The question is:
Do you need soooo many people around you, when the guys who are there are cool, and many pretty bg's there, who have more time for you..?
Tell you this mate:
Yes Patong is quieter, but it was sometimes too busy for me! In fact the only time I have been there during holliday season, 2 years ago, I hated it, too much is too much!
When I was in Kata in March, a place less frantic, not so far away after all from Patong, there were more people, then in November BEFORE the tsunami!
In November it is not high season yet, it is a wonderful time! Enough girls to make you happy, enough BM, like myself

to have a nice chat with and enough occasions to let yourself go

!
That it is a bit quiter, some months is ennoying for the locals, not for the tourists, there is always enough to do!