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24-10-2006, 14:49
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Thanks for all the comments ! I have read and analised all your replies and in fact, it always amazes me how a thirth party person can put you back where you belong...... with your feet on the ground !
Last night I couldn't catch sleep so I tried to observe my situation like I was a thirth person. I realise I have one great girl whom is a doctor, only 24 yo herself, who doesnt want to spent me a nickel on extra costs ( she actually spents more money on me then me on her [except for the planetickets etc...] ). So I was thinking why o why do I even doubt about my relationship and going with that BG. Then I had the greatest idea of calling a Thai girl I know in Chiangmai. She is a psychologist and might understand whats going on in my mind. So we talk for about 1 hour and we concluded that it might be the location (Mae Sot isn't my favourite place in Thailand  ), the time alone when my gf is gone to work and the sudden rush of attention I got when I was in Bangkok. So after a long sleep I finally concluded that my relationship is not worth giving up for a short time that I know this new BG. Eventhough this BG is totally my type from looks, she might eventually not be whom I suspected she was. One thing that made me confused was that she asked me to buy her a ring if I wanted her to believe that I would come back and I didn't lie to her... Now.. I personally have never heard my GF ask me for any money, ring or what so ever ! Conclusion: Stay with my GF, love and care her like she really deserves and try to make our life a little more exciting then it is now. Althought there might always be this little regret about letting the BG girl go, i'm pretty sure now that I'm going for the right choice. Thanks RED |
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24-10-2006, 16:09
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Me to. Problem is I have names and numbers but can'place them... how did they look like, where did I meet her...  |
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24-10-2006, 16:22
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Red, not sure you made the best (for the moment), but certainly the wisest decission. I think if you brake up with your doctor, and the novelty of your BG infatuation wears of, the you will regret what you did. I know, been there many times.
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24-10-2006, 19:14
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Cynical.... moi???
Red Attack,
I don't mean to sound like your dad but let me tell you this (needless to say, feel free to tell me to F O if you feel like it!).... You're 24.... in my very humble opinion you shouldn't be in a stable relationship, period. You should be playing the field at your age, not be in a stable relationship (whether with the doc or the BG). Good luck mate |
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24-10-2006, 19:35
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im still playing the field at 41!!! long may it continue! |
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24-10-2006, 20:24
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well, i am not as "senior" as you, so i tend to remember the girls for a little while. only joking!! what i do is i try and give them names, for example: if i meet a girl that starts with a G, ill put her down as "Geir" |
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24-10-2006, 20:52
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Couldn't do that. Seeing a girls phone numer and putting Geirs face on it...  I have a palm organizer and now try toinclude some more info, like: somestimes works in Singapore, gives good massage (interesting for an afternoon session in the room), sister of, gogobar number... |
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24-10-2006, 21:11
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Here's my 2-penneth:
You're a young guy, I'm sure the BG does like you, and there's a good chance that if you moved to BKK and got it on with her properly she would stop workn and just be your girlfriend for however long- she'd have it pretty easy and wouldn't have to work etc ect But would you be able to get it out of your head ever that your first liaisons with her were paid for? I think not. And it not only means that you'll find it hard to see her as an equal, but she won't see you in the right light either- she'll see you as a financial provider. It's tough though, cos from the sound of it she does really like you. I had a similar thing when was over recently- I'm 25, slim, not particularly ugly- of course hot birds are gonna jump at the chance to meet guys like that opposed to 40+ yr old fatties (sorry to all you 40+ fatties reading this, but you can't kid yourself that this isn't true). But at the end of the day you only live once, so if the Dr isn't really working out then you may as well go for it, and whatever happens use it as a learning experience, even if it turns out badly. |
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24-10-2006, 21:25
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Yeah Red Attack, then in 20 years you can swill beer on the bar stool with all the other 40+ fatties (inc. yourself) with a load of experience talking about the one that got away...  The TanMan Last edited by TanMan : 25-10-2006 at 04:12. Reason: better context |
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24-10-2006, 22:17
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25-10-2006, 04:05
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I suspect Tanman was being sarcastic ........ RedAttack, Right decision IMO, Doc sounds like a good proposition - maybe you can discuss with her a move away from Mae Sot to somewhere more civilised - Chiang Mai? As most of your posts are about 'playing away' I'm guessing you have really experienced the 'nightlife' in LOS, while it's a lot of fun it really isn't worth giving up your relationship for a few days of fun with a ******. Good luck! |
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25-10-2006, 05:12
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25-10-2006, 07:19
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Hey Gee Spot....l think this geezers aving a crack at you
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25-10-2006, 07:54
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well I am over 40 and had no problems meeting lots of ladies. and not all of us are 40 and fat, some of us are big boned or have large frames.55555 But my wallet is fat so in the long run don't be too surprised if she picks me or someone like me over a younger, less financially stable man. Some of the ladies might want that instead of partying with someone there own age, they can do that with a thai guy. And some of us can still get it on. so as we say, it is up to her, not u, who she picks. If she has had an older BF who treated her well and spent money on her than she might prefer that. Or had a younger guy jerk her around.
