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cadia · #1 09-12-2004, 00:29

I think my thread yesterday were personal somehow, but i don't think we should delete it. You talk about your thai girls and how wonderful you are there shagging her, and I from my home talk about how a man changed once he arrived Thailand, and how hurt a man can do to a woman. We all talk a little bit about our personal here since we are members here.

So please, put my thread back where it was. Thank you.

cadia · #2 09-12-2004, 01:01

Yes, please put it back where it was, so that someone can be proud of himself that "publicly i did only have nice things to say about you so that you do not lose face"..

He told me that Thai people lie constantly. I wonder why just only 3 weeks in Thailand, he could learn so much things from Thai people and act exactly like that.

Back, please.

dude · #3 09-12-2004, 07:10

Sorry to hear that your boyfriend treated you so badly.

I think you can do much better from what I hear. Just remember
there are alot of great guys out there and great ones who don't pay for
sex or cheat

take care

stevem · #4 09-12-2004, 20:09

Sorry, but if the moderators decide that a post/thread needs to be deleted, then it will be.

cadia · #5 09-12-2004, 20:23

Quote:

Originally Posted by stevem

Sorry, but if the moderators decide that a post/thread needs to be deleted, then it will be.

Hi Mods,

I have already know that you mods knew my old man and his w-hore at the night i saw you guys at the webcam. Someone told me that he talked with you guys about his situation with his gf, and you guys told him not to worry - feel free with that w-hore. Do you guys really good friends with giving advices like that? You know, you may have happiness by taking happiness from someone else.. but you will get what you give, or your children will get what you give. In fact, you don;t take my happiness away, but I consider some of you guys helping someone to take/throw my happiness away.

Hope that you see what i meant here.

Best regards.

cadia · #6 09-12-2004, 20:32

Forgot to tell one part of my thinking:

Are you some guys here trying to cover what you guys told my old man?

Not good then

Regards.

Allybabba22 · #7 09-12-2004, 20:38

Sorry cadia, But its nobody's else's fault no matter if or what anyone said to him, He's a big boy who made his own decisions and they certainly were not made for him, So there's no point blaming other people.

Im sorry if that sounds harsh as i can understand how upset you must feel after being treated like that, But he choose to cheat on you, So forget about him and just get on with your own life and maybe one day you will meet someone who will respect and treat you a lot better than that.

cadia · #8 09-12-2004, 20:46

Quote:

Originally Posted by allybabba22

Sorry cadia, But its nobody's else's fault no matter if or what anyone said to him, He's a big boy who made his own decisions and they certainly were not made for him, So there's no point blaming other people.

Im sorry if that sounds harsh as i can understand how upset you must feel after being treated like that, But he choose to cheat on you, So forget about him and just get on with your own life and maybe one day you will meet someone who will respect and treat you a lot better than that.

Dear Ally,

This is my thinking: friends should help each other to be better. I agree that this is just one man's fault since he chose to act like a big boy. However, I thought that if there were some good advices to him from good friends, he might think more carefully about his action - he might not show up at the webcam and flirt the w-hore there.

I am sorry other members about bringing my personal problem here. Just some last thinking about my bad luck.

Best regards.

Allybabba22 · #9 09-12-2004, 21:06

Quote:

Originally Posted by cadia

Dear Ally,

This is my thinking: friends should help each other to be better. I agree that this is just one man's fault since he chose to act like a big boy. However, I thought that if there were some good advices to him from good friends, he might think more carefully about his action - he might not show up at the webcam and flirt the w-hore there.

I am sorry other members about bringing my personal problem here. Just some last thinking about my bad luck.

Best regards.

Maybe they didnt realise that you would be watching the webcam or that you were a BM also, And you have to remember a lot of BMs go on holidays to enjoy themselves and dont really want to get caught up in other people's problems. I really cant understand what exactly was going through your boyfriends head but it was a really horrible thing to do to you.

I know its not much concilation but maybe you should count yourself lucky to have found out now while your still young rather than 10 years down the road with a family and a lot more to lose, You should just put it down to a bad experience and get out there and find someone who is worthy of your love. Take care.

cadia · #10 09-12-2004, 21:33

Well, my old man told me that he told other guys about me too.. so they knew me - not me in reality, but my nick name here.

Yup, I truly thank my Lord who has opened my eyes before I get married. I found out that it isn;t worth to stay with a man who didn't respect my love, and it isn;t worth to stick with a family who only think about his/herself but nothing else.

Last post about my bad luck. Still want my thread back, please.

r3aps · #11 10-12-2004, 02:07

Quote:

Originally Posted by cadia

Well, my old man told me that he told other guys about me too.. so they knew me - not me in reality, but my nick name here.

