Phuket Thailand - Are you a mongerer?

capdagde · #71 29-08-2007, 23:47

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Originally Posted by cosa

Always tell people im off to Pattaya to shag bargirls and drink beer so a proud monger

At last a hole in one.... me too Cosa, same speech .... except it's been Patong only until my coming 4th Oct trip to Patts. Different one morning, afternoon and evening if I can... life's too short. And I'm big into redistribution of wealth....

Andy Cap

capdagde · #72 29-08-2007, 23:53

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Originally Posted by georgelondon

im a mongerer, butterfly and all round dirty baastard!

True, how true !

marc26 · #73 30-08-2007, 00:27

im actually interested to see if i go back to my mongering ways when i hit Central America in January
to be honest, i dont think i will go looking for it too hard, but if its around, would probably partake

Halley G · #74 03-09-2007, 07:39

yeah im a dirty bastArd

So-cal · #75 05-05-2008, 06:06

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Originally Posted by JayBee

Coming from the sex-starved USA, I used to be an eager and enthusiatic monger, who delighted in nothing more than taking a different girl every night or two. But there comes a point, when you realize that it is there 24/7, if that's what you want, and then it doesn't seem like a big deal quite so much.

At that point, it then becomes a matter of finding the right girl, who is one that I really look forward to hanging out with, having sex with, and just doing the normal everyday things that people do. More of a BF/GF type of thing. When I find one who is a good fit for me, then I am happy enough be with her, and don't need the variety like I used to. Technically, I am still a monger at that point, since I am paying her a per diem, and not a real bonified BF you might say, since when I leave, she is on to the next ones.

But I don't really see that as being a monger, which I define as a guy who likes to go with a lot of different girls, and doesn't want any kind of relationship for any length of time. A real P4P kind of guy with the one or two day rule in effect.

I am still a monger until I find a suitable girl, however. But it is not the same as it was before. I literally have to push myself out the door in the evening to go "mongering," and the point of it is not banging a lot of girls, but finding one who is suitable for a more lengthy affair.

i agree with this 100%

But the problem is what do you do when your not on a trip? do you just get no sex while you are at home? and then indulge in thailand? I dont know if you live there but that is the simple solution to the problem. A hard solution to attain though.

Thats were i have a problem. iam young and i need to go through with my carrear cuz it will make me allot of money. All i can do is go on trips maybe every 8 months. So do i just jack off for 8 months? get a GF or wife and forget about thailand?

So-cal · #76 05-05-2008, 06:14

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Originally Posted by JayBee

Just explained it.

See the previous post!

In a nutshell, the difference is that P4P is 99% about the sex, and is usually a matter of very short duration(1 or 2 nights) with each girl.

For the unmongerer, the sex is no more important than it would be for any guy in any relationship with a GF. So, how important that is, would vary from not at all to very much, depending on the guy. But the sex is not the most important aspect of the relationship. The relating is the most important part. It is P4R, or P4GF, not P4P.

As I see it, it is the "rent-a-GF" approach, as opposed to the P4P approach. For guys who are a bit less picky or more lucky than myself, this often means spending your whole holiday with the shy girl you met the first night. I hardly call that P4P. I also know of a couple cases of guys who spent their whole holiday with one girl and never had sex with her, although they did pay her a per diem, same as any other guy who was having sex would. To me, that proves the point that there is a difference between P4P and "rent-a-GF." In the former, sex is primary and there is no real relationship. In the latter, sex is secondary, and there is a relationship, where feelings and respect for the other person's needs and desires is important, just like in any boy/girl relationship, except that one of the girl's needs is rent money, money for living expenses, and money to send her family.

I did ST for 5 days then had a GF for 20 days. A BG makes the perfect Girlfrend. Thats why i am depressed and stuck in my life right now. I dont like stress but i want some secured sex. Secured sex in the west with a farang GF is too high stress for me. But i would need to end my carreer to live in thailand. I wished my GF in patts could have went on for ever.

urban_loki · #77 05-05-2008, 06:22

Just a small word of warning, I am just a newbie, but I have TGF, we are about to have our fourth meeting in 5 months. I KNOW she has heart for me, but this is not the only problem with BG's, mine has issues with being a bad girl, and then the normal that her family want money....... they have issues with the mind that they have trouble dealing with....... the only advice i was told BG are imature, beware...... still love my girl, still with her but have troubled nights.. but dealing, still good will be with her in a few days

So-cal · #78 05-05-2008, 06:24

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Originally Posted by Crunch

Dont think im a mongerer, if flying solo, i'll have a few beers and take a lass back everynight, but that can change anytime i find one i'd like to spend more time with and then i'll head down the GFE road, not a concious(sp?) decision, just how its panned out so far.

if you find a girl that you happen to like then it will be hard to leave at the end of your trip. I had to tear myself away. I was dragged out kicking. still havnt got over it.

