Life's not so bad

[senor123]

Firstly to put things into perspective, I am not a Thailand veteran ( only 3 tours) but I have seen a bit of life.
Time is the killer. Most Thailand visitors don’t have a lot of time. It takes a bit of effort to meet, romance, and bed a local in 3 to 4 weeks let alone more than one (girl not weeks)! However you can do this with a bar-girl in one night. A friend of mine who lives in Thailand says that there are plenty of locals who want to meet farangs but are scared. If you have the time they have the answer.
So, as I see it, bar-girl relationships are based on short term needs with long term hopes. Of course there are the people who can keep everything in perspective but I suspect most of the BMs are looking for a bit of attention.
However, I have found most bar-girls to be delightful people with no inhibitions and with often surprising ambitions and long term goals.
There a are few of us who are cynical but, in the main, I think most farangs have come away from their experiences in Thailand a lot wiser, happier and perhaps a bit more relaxed.
Why am I writing this? Because I am 58, have a family and a 22 year old Thai girlfriend, and have never been happier in my life.

[Ozskin]

Nice post senior123. Alot of negative posting lately, nice to see a positive post ! I agree with your view on bar girls being a short term need. And yes there are countless delightful young women with dreams and goals like the rest of us.

Also many people posting negatively about the age gap between bar girls and punters, mostly invisible faces very easy to say what you want when no one knows you. At least you have the balls to post a pic of your self and your significantly younger gf.

Im 28, and see nothing wrong with this, as long as both parties are happy, who cares what other people think.

[ancientmariner]

Indeed, age, and perhaps other differences should not matter much when it comes to mutually agreed understanding in the heart, as long as both parties are having a good time and are enjoying each other's company. We as outsiders can hardly make judgement or speculate on a private relationship that we are not part of.

[IRISH JONNY]

Hey Senior123........ive Seen You Around Los.....cant Remember When But Your Face Is Familar...........
Jonny

[senor123]

Mate, saying my face is familiar is probably the nicest thing you can say about it. More like handsomely challenged. Pattaya Oct 2003, Kamala/Patong March 2004, Kamala/Phi Phi Oct 2004.
All the best,
Steve.

[aussie dollar]

Dont worry about the age difference,my wife was 13 years older than me
and I had looks for 11 years in australia.In Thailand it only seems to be farang
people who worry about this "dirty old man" bulls---
Good luck to u and if u fall in love good on ya go for it

[mikegb]

Originally Posted by senor123

Firstly to put things into perspective, I am not a Thailand veteran ( only 3 tours) but I have seen a bit of life.
Time is the killer. Most Thailand visitors don’t have a lot of time. It takes a bit of effort to meet, romance, and bed a local in 3 to 4 weeks let alone more than one (girl not weeks)! However you can do this with a bar-girl in one night. A friend of mine who lives in Thailand says that there are plenty of locals who want to meet farangs but are scared. If you have the time they have the answer.
So, as I see it, bar-girl relationships are based on short term needs with long term hopes. Of course there are the people who can keep everything in perspective but I suspect most of the BMs are looking for a bit of attention.
However, I have found most bar-girls to be delightful people with no inhibitions and with often surprising ambitions and long term goals.
There a are few of us who are cynical but, in the main, I think most farangs have come away from their experiences in Thailand a lot wiser, happier and perhaps a bit more relaxed.
Why am I writing this? Because I am 58, have a family and a 22 year old Thai girlfriend, and have never been happier in my life.

Hi Senior123,

Nice post,

You look like the cat who got the cream in your photo.

Good luck with things in the future. A lot of stories you read on the forum warn of the dangers of a thai relationship, but they are mainly due to experience and seeing/hearing other things.

Its nice to see there are some happy stories out there.

When you next in Thailand?

