Phuket Thailand

the_walker · #1 19-05-2006, 16:50

Does anyone ever feel like this.

This was all on the way to work in the car, on the M25 motorway this morning. It took 3 hours to travel 42 miles. On the way................

Xwife screeming down phone because I told her that I was only going to pay her what I should be paying for the kids, and I would give the kids the extra money for clothes and train fares. This i thought was fare. Xwife then screamed that she needed a new car because hers was 3 years old and she needs a reliabe car for work. So she is going to get a new car with a loan payed for by the extra money I am giving her! yer right! Thretened me with CSA but backed off when I told her that "OK you go for it" she'll be worse off. X then used the old kids guilt thing that they would suffer. My oldest left school yesterday for collage, I decided to keep paying x the same money, but told her not to ask for any more as I will be buying clothes for kids for when they stay round my place. Put phone down, still in traffic Jam. THEN X girlfriend sends a text saying she has just decided that she is not coming away with me next month (changed her mind just like that) we stayed "friends" after we split up, because we get on better as friends than live ins. So my stomach acid is starting to burn my ulcer. I get to work 3 hours later and the server is down so cant work. I am now thinking .....25% of my wages are on maintenance. £50 week on petrol £600 on mortgage, money for bills food, DRINK(lots of, Cant think why! ) So i'm thinking RUN AWAY and open a bar in LOS. But i can cause i have kids and they come first. I am now sitting at my desk looking at the beach in Karon on a webcam.

sierradelta · #2 19-05-2006, 17:31

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Originally Posted by the_walker

Does anyone ever feel like this.

This was all on the way to work in the car, on the M25 motorway this morning. It took 3 hours to travel 42 miles. On the way................

Xwife screeming down phone because I told her that I was only going to pay her what I should be paying for the kids, and I would give the kids the extra money for clothes and train fares. This i thought was fare. Xwife then screamed that she needed a new car because hers was 3 years old and she needs a reliabe car for work. So she is going to get a new car with a loan payed for by the extra money I am giving her! yer right! Thretened me with CSA but backed off when I told her that "OK you go for it" she'll be worse off. X then used the old kids guilt thing that they would suffer. My oldest left school yesterday for collage, I decided to keep paying x the same money, but told her not to ask for any more as I will be buying clothes for kids for when they stay round my place. Put phone down, still in traffic Jam. THEN X girlfriend sends a text saying she has just decided that she is not coming away with me next month (changed her mind just like that) we stayed "friends" after we split up, because we get on better as friends than live ins. So my stomach acid is starting to burn my ulcer. I get to work 3 hours later and the server is down so cant work. I am now thinking .....25% of my wages are on maintenance. £50 week on petrol £600 on mortgage, money for bills food, DRINK(lots of, Cant think why! ) So i'm thinking RUN AWAY and open a bar in LOS. But i can cause i have kids and they come first. I am now sitting at my desk looking at the beach in Karon on a webcam.

(poor woman) ONLY a 3 yo car and needs something "reliable"

What did you buy a KIA? Or does she drive it in 1 gear all day on the motorway.

Mate...you need to harden up and not let her walk all over you and use the threat of your kids etc as her WMD.

I have an ex and a 13 yo son, still very good mates and we work on the “what’s fair” system. That requires both sides to have a high degree of emotional maturity. She tried last year when I hit a high exec salary etc to get the $$$ and tried all this BS etc.

I’ve seen too many good men "broken" (both mentally and financially) by this sort of emotional BS blackmail.

If all else fails look for an expat role that is tax (and CSA free) in a country that has no CSA reciprocal rights. Put the $$$ in a Trust for your kids for when they are 18 etc and are going to Uni etc and use it when THEY need it and not for new “boutique” shit like a new car for the ex.

“If they didn’t have tits they would be 10 deep at the tip”…

the_walker · #3 19-05-2006, 18:16

Your right on hardening up, and nearly right on the KIA, she bought a Hyundi

cant let the kids suffer, i know she screams at them too. She has a nasty temper, not physical but a tounge like a knife. if I put her under preasure she will be so moody the kids will suffer. guess i will take a hit in the pocket, only 2 more years, then i can pay my daughter direct as she will be at uni. Son will then be a college. Cant wait till Sept, I will be sitting in the MTB and starting a nice brain numbing session !

ruby123 · #4 19-05-2006, 20:43

Walker sorry to hear your bout of bad luck!. Fight fire with fire...don't stand down and if she trys to walk over you take it to her and give as good as she fires down at you.

Don't let her walk over you or anyone for that matter. If someone was to hit you wouldn't you want to hit them back twice as hard?? (not talking about your ex or women)

You deserve to have your own life to enjoy as well!!!!

tintin · #5 19-05-2006, 22:11

Bad for you, but not much to do with Thailand.

But you can go there to cheer up, good luck! I had a nice fuc* by the pool this afternoon, wich is a way NOT to think about los!

easyrider_au · #6 19-05-2006, 22:21

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Originally Posted by tintin

Bad for you, but not much to do with Thailand.

But you can go there to cheer up, good luck! I had a nice fuc* by the pool this afternoon, wich is a way NOT to think about los!

Tintin, you've left yourself open here..........

I don't know you, but boy I had some good one liners I could have used!!