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05-03-2008, 09:38
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When Will We Learn?
For three years ago, when I was waiting for my tgf to move to Norway, I was invited by a friend of mine to a party at the summerhouse of a friend of him. This friend had a tg staying with him, and they told me she was there on a three month’s tourist-visa and would go back to Thailand the week after. A couple of months later I heard that the same girl had come back to Norway and was now married to the guy. After some time we started to see more of the couple and became friends with them.
He had met the 23 year old girl when he was on holiday in Thailand, and returned to see her several times before he invited her to visit him in Norway. She owned a beauty salon that a former boyfriend/sponsor had bought to her. If I understood it right my friend had paid the landlord what was left of the leasing period, because it could take a long time to sell it and he didn’t want to wait for his girl to come to Norway. As I knew my friend had a normal job with a normal income, and he had to pay for the house, a new car, loan to pay for the beauty salon and pocket money for her, I offered her a job at our hotel to help them out. She did a very good job for us, and I was happy for my wife to have a Thai friend at work. After a year she applied for a job closer to their home and because of good papers from me she got it. After she finished working in our business I heard rumors that she went out at night time a lot with other thaigirls, was a heavy drinker and had affairs with other men. I asked my friend about this and he admitted that they had some problems, and he also told me that all the money she made she kept in her bank account and was only willing to use them on her own private stuff. He had to pay for everything else. After her father died she wanted them to buy a new and more modern home in Bangkok for her mother. I understood it like this would be good for their relationship if she knew her mother had a safe and good life even if her husband had died. They then went to Bangkok and bought a house for about 1.500.000 Baht, and of course in his wife’s name. They loaned the money to buy the house in a bank in Norway, and both of them signed the papers. In September last year I saw his wife and other Thai girls in our nightclub, drinking and dancing, but I didn’t see my friend. After closing time I saw her again outside holding a guy intimately. I told my friend about this and he said he was not surprised because there had been several nights she had been out with friends and not been home before the day after. For about a month ago she came home early Saturday morning very drunk, and he told her to go back to her friends and stay there until she could behave herself. He didn’t want to have a life like this and she had to make up her mind about what she wanted to do. She then went into the bedroom, grabbed some of her private stuff and left the house. He didn’t hear anything from her the next week and she didn’t answer her phone. He called me nearly every day and asked if my wife had heard anything about where she could be, and he was really scared that something had happened to her. Some days later he got the bill for the phone she used, 35.000 Baht for the last month. He called the phone company and told them to email him a list of the numbers that had been called from the phone. He then saw that two days after he spoke with his wife for the last time, the phone had been used in Denmark, and every day after that in Thailand. He told the phone company to close the phone immediately. He told me that he didn’t know how much his wife had saved in her bank account in Norway, but more than 1 million Baht for sure, and now all of it had been transferred to a bank in Thailand. He got a phone call from his wife some days later, and she wanted him to send all her things to Thailand.  He tried to tell her that it was not fair of her to keep all the money for herself, and let him pay the loan for the house in Bangkok. She then only answered him that it was better if he just died. I don’t say who was right or wrong, bad or good in this relationship, but everything I saw my friend did for his wife was good things and I know he still loves her. The other day he said to me: I have been so ****ing stupid! Buddy, we are all stupid when it comes to Thai girls, welcome to the “Stupid Farang Club” !!!!  F
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05-03-2008, 10:11
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A very tolerant man.
We are all pussy whipped but IMHO, he took that to a whole new level. Once broken trust is dead, RTG's dont work and its goodbye. I feel sorry for him but, he should have seen the very obvious signs.
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05-03-2008, 10:29
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yep....moral of the story....
Never allow your TG to get into a position wher her life seems more attractive without you than with you
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05-03-2008, 10:57
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He should have created an iron clad lifetime lease on the house and let the mother live there. He would have had the power then.
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05-03-2008, 11:00
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Sad story...thanks for sharing. The writing appeared to be on the wall and your friend seemed to maybe ignore the signs. Maybe little he could have done, but now he's paying the price.
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05-03-2008, 11:20
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Very sad story indeed ....however the key line in this was as highlighted above. Regardless of the Noweigan guys age this girl is far to young IMHO... We all know Thai girls take a long time to grow out of adolescence, they are very immature and most know nothing about the world. Taking this girl to Norway or any other country at that age is like taking a fish out of water.... Due to their immaturity, the novelty would soon wear off, the weather would p1ss them off, they would miss family and friends so much.... but in the calculating and deceiptful eyes of "some" of these TG's she made it her objection while she was there to fleece this guy for as much as she could, all pre-meditated and planned accordingly.... Never like these stories really p1ss me off, but good to air publically to get the message across to the RTG folk for who jump in head first and think they've met the perfect girl.... Looks can be VERY deceptive..... especially in LOS....... Beware 
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05-03-2008, 11:21
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not a good thing at all.
it,s a pity because it seems to make us think all thai girls seem the same. of course there has to be some tg,s with legit feelings and morals i can only hope i meet one here in oz. even then how do you know what they really are up to??? she only dances????? yeah right  just seems to hard at times and should just keep the feelings out of it and socialize with them as we usually do. at the bar etc and thats it. 
