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09-08-2005, 09:25
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Sleeping with her friend
Here's a question for the experts. If I go with the same girl from a bar or a gogo club two, three or more times, and we get on well together, what is going to happen if I go back to her bar or gogo club and barfine one of her friends? Is she going to glass me? On my last trip I went with a great girl in a gogo club, and the next night I went back because I wanted to go with one of the other girls, but as soon as I walked in, she got off stage and sat with me. I didn't really have the heart to say "Not tonight, I'm here to do your pal" (Obvious newbie) I still had a great time, but does that mean I'm limited to her every time I go back??? How about you regulars? Are there any kind of etiquette rules regarding this?
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#2
09-08-2005, 09:48
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Don't do that, you probably will get troubles. If you stay with her more than 2 nights in a row, you will be considered as her boyfriend and I don't think that another girl from her bar would like to go with you. If you want to butterfly, change girl everynight and tell her you don't want a relationship, or change bar. You will avoid any problem 
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09-08-2005, 11:43
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Depends totally on your relationship wit the girl.. If she sees you as 'hers' or if it has appeared that way to the other girls she will lose face in front of them and be angry / sad etc..
Now if you have a joking / flirty relationship and are already playing around with the other girls it may be obvious its a sex only type thing in which case they 'might' be ok with it.. Its a risk.. On my gogo trawls most of the girls know I have a regular GF so they know they are playing and having fun / parties / sex only.. Also I tend to take more than one if I do the pool party gogo thing which also stops the Gf aspect a bit.. its a ncie arrangement as now I pop in and the girls are friends with benefits.. I start to eye another girl up and they ask ' you like her.. You want me bring her over' etc.. They know with my tatses I will probably take the bunch anyway so they are getting a BF.. You might suggest the 3 some with her and a mate if you really want the mate and she is coming on too strong as a GF.. But dont do the GF then GF+ friend then swap to the friend directly.. Looks like GF1 cant perform as well as GF2 and thats another way to insult.. Basically it would be much easier to just go somewhere else 
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09-08-2005, 14:19
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Her friend wouldn't probably want to go with you, breaking up friendship, losing face and so...
A possibility is to take it slowly, stay just friends with the one you BF and hint after some time that you are interested in her friend. She can ignore it or just act as go between. That way it looks like she is in charge of the situation and she doesn't lose face. On the contrary, she is helping her friend into some money. Another possibility is wait till she is barfined by another guy and then go for her friend. Both worked for me.
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09-08-2005, 14:41
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Send your wingman in to BF her first.. While she is busy take her mate...
simple solution and everyones a winner..
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09-08-2005, 14:53
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Only for the experienced monger this one; you really don't want Thai girls angry at you.
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09-08-2005, 18:21
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I hereby offer services as Wingman, starting Sep 16..  Rates are cheap (low season), just buy me a beer 
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09-08-2005, 23:19
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Sounds like a photo opportunity SafeAss, or maybe a tattoo you are regretting?
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09-08-2005, 23:40
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No problemo. But I think it's only fair to indicate that the rate is TWO beers for LB's. (1 for me, 1 for...  ). Although that was an interesting mental picture you gave...  Last edited by marquisdesavoie : 09-08-2005 at 23:44.
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10-08-2005, 05:44
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Maybe it's time to grow up, SafeAss? You know LB should mean 'lego box' to a 10 year old
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10-08-2005, 06:04
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10-08-2005, 14:33
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Sure they dump you whenever they want, but for them the contrary is not true.
You can dump her, no problem, but are you sure her friend will go with you? They will stick together against you. And if you do that 2 or 3 times in the same bar it can become very lonely for you at that bar, and especially in a gogo-club as situated in Jack 1234's message. And Jack 1234 made it clear he was on a friendly base with the first girl.
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10-08-2005, 16:01
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One year I hung out at Sexy Bangla 9 Bar almost every night. And took a different girl most nights. The way I did it was this: the first girl I went with, I never had sex with. I BFed her but we just became drinking buddies. I would come to the bar, and drink with her as I scoped out all the other girls. Sometimes I would make a move on a girl. Other times I would have her go talk to the girl and bring her to me. I would never take the same girl two nights in a row, and always take another girl in between, altho there were several I went with more than once.