So-cal · #79 05-05-2008, 06:30

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Originally Posted by urban_loki

Just a small word of warning, I am just a newbie, but I have TGF, we are about to have our fourth meeting in 5 months. I KNOW she has heart for me, but this is not the only problem with BG's, mine has issues with being a bad girl, and then the normal that her family want money....... they have issues with the mind that they have trouble dealing with....... the only advice i was told BG are imature, beware...... still love my girl, still with her but have troubled nights.. but dealing, still good will be with her in a few days

What i ment was a BG is the perfect girlfrend if you lived in thailand. I am still thinking about bringing a girl over, i dont think i want to take the chance. I know it wouldnt work with my last girl. We went to koh chang for a few days and i could tell that she was already missing her frends. The best senerio for sucess in importing a girl is if she hit rock bottom some how or if she is shy and hates her job.

dan boy · #80 05-05-2008, 06:35

I am a mongerer, and my pal who i travel with is a mongerer, between us we hook up with the best looking girls in los that you could imagine.............but we both have are heads screwed on right, we both know that we are just another customer.... to think anything else is pointless...

urban_loki · #81 05-05-2008, 06:39

Well I dont live there I am doing the 8000 mile relationship its hard .. But I am trying with visa been rejected once but may be this time we get it right.. I still belive that it can happen, many other would think other wise..... but I still go back to see her (8 day now). rock bottom for these girls is a bad place, I know ,I have had the tears in person with the famliy.... But they do love and they can.. they just need help yes money but less than us

So-cal · #82 05-05-2008, 06:45

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Originally Posted by dan boy

I am a mongerer, and my pal who i travel with is a mongerer, between us we hook up with the best looking girls in los that you could imagine.............but we both have are heads screwed on right, we both know that we are just another customer.... to think anything else is pointless...

So do you and your smart buddy have wives at home that you are cheating on? Do you get just as much stress free sex at home?

dan boy · #83 05-05-2008, 06:49

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Originally Posted by So-cal

So do you and your smart buddy have wives at home that you are cheating on? Do you get just as much stress free sex at home?

nope , we wouldn't be going to Los twice a year if we were married ....both kinda sick of the typical relationship in our own country....

do you not think that your GF , as you put it, has hooked up with plenty of guys since you left her ?

So-cal · #84 05-05-2008, 06:56

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Originally Posted by urban_loki

Well I dont live there I am doing the 8000 mile relationship its hard .. But I am trying with visa been rejected once but may be this time we get it right.. I still belive that it can happen, many other would think other wise..... but I still go back to see her (8 day now). rock bottom for these girls is a bad place, I know ,I have had the tears in person with the famliy.... But they do love and they can.. they just need help yes money but less than us

Good luck with her. The fact is that these girls need to make big compromises to leave thair country. If the girls were better at looking into the future then they would realize the compromises are well worth it if they find the right guy. There is not much future for an uneducated thai girl in pattaya.

So-cal · #85 05-05-2008, 07:03

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Originally Posted by dan boy

nope , we wouldn't be going to Los twice a year if we were married ....both kinda sick of the typical relationship in our own country....

do you not think that your GF , as you put it, has hooked up with plenty of guys since you left her ?

My X GF has seen miles of c*ck since i left but if i lived there she would still be with me.

honestly though, if your not married and sick of how relationships go in your country(agree) then how do you get stress free sex the rest of the year that your not in thailand?

My point is that its easy to make fun of guys that are having relations with BGs but what is your solution?

moving there is the almost the only solution.

dan boy · #86 05-05-2008, 07:08

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Originally Posted by So-cal

My X GF has seen miles of c*ck since i left but if i lived there she would still be with me.

honestly though, if your not married and sick of how relationships go in your country(agree) then how do you get stress free sex the rest of the year that your not in thailand?
My point is that its easy to make fun of guys that are having relations with BGs but what is your solution?

moving there is the almost the only solution.

We dont ...55555

urban_loki · #87 05-05-2008, 07:09

My X GF has seen miles of c*ck since i left but if i lived there she would still be with me.

Well that sounds impressive... Mine well I hope she remembers only just a few days now

So-cal · #88 05-05-2008, 07:28

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Originally Posted by dan boy

We dont ...55555

your the most honest guy on the forum. I dont either, i hate that dammit. Life is a b*tch.

dan boy · #89 05-05-2008, 07:38

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Originally Posted by So-cal

your the most honest guy on the forum. I dont either, i hate that dammit. Life is a b*tch.

For instance i spent half an hour chatting up some broad on sat night in Manchester, things were going great until her friend wanted to go somewhere else, i got a kiss on the cheek and a 'see you next week' ...........I didnt tell her that 'next week' i would be in Los ......!!

marc26 · #90 05-05-2008, 09:34

SoCal
on one hand, i cant imagine being only 23 and found LOS because i didnt go until 30. so i dont know if i would have just come home and forget LOS or been obsessed

but on another hand, you are a decent looking kid, there is tons of girls in Vancouver. where do you live in Vancouver?
you are in a good position too because there is so many Asians in Vancouver. they may not be tg's but the Korean and Japanese girls have just as fun personalities. you really should try and meet them

So-cal · #91 05-05-2008, 09:47

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Originally Posted by dan boy

For instance i spent half an hour chatting up some broad on sat night in Manchester, things were going great until her friend wanted to go somewhere else, i got a kiss on the cheek and a 'see you next week' ...........I didnt tell her that 'next week' i would be in Los ......!!

lol, i wish every week was in LOS. Thats the problem. There is a huge contrast between the west and LOS. Hard to find a middle ground.

So-cal · #92 05-05-2008, 10:05

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Originally Posted by marc26

SoCal
on one hand, i cant imagine being only 23 and found LOS because i didnt go until 30. so i dont know if i would have just come home and forget LOS or been obsessed

but on another hand, you are a decent looking kid, there is tons of girls in Vancouver. where do you live in Vancouver?
you are in a good position too because there is so many Asians in Vancouver. they may not be tg's but the Korean and Japanese girls have just as fun personalities. you really should try and meet them

I didnt want to admit it but im in the sticks man. Im in Langley. I remember you said that you would understand my obsession if i was from the sticks.

When you see your frends and other guys trying to out-bling eachother just to get girlfrends then 24 hours later you find yourself in pattaya, well you know what i meen.

The city is way better, i go there when i can. I actually met a nice phillipeno girl in van. Just a one nighter. I know that if i settle close to van then i can definitly find an asian, maybe even a thai.