe that English\Asian couples, being still relatively unusual, stand out over here and that brings its problems too. Maybe people would not think a mixed race couple odd in Perth?
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26-04-2005, 21:14
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It is interesting yes. I guess people gravitate towards their own, so a bloke that was having traumas with the wife would not want to be around happy families.
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26-04-2005, 22:00
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I had a Thai restaurant and saw many farang-Thai relations.
It is bull to say that these marriages do not work! I am no expert, but I wouldn't be suprised that the seperation between these mariages and a farang to farang" one isn't higher, but rather lower! I think it can be a little bit more difficult when the TG has been a bg or not... But even then, a lot of girls are happy to get an opportunity! I do know a sad story about a guy, who had fallen in love with a BG in Pattaya. Payed loads for her, married her, the girl never even bother to come to Belgiuim and the poor guy is now dead! But a lot of farang stories and that way too! 
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