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23-10-2006, 22:17
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I've done it... now what?
Ok for those who read my other posts, i'm just back from a 3 day stay at BKK.
Let me tell you first that I have a Thai GF whom I don't have to support since she is a doctor.. (you need this info later) Since I got back from BKK i'm a total mess, my feeling's messed up, just don't know what to think or to do. I met this cute girl at Nana BTS station, she smiled at me, i smiled back. She got herself a BTS ticket and tricky as she is, put a paper with her phonenumber between a door so that I could pick it up. I picked up the paper and sent her a message. It was until the next day that I heard something from her. She was very honest with me and told me she worked at a bar on Nana plaza. She asked if I wanted to meet her sometime. I agreed.... That evening we met at nana and she told me that if I waited for her until 02.00am I wouldn't have to pay any barfine, just pay her (2000baht LT). I'm 24 she's 23, we have a lot of fun, I even have a conversation with her friendsm i make them laugh, she makes me laugh.. it all seems like she really likes me ! Because my hotel charges another 500 baht if you bring in a girl she asked me if I wanted to come and stay at her room near Don Muang. So we ended up in her room, having a great time. That same night she told me she felt really good when I kissed her, she never felt like this before.. I was flattered and started to really like her. The next day we went to Pantip, MBK and ended up again in her room. I told her from the beginning I had a GF. She said she didnt want me to go and if I wanted I could be her BF, she even cried when I left with the bus to Mae Sot. In the bus I got 2 messages saying she can't wait for me to be back and that she couldn't sleep now knowing I was gone. That night, she didn't went 'working'. One of her messages stated "Please don't hurt me, do come back for me... i miss you so much" Now I don't have to tell you that I fell in love with her... eventhough I have a GF that is very nice, a doctor and isn't in for the money.. Morron as I am I can't stop thinking about that girl and I called her saying I missed her too.. She actually made me believe she is falling in love with me too.. What should I do guys? I honestly don't know.. can I trust her? She told me she would quit the barscene right away if I would come to Bangkok to stay with her together. She knows i'm financially not as stable as older farangs. Is my 3.5 years of relationship with my GF worth giving up for this bargirl? Can't stop thinking about her ...  |
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23-10-2006, 22:28
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Why are you so into this girl after a couple of nights compared to your GF? What has she given you that your GF hasnt?
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23-10-2006, 22:38
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I dont know man, thats probably why i'm all mess now.. she just makes me crazy.. can't stop thinking about her.. the sex we had the day after wasn't just sex, it had alot of passion. Maybe it's her smile or the way she flirts with me. |
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23-10-2006, 23:06
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Why jeapordize a long term relationship with a TG doctor (no support) for a gogo dancer (full support)? I know it about more than money, but I think you are just in a "lusty", and therefore temporary state of mind. In time, it will pass. Go with the doc!
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23-10-2006, 23:17
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I agree with TanMan, you experienced some new pussy from the old one and like having the same breakfast day after day it felt great to have a change! As your only young tho and been with the Dr since you were like 21, not suprised...
I think you should stick with the Dr however!
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24-10-2006, 00:28
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oh dear oh dear....i've had all this and more. had one even take me to the airport with big tears rolling down her cheek! "you not forget me" etc...etc...etc...etc.. my advice for what its worth...thai girls are very sweet and are lovely company...but dont take them too seriously. most of the time its all a big game. i love playing it thats why i return every year! |
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24-10-2006, 00:45
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to be honest, and in not slagging you, but i dont think you can compare a 24yr old kid to a 41yr old man's experience |
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24-10-2006, 00:49
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Agree completely, which is the irony of the situation. He'll get sound advice from older BM's and probably not take it. I know at 24, I wouldn't have. Made too many mistakes to count on me digits. The TanMan |
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24-10-2006, 01:24
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were I you I'd go on with the doc < as long as you don't have any problem with here,that you are not telling us, cause' it is just your business>as far as I can remember i have been supporting women incluted my ex wife since I was 19/20 yo funny to tell the only girl I didn't support was a thai girl who I had a 2 years relationship with.said that, i will tell you what I think.there is nothing better than a woman able to support herself,believe me your life will be a lot easier.
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24-10-2006, 01:31
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I hear you guys...
but damnit she cried again on the phone after I asked her if I can really trust her.. Maybe i'm just not experienced enough but something tells me there is a big difference if a young thai girl meets a young farang guy, no? I mean.. (no offence) but a 50 yo with a 20yo, comooon.. but she's only 1 year younger.. i'm just thinking, would she? What if? Then again, if I screw up with my GF now I know I dont have to come back  |
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24-10-2006, 01:31
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well, i actually meant that a young bg might have more "genuine" feelings towards a 24 yr old kid than a 41yr old man |
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24-10-2006, 02:15
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you right of course. ..god...wish i was 24 again!  |
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24-10-2006, 02:31
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Maybe you don't have to decide either way just yet. Work both angles for a little while? Be careful what is in your phone records though. I would memorize the BG's phone number and delete call records to/from her or have your phone on lock at all times. You wouldn't want the doc GF to find anything. The TanMan |
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24-10-2006, 02:51
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i just give them fake names in my phonebook |
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24-10-2006, 02:52
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Hi Marc, I strongly disagree here. As you know, love makes blind, even worse - a very fresh love feeling makes very blind. I know of a very strong character in her 60th who had it all, a divorce, finding back into her life, promising herself not to do it again, just to fall in love head over heels again - Afterwards wondering, what the heck happened to me again ;-) Love knows no borders as it knows no age limitations. I bet if you walk around the next corner it could happen to you and you loose control ! At that moment, past experience will just be that, past experiences. Feelings rule ! And that's what makes life interesting and not as predictable. So, still no adivise from me for the redman in this case other then ... I don't know, you will make your decision, it's very though doing it against a strong heart feeling unless you're a computer doing risk assessments  Good luck !
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24-10-2006, 03:38
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yeah, but i think to be realistic, a 23yr old girl is going to have more in common and more attraction to a 24yr old guy than even just a 34, which i am i believe that my gf truly loves me, but i also think i was just a customer for awhile and that the love came after |
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24-10-2006, 03:51
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ah, now I see what you ment. I completly misread this before. You mean a 23 old girl will have more attraction to a 24 year old guy than to a 41 old one. Okay, I can see this happening more naturally. I was more on the path of loosing control of your feelings despite age or experiences (or "never again" promises to one self), which in my opinion can happen to anyone in every stage of life. Shit, what to do now with all this ? ;-) Poor OP who started this thread. But, one question Red... You only mentioned that your current GF is a doctor and does not ask for money. Well, what does that really mean ? Is a doctor a better person than a carpenter ? I don't think so. She doesn't ask for money, but well, if that's all and there are no other strong feelings, it's meaningless, too. So, a bit more background on your current relationship would help to further discuss this if you want to talk about it
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24-10-2006, 04:03
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thats a very good point about what makes a better person but as a sponsor, it can wear on you the money i give my gf i can easily afford, so its not the amount it's her irresponsibility that drives me nuts the "money in her pocket spent" rationale or the fact tht if she knows something has to be paid for 3 months before, she lets me know a day before it is due |
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24-10-2006, 04:18
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...yep, money in relationships is always a hot topic. I would say, if you can't change it at this very moment of time and (most importantly) it's not the amount which is hurting you...it's not that bad after all, don't let it drive you nuts ;-) You can fix this later together.
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24-10-2006, 04:27
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I find it bloody amazing that the OP has to even ask the question. Only one answer, stop ringing the BG. You say you live in Thailand, you shuld know what the score is.
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24-10-2006, 04:34
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...ground control to Major Tom |