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18-07-2006, 07:17
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Friends dropping you because of TG!
Just back from LOS. And a wonderful trip that you can read about in the "BM's on Tour" forum. But as I wrote I really just want to take her back home here to Denmark ASAP! I even bought her a ring in Patong, to show her my commitment! And I'm very happy about it!
But back here in Falang-land I told my best friends about it. Most where sceptical, due to the short time we had known eachother, understandable, I would be too, but there was also one, that I know would be very sceptical. A female friend, but someone I considered a very good and close friend. After I wrote the news to her, she contacted me on Messenger. Shortly she said congratulations, asked a few questions and then "Ok, I will not bother you anymore. Please have a good life!! Bye!"  Well I just wonder if that's a semi-normal response to expect if you bring a TG home to Falangland? Rgds, SMF
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18-07-2006, 07:33
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maybe she liked you and was hoping that someday you would become more than friends and now can see that that will not happen and just decided to cash in her chips.
And some people just respond that way to people having a relationship with a BG. Now did you tell her about the BG from the previous tour?
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18-07-2006, 08:06
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I never got any responses like that....all of my family and friends were quite positive.
Maybe this girl is  "keen" on you ???
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18-07-2006, 08:56
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I've been the same rout. Like all relationships they get tested. Actually just got an email from a gorgeous bg I met in Phuket almost a year ago and my head is swimming. Either she has run out of money or really likes me-we'll see.
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18-07-2006, 11:20
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SMF
I think seafox and Mav are right in this instance...I think she had the hots for you and felt that her chances were dashed...did you get this impression from her in the past, that she might be hot for you? If so this is why she reacted so...
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18-07-2006, 11:29
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I think seafox and mav have it right in this instance...maybe she had the hots for you and she felt her chances were dashed...did you ever get the feeling that she was hot for you? and you might have missed it? Or is she not your type and you wouldn't think about that anyway and just wanted to be friends? But she sounds like "a woman scorned" to me.... Marcia
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18-07-2006, 12:52
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Congratulations and good luck!
 I never dared to take the risk and share that with my loved ones actually, so I could say you're (along with some others) a brave guy  Once up on a time during a relationship with a BG there were only 2 people that new about it, in fact my family was and still is convinced I'm still with my old girlfriend who's now one of my dearest friends 
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18-07-2006, 13:01
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Slightly off tack, Dont worry about showing your commitment to her, it should be the other way about that you must concern yourself, e.g. where is she now? On the main topic, hell have to fury like a farang woman's scorn, I think there is always something suspect about male/female friendships, i.e. usually hidden motives G
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18-07-2006, 13:26
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Had first a look at your trip report before writing this.
I might be able to understand some sceptical reactions from friends. You had a 'girlfriend' which relationship broke of to be followed by the next resious 'relationship'. You know eachother a week and you 'commit' yourself to her by buying a ring for het and the wish to take her home. Further. If it is all that serious you should wonder what has more importance to you and why. Your friends at home whom you know for a long time and have good relations with or a girl you met in a bar, spend a week with and do not know much about..... I might understand the cynical reactions... Are you sure this is a serious relationship or is it merely a great memory of a great holiday?
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18-07-2006, 13:34
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I basically only had positive feedback. My closest friend and his girlfriend was sceptical to begin with but we talked quite a lot about it and they were ok with it. After they met her here in Denmark they understood me quite well and liked her a lot. I only had one negative experience. One of my other relatively close friends was being a smartass when I told him. Basically he started lecturing me about how all Thai’s were ******s, how she would cheat me of all my money, that only fat and ugly farangs “bought” a wife from Thailand and all the other stereotype bs. I do enjoy a good discussion, but these statements coming from a guy who has never set foot outside Denmark they kind of loose their validity. I have travelled over most of the world – I have seen the tricks of the trade whereas the only thing my friend has seen is the couch he falls asleep on after he comes home from work. After I told him that there has been no problem. One thing you should think about is what you tell people in regards to how you met her. I know that you wrote in a previous post that you would not hide it and I don’t know if you have already told your friends. However, you should really remember to talk this over with you GF previously, as it can be a tricky one to cope with for you and her. No matter what you tell them everyone will still assume that she was a BG/prostitute, but assuming and knowing are two different things.