Yup, I truly thank my Lord who has opened my eyes before I get married. I found out that it isn;t worth to stay with a man who didn't respect my love, and it isn;t worth to stick with a family who only think about his/herself but nothing else.

Last post about my bad luck. Still want my thread back, please.

you say last postb about your bad luck???dont you think it was good luck???good luck you found out he wasnt truly happy with you in the first place??i think you got away with it,be happy,would you rather of spent all that cash on a wedding to have something like this happen down the line.i really understand you are upset but by keep dragging it up on here all your doing is extending your sad situation.i really think you need to try and get over this and move on with your life.
steve

eric-the-viking · #12 10-12-2004, 02:23

clear your p.m box

cadia · #13 10-12-2004, 02:41

Yup, I did clear my pm.

Thank s3aps. You are right. I am appriciated your words.

#14 10-12-2004, 12:24

Maybe I can be your boyfriend

JayBee · #15 10-12-2004, 17:11

Hi Cadia,

I agree with the things that AllyBaba and Steve say to you. Your boyfriend can be very cruel to you and he showed you that. You are smart enough not to lie down and accept that kind of treatment from him, and better to see his cruelness now than to only find out later when he would be cruel to you and his/your children also.

As far as others at the bar are concerned....You get your information about this from your boyfriend who is trying to excuse his bad behavior. Can you believe a person who has showed his cruelty to you and is now trying to make excuses for himself? I think not. You can't believe the things he says since he has no credibility, just trying to blame others for his bad behavior. No BMs at that bar made him come to the bar. He saw all the girls in Patong with his own eyes. They tempt the men greatly and he could not resist temptation. Of course, what is unforgivable is the fact that he threw his infidelity in your face by doing it in front of the cameras. We make our own choices. To blame others is just one more sign of his weakness and lack of character.

Many young men(and a few old ones) are just not ready for marriage. I think that his trip to LOS was a good test for him and he failed the test. I have a good friend who first told me about LOS, which is how I went there the first time. Later, he got a girlfriend in the US, but still likes to make the trips with the guys to LOS. When he goes to the bars, he has a drink or a dance with the girls, then at midnight leaves his friends and returns to the hotel alone. They are to be married next year. So there are good men that can resist the temptation and hold true to their love for their girl. But it takes much strength. Your BF is young and weak. Maybe some day he will grow up and learn, maybe not. There are some good men out there.

As a Thai lady once said to me when I was upset about losing a girl I fell in love with, "Keep your eyes open and your heart open and you will find the one for you." I haven't yet, but still I will keep my eyes open and my heart open, because I believe in love.

JayBee

stevem · #16 10-12-2004, 20:04

Quote:

Originally Posted by cadia

Hi Mods,

I have already know that you mods knew my old man and his w-hore at the night i saw you guys at the webcam.
Best regards.

Sorry but I dont know you, or your old man, or anything about what your going on about.

cadia · #17 10-12-2004, 21:37

Thank you Jaybee.

I think this is maybe just the culture thinking: I usually search for outsiders' thinking or opinions about my situation because they are outsiders, and though they might not know how i am, how my situation could be, they might still have good thinking in dealing with that. I would like to know how other people would act if they were me since I am the insider, I sometimes blind or pretent to blind with my own obstacles. I will not just copy all the advices or opinions - that's for sure. I am still the one who knows and understand my own situation most.

I am sorry for bringing my personal here for such a long time. In fact, I am really appriciated you all who sharing me your thoughts. Sometimes I felt hurt, but I do understand that you all want me to be better - walk tall - as Heywood told me. I am proud to say that I am doing that.

back to who I really am as a happy girl - I can share my good and bad thinkings - as I have two characteristics existing my body - as a horrible clumsy western woman who is also cruel, wicked, and harsh oriental woman - or a little nice asian woman.

Just joking, I am an asian woman only.

Want to be the second one in this forum telling my greeting to all people:
"Happy Christmas! And all the best! God bless you!"

butterflyblonde · #18 10-12-2004, 22:32

I think i speak for most of us when i say I sincerely hope you have a happy christmas also.
May the new year bring something good into your life. Take care.

Ps..I'm really pleased you changed that old avatar..it really was scaring me

cadia · #19 10-12-2004, 23:00

hehe - my old avatar is my most favourite game character. She is Sarah Kerrigan, 27 years old - the Queen of Blades in Starcraft - Brood War version. She was a female human who was betrayed by her own people and left for dead. The Zerg the extremely formidable and deadly creature in the galaxy - had rescured her and transformed her into the Queen of Blades.

I like that picture very much - I still keep it as my picture profile here. I like my new avatah too.

Thank you Butterflyblonde. Thank everybody.