[senor123]

Hi Mike,

I'm back in Phuket in March 2005. Plan to come about every 3 months or so to check out housing, places to live etc. I am thinking about retiring over there but not working. I will drop in at the MTB next time I am in town. I was a bit busy last time and Kamala holds about everything I need.
I am certainly not naive about relationships and certainly don't let them run my life. Like everything in life, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Steve.

[dude]

Originally Posted by senor123

Hi Mike,

I'm back in Phuket in March 2005. Plan to come about every 3 months or so to check out housing, places to live etc. I am thinking about retiring over there but not working. I will drop in at the MTB next time I am in town. I was a bit busy last time and Kamala holds about everything I need.
I am certainly not naive about relationships and certainly don't let them run my life. Like everything in life, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Steve.

Make sure u keep your wallet close to you

[dawsey]

Originally Posted by senor123

Hi Mike,

I'm back in Phuket in March 2005. Plan to come about every 3 months or so to check out housing, places to live etc. I am thinking about retiring over there but not working. I will drop in at the MTB next time I am in town. I was a bit busy last time and Kamala holds about everything I need.
I am certainly not naive about relationships and certainly don't let them run my life. Like everything in life, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Steve.

hi senor123,
Its nice to see things are working out for you.Age is only a number that some people think rules what you can and can't do in life.Good for you that you have a companion of 22.Hope to see you next March at MTB
Dawsey

[ihavefun]

I LIKE YOUR POSITIVE OUT LOOK SENIOR, KEEP UP THE GOOD ATTITUDE

[butterflyblonde]

I have to agree with everything said already.

Great post Senior & very refreshing to see some positivity around here amongst all the negative bullshit. Handsomely challenged ? I only hope i look half as good at your age & have the means and ability to travel to los and enjoy my life like you do....top man

[Heywood]

Originally Posted by butterflyblonde

I have to agree with everything said already.

Great post Senior & very refreshing to see some positivity around here amongst all the negative bullshit. Handsomely challenged ? I only hope i look half as good at your age & have the means and ability to travel to los and enjoy my life like you do....top man

BB, but what if you already don't look half as good as ole Senior....LOL....Just joking mate....

Senior a few of us will be around in march...look forward to meeting you....always good to meet a person of character...nice post.

[JayBee]

Hi Senor,

Nice post. A few random thoughts!

1) Each of us is a soul. And each has a heart. Everything else is an illusion, looks, age, money, gender, race, nationality. In the middle of the night, when the lights are out and two people lie together, sleep together, dream together, then you know the truth. Sex is only an expression of what we feel. It is the desire to become one with another for fleeting moments to the small extent which we can as human beings. It is showing the other person how you feel. It is an expression of feelings, and it is not the sex that is important but the feelings. And I believe that is true whether it is for two people who are in love or for two people who are just sharing a few hours of thier lives. why not make it the best it can be in either case.

But when you lie with the other person in the dark, if your hearts are open, then all the other superficial bullshit melts away, and the two souls are left to bare their hearts to one another or to hide their hearts from one another, if that is their choice.

If you feel warm feelings for another, then you should show it, and maybe sometimes it even turns to love. If you think the other person is a cheap wh*re and have no respect for her, then that is the feeling that you show her, and that will color the moments spent together.

We are all afraid to let go of our feelings because we have been burned in the past, all of us. And there is always the risk that we will be burned again, whether for money, or pride, or heartaches. And it is the same risk for a farang as it is for a BG, in the respect that we all risk disappoinment and loss of one kind or another.

So we must not be naive. But we ought not be cowards, either!

You are a brave man, Senor, and I commend you for it!

2) You look hellagood for a man your age. Look around! You are in top condition from what I can see and that is something to be proud of. If some of these young studs could see into the future of what they will look like when they are older, they would not be so quick to mouth off to their seniors!

3) Have a blast with your lady in LOS! And I know that I don't need to tell you every day is precious. And that is why in the end you have everything to gain and relatively little to lose.

Enough "mindless chatter!"

JayBee

[Aussiemark]

Good luck to you senior. A fellow Sydneysider wishes you all the best.