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05-03-2008, 11:54
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Yep......he let her get too big for her boots.....she was obviously taking the P1ss in the end......she had already done over one sponsor at age 23.....should have been alarm bells ringing very early on in the piece. Ok, ok, it were the RTG's fault......they do come with a warning.....just like on the cigarette packets. .
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05-03-2008, 13:43
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Sad story in a way,and not the first time i hear about this.
Al this smal citys up here have a growing Thai community,and when they get in touch with al the others and get that fellow feeling, "you " seems to be less important. But who can blame them. Where is the soul-searching in the first place,when you decide to take a 20 years younger girl out of her total diffrent cultural and climate surroundings,to go with you half away round the world,to sit home and make food for you and watch telly. As i said al this citys have a Thai community where that fellowship with other Thais are very strong
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05-03-2008, 16:09
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Thanks for sharing Frode10. Sad story indeed and I hope your friend recovers from this one... However as I understood, they both signed the bank papers and therefor they both should pay back the money, not just your friend... If they were legally married the mutual assets aquiered during their marriage time should be diveded equally, that also includes the money she had been saving, not so? I assume Norway have similar rules to the swedish ones when it comes to this kind of stuff.
There is no way to say this was the best outcome without sounding insensitive. But I doubt your friend would want to be with a girl that stays with he for neccessity reasons only... And cutting off a girls assets and making her totally dependant so that she doesn't have any chance to leave is not fair to her but mostly not fair to one self. Anyway that's just my opinion...
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06-03-2008, 00:05
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the guy was an absolute idiot, if you ask me
you can love a girl with all your heart and still be sensisble once warning signs like these neon light warning signs he was getting start, the relationship is basically over i sometimes question what these guy's past luck with girls were to put up with any of that kind of stuff. it is almost like they never had a gf/wife and feel just lucky to have a relationship
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06-03-2008, 00:24
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I'm not sure if Thailand is the first place he wants to go right now, or maybe he just want to make that quick trip to put a certain house on fire. F
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06-03-2008, 02:49
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I have a similar story about a good friend and his Thai wife. He has got a little further than the her "not coming home at night" stage, and I can see where its heading.
I'll tell you about it in a couple of weeks 
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06-03-2008, 03:35
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It's threads like this that just re-inforces my attitude of staying a Peesua (Butterfly)
On the other hand, the 'Lurker' (21) has just been shafted (No pun intended or implied) by her sponser (55) who promised her the earth and then fcuked off back to Norway. 20K Baht a month Blah! Pay off her bike - Blah! Build her a house - Blah! Get married Blah! Get Visa for Norway - Blahdy Blahdy Blah etc etc Big tears down the phone etc, "I broken heart Denba!" I do genuinely feel sorry for her. She's not coming back to Kamalalala she says, going to give Chiang Mai a go next. Might bump into her (No pun intended or implied) up there sometime soon. No coffee tables this time, getting too old for that mullarkey, the old knees have gone.
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06-03-2008, 04:03
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The poor bugger!!!! I guess he should have known sh!t was gona hit the fan when she was going out and not comming home, but then again i think when she's doing thats kind of stuff he already lost her....
I wonder if she was going with other blokes for money or just for fun!!!!!
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06-03-2008, 04:19
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i may come off as a hard ass(or maybe not) but if/when my gf is living with me in Canada i would expect her to contribute if she had a job
i am not saying share and would understand her needing to help her family out, but i would want to see some sort of contribution to the cause if she had the funds, as apparently, this girl had i just cant understand anybody reasoning with themselves that it is ok for their partner to be selfish and keep all her own money i really dont understand that at all
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06-03-2008, 05:26
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I was thinking about this sort of situation the other day while trying not to work. What would I do if I married a Thai lady and took her over here.
What I decided, hypothetically of course, is that I would try to get her a job , part-time or what ever. Then take some money of her each pay-day to pay 'the bill's' but put it in to a seperate high-interest account. So when the family ox is sick, or the brother needs a new motorbike etc, I can dip in to that fund to pay for her familys needs. Of course, I aspect for real serious medical needs, I would pay out of my real funds. I would do this until she or her family is trully settled, or she or me a found a better option. Yes, my work is that boring! 
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06-03-2008, 06:56
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My wife was only 21 when she moved to Norway for soon three years ago.
She works in our company and her salary is now about NOK 350K (2 million Baht) a year. She could easily save a lot of money every mont, but instead of that she has started to invest in things she likes and will make her life more exciting to live here in Norway, like a car and a boat she can't drive 55555 She asked me last year if we could buy a boat, because her friends husband had one and she wanted to go with them on tour in the summer. I told her if she wanted a boat she had to buy it herself, and so she did. I have told her from her day one here that I will not pay for anything in Thailand as long as my name is not on the paper. If she wants her son to live here in Norway, then she should focus about whats here and not in Thailand. We will provide for her mother as long as she lives and we will also help her closest family if they are in trouble. But thats it! Even if she is a young girl and I am soon 40 (June this year) I think she has a good life with me here. I try to learn from all the mistakes I read and hear about, and use the wisdom to make my marriage with a young Thai girl to be as good as possible. I also have to thank this forum and all the members for a lot of information that have made it so much easier, so far. Cheers!!! F Pics: My wifes boat which she has no idea how to drive. 
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06-03-2008, 07:17
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Mate that is a beautiful boat... She can drive that to Thailand..... Well you can.....555
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