nay-sayers, skeptics and pundits

[mbrinkma]

Phuket-1998. Met Kay (says she is from Chiang Mai) at the Honey bar in Patong. 38 years old...just like me. Looks 25. First night I ate some crap from a street vendor and got sick as a dog. Couldn't leave the hotel. For 2 days, Kay took care of me, bringing me ice candy etc until I recovered and could hit the town again. Methinks, this is one great women...especially after all the Thai girls I have met and heard about. Had to leave with my ship, but began planning my next trip to Thailand. Kay agrees to meet me in Bangkok 3 months later. Have the time of my life. Girl can sing Chinese Karaoke like a canary! Brother in law takes us out ( along with 20 or so Thais whom I knew none) to Karaoke restaurant. For 6 hours we drank, ate and sang in a private room. All the while I was expecting to foot the bill for this evening of decadence, but when the check came (12,000 tbh) Brother in law insisted on paying all of it! I took care of the tip...2000thb. After everything I experienced and heard about Thais, I was floored!
Anyway, while stationed in Japan, I see Kay 3 or 4 times a year. Unfortunately, my affinity (as my Dad calls it) for Asian women got the better of me, and I found a full-time Japanese girlfriend (more on Japanese women if anyone is interested). Went back to Thailand to see Kay before committing to said Japanese girl...wanted to make sure I was really in love with Japanese girl! Met Kay in BKK again, but could only think of sushi...knew I was really in love! Flew back to NRT and married Japanese girl.
August 2001. My ship was heading for port call in Phuket. Emailed Kay, and guess who was waiting for me when I arrived....Kay! Had great time, Fantasea, Karaoke, Etc. Told her I married a Japanese girl...she was non-plussed, but tolerant. Fornicated once...not the same, I wasn't into it..actually I was deep into it but it didn't feel right being married and all (reading this, Cadia?) So, sent her on her way, with blessings for her family and a few thousand baht (she had never asked me for a satang!)
4 months later Osama and Friends decide they want to wake the sleeping giant and fly airliners into NYC. Next day I get an email from Kay: " I'm so sorry to what happened to your country hope you and your family are ok" This is an exact quote. Kay spoke no English. She had this email translated into English just so she could send it to me.
Anyone who thinks Thai girls are just in it for the money needs to keep looking...there are plenty that are Jai Dee....even bar girls! Kay was a gem, and anyone who knows her will be a better person for it!

Mark

[JayBee]

Nice story, mbrinkma. Thanks for sharing.

Being neither a naysayer nor a skeptic, I suppose I'm a bit of a pundit, being known to express my opinions on occasion. But I'm willing to admit that my views are shaped by my small world of experience, my observations, and my limited capacity for ****ysis. And I'm eager to learn what I can from others.

I have friends who stick to the "Only in it for the money" credo, and I've met BGs myself who tend to make me believe it. The ones I caught in so many lies. The ones who clearly were after my money. The "Buy me a cell phone. Buy me a gold necklace. Buy me a motorbike" ones. The "I love you too much, dahlink" ones. But then I've met others. One girl named Tuk from Khon Kaen was maybe the sweetest person I've ever met in my life. Had a heart of gold, couldn't pass a beggar on the street without digging into her little purse to pull out 20 Baht. Good thing she didn't live in BKK. She didn't seem to ever question the things that happened to her . She was like a leaf in the wind of life. Whatever happened, she just accepted it. God knows she put up with a lot from me, but never gave me a bad time about it. I can't believe that she was only in it for the money. She never quoted a price. Never bargained. Never asked for money, although I gave her some every day. The last day I saw her when I gave her 1700 Baht, I thought she might cry, she was so surprised.

But when you read stories like what happened to Butterfly Blonde, you know that you have to be careful. And you understand why some guys swear by the Butterfly rules to never get too involved. Then you hear from Nicke, Geespot, Heywood, Geir, Skorpionen and others and you hear good stories about good people.

One time in Chiang Mai, feeling somewhat confused about it all, I said to my masseuse May, a woman I would trust with my life, "May, they say that Thai women only care about the money. What is the truth, what do you think?" She replied, "For myself, the money is not important. I am not afraid to work hard, and I will always be able to take care of myself. I only want love. But I am not like most Thai women. For most, the truth is that you cannot separate love and money. The two things are hopelessly bound together. Unless you were born into poverty, grew up with nothing, watching your parents stuggle all their lives to make a go of it, then you can never fully understand. That is why it is different for farangs, hard for them to understand."

[Oggy]

"mbrinkma" Good post. As for Japanese girls I married one.... seperated and going back to see her in Mar 07. If you are in Tokyo around then I'll buy you a beer.

[dogblower]

Good post mbrinkma.

[faultytowers]

Why do people reply to a post that is over 2 years old ?????????


.....and from a BM who has not been on line for over a year !!!!!!!

[dogblower]

Never noticed. It popped up in the New Posts list with a spam message. Reported the spam message to the mods and just never realised it was an old post. The spam is gone anyway so the mods were on that one pretty quick.

[K2]

It maybe be an old post with not much feedback ... but always nice to hear a positive story for a change. Like everywhere in the world you find good and bad.

[qing]

I think tis is a positive story. If i read more of this type of stories I will make it a point 2 return 2 LOS

[toz]

nothing wrong with the old ones,you might find a topic that is interesting now but was not before.