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18-07-2006, 14:08
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Dear Marcia, Actually she we used to have a semi-relationship. You know mostly casual sex. But when I wanted more than that, she broke it of. Instead we developed a very good friendship, but with no sex! Several times I had suggested her to "expand" the relationship, but she didn't wanna do this, as we both know it would never work in the long term. So I really don't think it's a "woman scorned". But on the other hand then I know that one of her previous boyfriends, today also is living with a TG. And I know she hates him with all it takes. So maybe she's just a case of TG hater! Rgds, SMF
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18-07-2006, 14:11
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Well first of all, I had told nobody about the first one I met on my last trip. Because I in my heart knew it merely was a memory of a great holiday! With Poo it's very different! Although of cause I never know if it really goes as far as I right now wish it will. Rgds, SMF
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18-07-2006, 14:15
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Hi Michael, I agree. Well I've not been hidden anything. But I've not told them the whole thing either. I've told she moved from Bangkok to Patong because the income was much better. And then I've basically left themselves to guess... Rgds, SMF
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18-07-2006, 16:24
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I guess you are referring to my post about telling people about your GF's previous occupation correct? I agree 100% with you Frode and I have also told my very best friend and his girlfriend about my wife’s previous profession. I have also told my parents and sister about this. All the people I have told are 100% ok with this - after all it is my choice and just because a girl had to work as a BG that doesn't make her a bad girl. For me it was my luck that my wife worked as a BG because otherwise I would never have met her. However, one thing I do regret was that when I told them this it was after my November trip – second time I had been with her. I kinda knew that this was something special for me and therefore decided to come clean so to speak. I did not ask or talk with my wife about this before and that was a mistake from my part. I should have asked her what she felt about that before, but I didn’t. That was the reason why I wrote this to Erik so he can avoid any problems. In regards to people assuming she was a BG I didn’t mean my friends – maybe that wasn’t clear, but I mean most other people that you meet (who are obviously mentally challenged). Naturally if one of my friends made derogatory comments etc. about my wife that would be the last time I saw him/her – no question about that. Maybe the last thing my friend would see would be my foot in his face.
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18-07-2006, 16:54
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Friends dropping you because of TG?
Not this far but ivé dropped friends because they incist hanging out with there falang G/F´s
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18-07-2006, 17:10
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Friends support you through thick and thin (though they can express thier opinion or displeasure.. They still root for you)..
That said 1 week relationships.. Second one in a row of falling immediately.. Sorry but it sounds like you are very keen to commit.. Is that her in your avatar pic ?? Looks like someone I have seen.. Maybe post another pic (clear face and clear physical.. Nothing lewd) so I can see clearer.
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18-07-2006, 17:29
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You are right, and I must just realize that she was not the friend I thought she was... As to the short period of our relationship, then yes of cause that's something I have thought about too. But sometimes you just know when you have the real feelings. The other GF I had in LOS never gave me that real feeling... Yes it's her in my avatar, you can see more pictures of her in my trip report... Rgds, SMF
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18-07-2006, 17:33
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Well I didn't tell them exactly what she was working with in Patong, just that she worked here. But I have, after your advise talked to her about it, and she says it's ok that I tell my friends and family that she worked as a bar girl, she is not ashamed over it... Rgds, SMF
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18-07-2006, 19:32
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OK.. But whats your position or understanding of the situation.. Has she stopped working ?? Or is that ok ??
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18-07-2006, 20:24
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She has stopped working yes and will be going home to Bangkok Thursday. That's fine with me. I hope to be able to get her a turist visa for Denmark for August. And then we take it from there...
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18-07-2006, 22:01
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