Before long, it was just recognized by all the girls that I had permanent butterfly status. They knew what to expect. I never had a shortage of good-looking girls there that wanted to go with me, altho there were was a large number of girls that worked that bar, and always new faces. It was very loosely run. They seemed to come and go as they pleased. I would say there were at least 30 girls that worked there, but on any given night only 15 to 20 would show up. I occasonally BFed my buddy to go party with me or to go to a restaurant, but usually took another girl with us. The only downside of that strategy was that my bar bills were a bit higher, since I bought drinks for my buddy every night, and BFed her sometimes. Occasionally she would latch onto another guy, but most of the time she seemed to prefer drinking with me, and she did get a monthly salary from the bar. She was the only girl there who drew a salary. Also I would buy drinks for whoever I was taking, and if I had been with a girl the night before, but did not intend to take her again, I would usually buy her a drink or two, but would not sit with her, just so it was clear, that I was still a butterfly. So, many nights I was buying drinks for 3 or 4 girls, and I got along well with all the girls there.
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Last edited by JayBee : 10-08-2005 at 16:10.
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10-08-2005, 16:19
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I agree with Burg. It seems many of the BM here are very carefull about how they coop with the girls. And thats very admirable and decent. But on the other hand are they also so worried about your feelings ? I am sure some do but most just think buiseness. I am no expert on BG's but from what i read here it seems alot of BM are walking on eggs dealing with BG's while the BG's just use them without any regret or shame. Just do what you wanna do , be honoust about it and its then up to them if they like it or not.
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10-08-2005, 17:38
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It's not about feelings; it's about them sticking a glass in your face or cutting your cokc off while you are asleep.
I once met a girl from the Alice bar and when she found out I was in town and had not told her I was coming it got very ugly. Well, we made friends again and I let her stay the night, when we got up in the morning I found the knife she had brought to cut me. You might be big and tough but you are pretty defenceless when you are asleep. If this girl had been a bit more hardened to the scene I have no doubt she would have done me while I was asleep. It was my fault, I was pretty green at the time, because I failed to respect her and made her look pretty dumb in front of her friends. Only my experience, but what I learned from that little episode is this: you do not want angry Thai women in your life, and you should never, ever underestimate the concept of 'face'. Last edited by steve@thaib : 10-08-2005 at 17:45.
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10-08-2005, 17:52
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10-08-2005, 17:57
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It can get ugly if you "promise" to meet her next night,then walk into the same bar and take someone else. No doubt she'll have told her friends about you and it will look bad if you take a different girl. They are not all friends, and sometimes get very jealous, especially if they are drinking.
A friend had an ex turn up at his house Mao, with a knife, MIB had to be called. If they know you are Butterfly, they may actually help by setting you up with friend.
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10-08-2005, 18:01
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10-08-2005, 18:08
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No idea where you got this pic from but.... It was not this sort of knife, but it was exactly the same view I had. It sends a shiver down my spine looking at this.
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10-08-2005, 18:11
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10-08-2005, 18:40
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Is it really worth the hassle?
I have the same problem at the moment.
My ex who I finished with 6 months ago still calls me & mails me every week. I don't call or mail her whatsoever. Now she's down to begging me to be just her friend . As long as I keep in touch with her she said she'll be happy. "I don't think so"  I know that if I bump into her while I'm with my current gf. there will be a big problem. My current gf. said if my ex insults her or me, she will stick a knife in her, and I know she's not just threatening. ( she always carries a knife in her bag ) When I was there 2 months ago, she called her sister and made arrangements for her to bail her out if/when she was arrested. Luckily I managed to keep them away from each other.  This means that when I arrive this saturday, I will spend 3 weeks trying to avoid the ex. This means keeping away from most of the Bangla area.  Looks like I maybe spending a bit of time in Geirs bar at the other end of Beach Rd. 
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10-08-2005, 18:46
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Hells teeth! Are all those sweet girls walking around Patong tooled up or are we just knocking around with nutters?
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