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25-10-2006, 12:41
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Having a good-looking girl with a good job, and then the occasional reason to spend a few days in BKK, partying there w/ a BG, is my idea of the ideal situation! So don't stress out! Enjoy life! And when next you visit BKK, you might even want to give that sweetie a ring(on her cell phone, not her finger!  ).You're sitting in the catbird seat, so what's to complain about? 
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25-10-2006, 13:02
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Reminds me of a guy I know who is over 50, and last year when he came back from LOS, he showed me pics of the girl he spent the last month there with. She was 23 and gorgeous, and loved being with him. He treated her well, and she also told him that she did not like younger guys. My friend certainly looks his age, and has a few pounds extra around the middle, but does a lot of physical labor and is a pretty energetic sort. Why I thought of him is the part of Red's story where he said she cried whne he left her. When my friend showed me the pics, he also told me how they spent the last night together, and didn't sleep all night, because he was leaving in the morning. After they made love, she cried the rest of the night. In the morning, when it drawing near the time when the taxi to the airport would arrive, she got down on her knees, threw her arms around his legs, and begged him not to leave her. When the desk called to say the taxi had arrived, he had to tear himself loose from her, as she could not let go. Cynic that I am, I thought, "She was sure sorry to see her 2000 Baht/day paycheck leave. With that, her gogo salary, her cut of the 600 Baht/day BF, and commission on drinks, and him paying all expenses, plus gifts, she had a pretty good month." But, in fairness to him, I must say that he is one of the most charming guys I have ever known, of any age, which puts him head and shoulders above most guys, young or old, in that department. In his day, he was a real ladies' man(he was my neighbor 20 yrs ago), and the farang GFs he had then were mostly models(he did production work for a fashion designer in those days). He still knows how to chat up a girl better than anyone I have ever seen.
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25-10-2006, 21:13
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Then you really dont know Thailand.. I know loads of guys in the 40 - 50 group with 20 year old GF's.. And by that I mean LT, live in, not screwing around, partners.. Thai women value the stability that an established financially solvent guy can give them long term. They are less likely to get confused like the OP the first time some new skirt walks past and even if they do stray occasionally will usually do it away from home and in a way so she doesnt lose face. Some young guy, no money, less chance of prospect of being around long term (have to go home to make money), gets all confused the first time he scores new pussy, etc etc etc.. Also in Thailand social systems theres far less age related stigma, its common for an older rich Thai to have his mia noi and mistresses, its known and semi accepted.
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25-10-2006, 21:50
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Yeah Hully,
I think you opened up Pandora's box here. I would say Thai women generally assess men in this order, IMHO: 1. financial security 2. physical appearance 3. personality (i.e. sanook) 4. general health 5. personal habits (i.e. drink, smoke) 6. monogamy 7. weight 8. age Note the last two, which is why you have a lot of happy punters in Thailand young and not so young, thin and not so thin. The TanMan |
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You really don't understand women do you? Not just Thai women but alot of women prefer the maturity, stability and experience that older men bring to the table. How many times do you see a woman married to a man 10years older or more. All the time. Think they're all wh0res? I'm not just talking about the Anna Nichole Smiths of the world. Fact is older men are better lovers, better company and better providers.
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I am pretty much in agreement with you. Except that I would have to move "sanook" up to 2nd place. I mean, all other things being equal, then looks count for more, but that is only if both guys have an average personality. If one guy is Mr. Charming/Fun, then I think he is going to do better than a very good-looking guy, who is boring. My friend, who I mentioned before, is always smiling, light-hearted, and always has something interesting to say to a woman. May not be interesting to you or I, but he knows what interests women. He once said to me, with a big grin on his face, "I am Mr. Fun." The effect on women is something to behold. 20 years ago he was also an extremely handsome man, so you can imagine what the women thought of him then. Now, altho age has taken a toll, and he does not have the looks he did then, he still has a great smile, bright blue eyes, and, most importantly, still operates with the same confidence and ease, when in the company of a beautiful woman, that he did when he was young and handsome. One other thing. Monogamy is very high on the list of many TGs, also.
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27-10-2006, 21:09
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