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10-02-2008, 18:54
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She Cheated On Me !
Well guys i am pretty well gutted at the moment. Put the story briefly i met a girl in Sharky Bar October 2006, stayed with her the rest of my trip. Before there she had worked in Soi Gonzo so had been round the block and was fluent in English, actually better than any other Thai girl i have met. Before that she worked on the pool tables Aussie Bar.
Within a week of my return to UK she had left Sharky as she said it wasn`t good to work bar. I never asked her to stop bar work, it was her choice although she was obviously seeing me as potential long term boyfriend. She went back to work Aussie Bar. I knew she was taking a big pay cut to stop bar so after about 3 months i offered to help her out, i know, i know. Stupid falang but i felt she was exclusive to me and had her checked out by various sources inc private tec. Over the following 12 months i saw her on 4 trips and took her to Samui, Bkk, phone, necklace, camera, chanel etc etc. She went back to Isaan Jan 2007 and has been there since. I have spoken to her mom and 8 yr old son, calls me papa and despite several pleas i never went there. She worked on the family rice farm, the local family mart and recently the petrol station. Working hard, all good. I hear the chickens, dogs etc so absolutely no doubt she was home. btw divorced from Thai guy 3 years ago ( she is 29 ) We talked of marriage and her coming to UK and ultimately me retiring to Los. Everything was gearing up to applying her visa May 2008 when we have correspondence, bills, phone email etc over 18 months. She always said she was different to other Thai girls, she is actually Thai Chinese hence my avatar of Lucy Lui her double. Prior to my last trip something was not quite right, after i sent extra money for her sons birthday party i never even got a thank you and i had rehearsed my happy birthday in Thai to her son, also at the airport she asked for 10000 baht which i never had on me and she promptly turned on her heels and got a taxi. My 16 journey home was not good  So i went to pattaya alone and partied 24/ 7 and had 12 girls in 14 days. But you know what ? I missed her and wanted her so met up the last 3 days in Bkk and all was good. Getting to the end now, i got a sms from a friend telling me she was seen with a falang in Taipan in Sept 2007. I confronted her and she confessed she had gone back for 3 weeks for holiday to see friends and went with this guy she met in a bar. He gave her 2000 baht and she went with him 3 times. So, why do they do it ? She could have had everyhing and now has lost it all, i told her we`re finished and she says she will kill herself. i`ve posted this on a public forum as a reminder unless you are with her full time in Los or her n with you at your home a long distance relationship is very hard. I liked the few good happy ending storys and thought i had one. Yes i did let her down in Patts but she had already done the dirty on me so i guess we are as bad as each other. Is there anyone brave enough to say forgive her or should i run a hash away from her. I do miss her but am gutted. 
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10-02-2008, 19:39
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So let me understand, she was a virgin when you met her and now she has slept with another man behind your back, so you finished with her. Sorry but just stating the obvious sarcastically.
You've been here loads of times, you know this will most likely happen if you are apart, so your point is what? making other blinkered people see the light?? Make no difference they've all got the 'special' girls.
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10-02-2008, 19:50
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Yeah, what can I say...people cheat...particularly when they are so far away for so long.
To me, what you need to home in on, is the disrespect shown on sons birthday and in particular, the airport scene and the rude demand for 10k!!! I am assuming you arent a monk back in the UK, so whats good for the gander etc... How did you reapproach her after the airport scene???
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10-02-2008, 19:53
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Im not backing the bird by any means but what do you really expect from a young woman if your not around? I think you just have to except where and how you met this bird and just deal with it. If you cant then maybe LOS is not the place for you to be looking for a future wifey.
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10-02-2008, 21:29
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You Partied 24-7.........took 12 Girls.......and You Are A Little Annoyed That She Cheated On You???????
Pot =kettle =black !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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10-02-2008, 23:32
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Sorry to hear how things worked out. Thanks for sharing.
These stories seem to be on here weekly. Maybe these repeated stories will get some people to take off their RTG's or caution others never to wear them. These stories are a good reminder.
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10-02-2008, 23:37
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Don't think a certain Distributer will like this comment  Sorry to hear StaffsShot, after so many visits and month, I can imagine your dissappointment; while it was worth a shot so to say.
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10-02-2008, 23:51
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I was thinking the same thing as I wrote it, but seems like the market for the RTG's will always be there regardless of how many warnings are given.
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11-02-2008, 01:50
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It appears its a race to get the girls out of bar first, then LOS and into your home country before somebody comes up with a better offer first
 Sorry to hear you were let down Staffshot, but I guess you knew this could always happen while she was still in LOS.
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11-02-2008, 02:35
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This is a crisis of overexpectation.
Guy meets a girl in a place where the girls are sex workers. Guy sponsors her and somehow then expects her to turn into a blushing virgin - despite the fact that he himself went on a mongers holiday. Sponsorship buys or guarantees nothing, except contempt. Sorry to be harsh but soooo many guys fall into this trap. Your choice is to have a more realistic expectation of this girl and make friends with her again, or move on.
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11-02-2008, 02:39
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I can understand her going with other men due to you being away(maybe needing money too?) and could probably put that to bed in the relationship, but the way she slighted you on her sons birthday combined with her attitude to cash demand at the airport signals her intentions in the relationship.
Put in your order for RTGs and get yourself back for more fun, best way to get over it!
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11-02-2008, 02:51
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Make friends with her again and get her a visa.
Start a new life in England and forget about the past. You cheated, she cheated, now you are even. Don't talk about visa, do it! F
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11-02-2008, 07:03
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^not exactly even
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she went with 1 guy while you were away, you went with 12 girls in 14 days when she was away. when she's had another 11 falangs then you're even.. although i'm sure she's already had them by now, x2. sad but true she sounded like a nice girl and its a shame it didn't work out - but then this is the killer IMO: Quote:
but just to confirm - was that before or after your man-whoring crusade in pats? 
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11-02-2008, 07:51
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Yes...the one he knows about....probably a plethora of others. But as a few BM's have said....you have gone this far, so maybe forgive and organise the Visa asap. Also send me 3000 baht as l have something that may help you thru this  .
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11-02-2008, 10:31
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If a Thai woman treats you with disrespect over money, I'd pretty much guarantee that the relationship is dead in the water at that time.
Sure she may crawl back and love you again, but that reaction alone is an open book to why she is with you and what she expects. Don't bother going back, she'll never learn the real meaning of what you see in the relationship. Anyway, sounds like you enjoy whoring too much, you're not ready either. Why kid yourself?
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11-02-2008, 11:51
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Mai Chob i stayed faithful to her in UK, when i got back home i asked her why she did that and she said she didn`t want to cry, she said sorry for asking for money so i let it ride but i never forgot it.
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11-02-2008, 11:55
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It seems obvious someone would spill the beans on her, which they did.
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11-02-2008, 11:58
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Alfie she left the bar scene about 15 months ago. A visa and engagement ring was on the way. My mistake was to trust an ex bg
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11-02-2008, 12:00
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Hey IJ she cheated on me first ! Anyway i had to make up for lost time
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11-02-2008, 12:03
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Thanks Roger i knew the danger but she voluntarily went back home to her village. I never asked her to, i couldn`t force that issue. At least she was away from the scene and temptation
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11-02-2008, 12:08
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It was before my crusade. As you say, it was ungrateful behaviour
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11-02-2008, 12:10
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