Update information Farewell to all members from Cadia,

[cadia]

Hi,

I think that I should write some update information about myself and say goodbye to the forum where I was a member. Recently I am happy with my new life in US now I have found myself back and been stronger with new goals in my life. Where should I start my news then?

Well, three months after break up in late November, I finally wrote down all my thinking for my ex in my new weblog for him and his friends who read my site all the time. Finally I made a big relief for myself about my past. As you all have known that my past wasn't a nice one as my exboyfriend cheated on me with prostitutes in Thailand and disrespectfully treated me after that. I am not really a person who like telling bad words, or bad things about other people.. however I finally told my ex all.. finally I could express all of my thinking to him after all his abuse to me.

I told him all i have in my mind: he is short, fat, however he is not really ugly. His qualitites are even lower than the typical western-standard qualities though he is intelligent. I first had thought that with all those characteristics, he would know to treat other people better in return for his weakness - however now I know that I was very wrong. He is very jealous with other people about what he doesn't have, always asks why other people have this, have that.. and why he doesn't have those. He is jealous with everything secretly and instead of doing somethings to make himself better, he treats other people with his hatred and jealousy. For example, he ignores his family because they didn't support him as good as he wants. He denied to have any child with me (even it's just a plan for future) just because his ex girlfriend Jessica who has 2 lovely kids cheated on him, he loves those kids but couldn't have them, therefore he doesn't want to have any other kids. He is sick in his mind about jealousy with other people.

I told him that he is poisoned by the low-value of *****'s live in Thailand and he is seeing people/things/life around him by that low standard. I first was very hurt when i knew that he was seeing me though those eyes - however I only feel pitty for him now. For example, I asked him to buy some catlitter for Cyrix - he got mad and told me that if I need money for Cyrix, I should ask for money. Ouch, so I need my ex's money??!! If I didn't remember all wrong, I bought and paid for a lot of stuff, also lent him some money before even though he has a well-paid job. He thought like all other people always asking him for money, from his mother, his sister, his father, to his prostitute in Thailand.. well, definitely not me.

I told him that he is always living with his double standard for other people. He always think that he is right even though his thinking of 5 minutes ago was perfectly opposite of his thinking at this moment In addition, he is too selfish to his own people who he can take for granted. He accused black/hispanic people as people who live on his sweat, and he in fact lived on welfare/foodstamps when he was a child. He backbite my friends when her and her husband had to live apart due to their jobs, thought that her husband must have another affair when they acted like that, and now look at him.. where is he and where is his prostitute? Such a ridiculous mind he has!

I told him that there's a quotation that I think it was written for him: "Love is a means which a bastard uses to have free sex", or in other words, love is a means for him to use other people. He might not be like that before he met Jessica the one before me .. but he is like that now.

He asked me if we could be friends. I told him straightly that there's no chance for him to be my friend anymore as he doesn't deserve any feeling from me. Poisoned mind, selfishness, jealousy, and a double standard for other people which built on low standards of prostitute's life are some characteristics which my friends don't/never have.

I don;t hate my ex as much as I was before (if i tell you that i don;t hate him, I will be too generous I guess) - I feel pitty more than hate for him now. He is a sick person. In some ways I still want that my ex will change to be a better person, or he will soon end up in a family like his own family where children disrespect their own parent. I still want him to be happy with a real happiness - which is not uncertain happiness outside and jealousy/poinson filling up his heart. However, I will not care about him anymore as he doesn't deserve my attention, and I still have my own life ahead which I want to share with my love. There are still many other people in this world whom I can help or at least share my small happiness with them.

So that's all about my ex and all my thinking about him. After writing all of these and telling my ex, I feel so happy and feel so releashed. I am happy now with my new life even though I know that my future path isn't easy and flat for me. I know that someone is waiting for me on my way and I know I will always be happy.

I am gonna graduate in August and I hope that I will find a good job after that. I know that I will be pretty busy with my new life and my new goals. Therefore I think this is the right time to say farewell to you and this forum. Thank you all members who were with me from the day I joined this forum (tried to act like a man first if you read my very first posts) until today even though sometimes we didn't treat each other really nicely. This is my last post at the forum and you know, there will be no more preaching from Cadia

Best regards to you,

Truly,

Lee

[steve@thaib]

No idea if we are supposed to respond here, but piss poor English and man hating American preachers are always going to get a rise out of me.

Goodbye Cadia, and have a nice day y'all, okay?

[steve w]

i've really enjoyed all the vitriolic preaching you will be missed............................................ ........NOT

[pablo]

http://www.nomarriage.com/


Not all American women are "man-hating" *****es. Just the majority of them.

Pablo

[Mr Floatplane]

Hey Cadia!

You feel abused and a victim. That is not healthy for you. Sure express yourself. You are entitled to rant and rave – but please don’t fall into the trap of spitting on others because they spat on you. I know it can be hard, but I am sure you’re heart is of far more value than to beat in spite.

If your ex was so bad, then why were you ever with him? Perhaps a simple lack of judgement on your behalf? We can all make that mistake!

Sure, it is wrong to treat anyone in a disrespectful manner. It is not nice to declare the lives of others are of “low-value” – weather they are prostitutes or presidents.

I had a look at that ManHater sight. If your name was place on a WomenHater sight would you not feel it to be an invasion of your privacy?

Perhaps Thailand was medication to your boyfriend rather than a poison? What were you unable to provide him, that the *****’s fulfilled? If you can answer that you may do a little better in your next relationship!

"Thailand brings love and happiness to someone, but it also takes love and happiness from someone else!
Girls chase men for money. Men buy girls for having sex."

- yes we are social animals and thus our happiness is dependent on relationships to some extent – however you can be happy despite a poor relationship. Try it!

- no, girls don’t chase men for money, they chase men for love! They are just clever enough to make sure they fall in love with a wealthy man!